When your heart is breaking...
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Looking back, I ate through my heart break...
One day you will wake up and realise that you are going to be fine...until then chin up gal...0 -
I don't know if I can contribute much more than what many of the posters have already said. Allow yourself tears and comfort yourself with the beauty around you -- a favorite friend, a bike ride, a silly movie, if you have nieces or nephews, young cousins -- give them your time -- and you will get so much in return. There is nothing like a child to mend a broken heart.0
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There are actual studies that prove that emotional pain follows the same pathways as physical pain. It hurts! It's so hard and everyone who has responded to you has been through it. Do what you need to do each and everyday like you always do, concentrating on your work or all the other things you were doing and put your energy into that. Be kind to yourself, it won't always feel this bad! I promise:flowerforyou:0
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bump because I'm broken hearted for now & I don't know what to do to stay strong & until now I feel bad about it
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First, I buck up and set new goals.
Second, I get real about the nature of the relationship, and resolve to just let it go while seeing if there are lessons to be learned.
Third, I start to consider what other doors will open now that this one is closed. Nature abhors a vacuum.
Forth, I set time aside to work through the grief and pain, then LET IT GO!
And finally,
I GET EVEN!0 -
When you heart is breaking join a fitness club or some kind of fitness activity lesson where you can meet other people and have fun getting fit, and getting passionate about it with all your heart. Perhaps if you forget about your affairs and concentrate on exercise, the other matters of the heart get solved once you reach your goal
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When you heart is breaking join a fitness club or some kind of fitness activity lesson where you can meet other people and have fun getting fit, and getting passionate about it with all your heart. Perhaps if you forget about your affairs and concentrate on exercise, the other matters of the heart get solved once you reach your goal
That's a good idea, some classes with some other people would be a nice little thing to do, meet some new people and get going in that sense. Will help with your goals and your heartbreak! Could incorporate the running and join a running club or something?0 -
"how do you stay mentally tough?"
Sometimes you can't. Just accept your feelings....accept them and let them teach you whatever it is you need to be taught. Does that make sense?
Remember: you don't always need to be 'mentally tough' !0 -
Not sure if anyone else said this... but decide your heart deserves to heal quickly. Treat yourself the way you'd treat a dear friend, sister or daughter.
Also, choose to see eating well and exercising is helping you to heal. You are properly nourishing yourself with healthy food to heal. The exercise is a great way to get out the angst/hurt... imagine every drop of sweat is a little bit of that hurt melting away.
Let the pain motivate you for positive change for you. Make that be the purpose of you having to go through with the hurt. It is what motivated you to make some solid changes for a happier life.0 -
...how do you stay mentally tough?
Gurl, I need this answer, too. Yesterday was rough for me (emotionally), and I felt it immediately in my food choices. I really had to force dinner upon myself and a snack to make my calorie goal. Not sure today will be any better.0 -
Let it fuel your journey. It motivated me to want to finally do something for myself and I really enjoyed exercising and eating properly because with all the chaos around me, I had something beautiful that I was doing for me. Makes you really proud of yourself especially as you start to reach your mini goals. While your reaching your physical goals you're also reaching your emotional goals
AND Exercising gives you natural "feel good" hormones, so bring on the feel good!!:drinker:
My thoughts exactly! And keep busy. Before you know it, you'll be stronger all the way around! Sending healing thoughts your way!0 -
I agree. Let it out. Loudly, violently and find someone awesome you can vent to.0
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...how do you stay mentally tough?
When I have really tough times, I actually use exercise to drive me. Exercise is a great stress reliever! (kick boxing especially) Also, try writing everything out, no matter how you feel it would sound to someone;) The best medicine can be time with friends, having dinner, dancing, or drinks-:)0 -
Seriously? There's actually an overeaters anonymous? Wow, didn't know that! Sounds great! Personally I find exercise a good cure xwhen my hearts breaking! XNice question:::::::Which deserves an answer.
As I am a food addict/emotinal eater, I have struggled for so many years while destroying my health....
Now, I am in recovery, one day at a time, at peace with myself and life as it happens....since 3/22/11....That's when I joined Overeater Anonymous.
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i didnt try to stay tough. i cried all i wanted. XD. you just have to choose to do the right thing for yourself anyway.
I agree-being tough is great sometimes, but a good cry/yell is not all that bad either!
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Currently broken and this is how I deal
Cry alot
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drink ...not recommended0 -
Focus and dont' sweat the small stuff. Avoid the alcohol and drugs. They do nothing. Don't attempt to bandaid the problem. Work through it and resolve it for good.
Best of luck.0 -
As I have gotten older (yes - this is what 55 looks like & I don't photograph particularly well) I hav found that it gets easier and easier to "compartmentalize" and recognize that there are other people in my life who really depend on me to "show up," give it all I've got, and "be there" for them. It helps me to realize that there are many kinds of Love and that even if I cannot sustain a relationship with "him," I still have a lot to give the other people in my life, the people who would never DREAM of hurting me. I am so sorry you are going through this! As you can probably tell, I am right there with you....:flowerforyou:
^^^ awesome answer!0 -
Kidnap him, lock him in the basement, and dry shave all his body hair with a dull razor!!! Yea, I hold some major bitterness!!0
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You do not stay tough. Allow yourself to break down and cry your eyes out. Tears have a magical power of healing. They soothe the soul, help you breathe, and even though your heart may be shattered into a million pieces, it is tears that help you survive. Let yourself be vulnerable and let someone, anyone, be a rock you lean on.0
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First, I buck up and set new goals.
Second, I get real about the nature of the relationship, and resolve to just let it go while seeing if there are lessons to be learned.
Third, I start to consider what other doors will open now that this one is closed. Nature abhors a vacuum.
Forth, I set time aside to work through the grief and pain, then LET IT GO!
And finally,
I GET EVEN!
OMG!!!! Lol... Obsessed with this post!!!! 0 -
You do not stay tough. Allow yourself to break down and cry your eyes out. Tears have a magical power of healing. They soothe the soul, help you breathe, and even though your heart may be shattered into a million pieces, it is tears that help you survive. Let yourself be vulnerable and let someone, anyone, be a rock you lean on.
stop being such acrybaby! LOL0 -
...how do you stay mentally tough?
If the Giants beat the Patriots, I will need a hug.....0 -
You do not stay tough. Allow yourself to break down and cry your eyes out. Tears have a magical power of healing. They soothe the soul, help you breathe, and even though your heart may be shattered into a million pieces, it is tears that help you survive. Let yourself be vulnerable and let someone, anyone, be a rock you lean on.
What if you don't have anyone? What if you're all alone?
My heart is broken, I've cried so much, I can't believe I have any tears left. I'm just going through the motions. No one to lean on.
I don't feel like this is soothing or healing.
Yesterday I said today I would pick myself up. Today I said tomorrow. Hopefully, I will tomorrow.0 -
You must have never been heartbroken.0
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...how do you stay mentally tough?
If the Giants beat the Patriots, I will need a hug.....
You must have never been heartbroken.. and the Giants will beat the Patriots. Here's a hug!
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Read something inspiring and motivational everyday. Write down why the situation was not a good one for you and what you look forward to in the future and put it somewhere where you can look at it when you feel weak.0
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...how do you stay mentally tough?
If the Giants beat the Patriots, I will need a hug.....
One hug coming up around 10:00 tomorrow.0 -
Keeping yourself busy with good things and good thoughts. Intaking all the positivity you can take in. It helped me get through a broken heart.0
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Just keep getting up everyday doing your routine. One day you will wake up and won't feel it anymore.0
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