HELP please! I'm SO upset!

OK. First of all - breathe. This is why I quit weighing! That scale has the power to impact not only your motivation but how you feel about every aspect of your life! Stay off that evil thing for awhile and after that, only step on the scale once every few weeks or even once a month.

As far as the 5 pounds go - you are in control. Your post states exactly why it's there. It's almost completely from those random fluctuations we all have and the rest is stress and a change of eating habits. Those measly 5 pounds will fall off once you get back on track with your good exercise and eating habits. So force yourself to get back on track. It's really that simple.

Life will always have its stressors. That's just life. And although I'm sure you're feeling a lot of pressure with the apartment situation, nothing you described is the end of the world and it isn't anything you can't work through. Just do your best to get through it and don't let the stress consume you and cause to to sabotage your healthy habits.

Now, for the boyfriend. You're not going to like this and I apologize in advance, but he sounds like a TOOL! You are gorgeous and I'm sure a wonderful person and at 155, you are not fat by any standards unless of course you're 4 feet tall. To say to someone "i won't be with you if you're fat" is a rude, thoughtless, just plain ****ty thing to say. I would say good-bye to him but if that's not an option you should tell him what a hurtful insensitive pig he is.

Just my two cents. Hang in there. You're OK!

OK. First of all - breathe. This is why I quit weighing! That scale has the power to impact not only your motivation but how you feel about every aspect of your life! Stay off that evil thing for awhile and after that, only step on the scale once every few weeks or even once a month.

As far as the 5 pounds go - you are in control. Your post states exactly why it's there. It's almost completely from those random fluctuations we all have and the rest is stress and a change of eating habits. Those measly 5 pounds will fall off once you get back on track with your good exercise and eating habits. So force yourself to get back on track. It's really that simple.

Life will always have its stressors. That's just life. And although I'm sure you're feeling a lot of pressure with the apartment situation, nothing you described is the end of the world and it isn't anything you can't work through. Just do your best to get through it and don't let the stress consume you and cause to to sabotage your healthy habits.

Now, for the boyfriend. You're not going to like this and I apologize in advance, but he sounds like a TOOL! You are gorgeous and I'm sure a wonderful person and at 155, you are not fat by any standards unless of course you're 4 feet tall. To say to someone "i won't be with you if you're fat" is a rude, thoughtless, just plain ****ty thing to say. I would say good-bye to him but if that's not an option you should tell him what a hurtful insensitive pig he is.

Just my two cents. Hang in there. You're OK!

^^^^^This! You need to lose his @**. He never should say something like that too you.

I have to agree with what's been said--for YOURSELF, get back on track, grab a cooler and put your healthier foods in for bringing along with you rather than hitting fast food joints. You should see a change pretty quickly.

As for your boyfriend, my first thought? If my husband said that to me it'd be a prelude to him picking up shattered teeth with broken fingers. I MAY be joking. Not sure, because he's never said anything like that to me, even though he's seen me go from a size 7 to a size 28. I'm hoping your boyfriend didn't mean what he said, but it's in your best interest to make sure before you sign anything. If a man stays with you for your looks, you'll lose him no matter what you do, even if you stay svelte and slim, because the years happen and things migrate south no matter what. A guy who would leave the woman he says he loves because she gained weight needs a blow-up doll, not a woman.

I'm sorry you're going through this. It's no help to be told to relax, but that's what you've got to try to do.

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Now, for the boyfriend. You're not going to like this and I apologize in advance, but he sounds like a TOOL! You are gorgeous and I'm sure a wonderful person and at 155, you are not fat by any standards unless of course you're 4 feet tall. To say to someone "i won't be with you if you're fat" is a rude, thoughtless, just plain ****ty thing to say. I would say good-bye to him but if that's not an option you should tell him what a hurtful insensitive pig he is.

Just my two cents. Hang in there. You're OK!
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What she said...^.^

What freaks me out the most is my BF has said "If you were fat, we wouldn't be together".... so I'm concerned I'm going to lose him on top of all of the **** I've been going through lately, & I'm pretty sure he's the best thing that's ever happened to me. He laughs when I say I've gained a bit... but NOW? You can actually SEE it.

I'd say to him 'If YOU continue to say a**hole remarks like that, I won't be here AT ALL!!". Lose the weight for yourself, no one else. If you think you have to lose it for him to stay happy with you, you're in for a world of hurt. You'll never think you're good enough. YOU are the best thing that has happened to you. Don't let someone make you feel unworthy from harsh words.

Your boyfriend needs a penis punch. Toss him out along with your scale!

yea... gonna have to agree with everyone else -- the BF sounds like a tool and no one needs that in their life regardless of their physical appearance or state... relationships should lift you up not tear you down...

Ditch the boyfriend, and I am talking from experience because it is more complicated when you marry the shallow ................... Hormones, stress ect play a part on weight loss/gain and ultimately we all want to be loved for who we are and not on appearances.

Over the past couple of weeks, I've been super busy, And broke... I'm not working.

That means, that since I've been out of work... I've actually put on 10lbs!

What freaks me out the most is my BF has said "If you were fat, we wouldn't be together".... so I'm concerned I'm going to lose him on top of all of the **** I've been going through lately, & I'm pretty sure he's the best thing that's ever happened to me.

What do I do about all this stress & weight gain? HELP!

I'm hoping "If you were fat, we wouldn't be together" was his reassuring way of saying "Sweetheart you're not fat at all". If it wasn't then he is not the best thing that has ever happened to you and you need to decide if you want to be with such an *kitten*.

I understand the stress thing. I gained a stone prior to joining MFP when I moved countries (I'm also jobhunting and its such hard work - a full time job in itself). Its not easy but the stress will die down and you can get back to focussing on you.

Try and pick healthier options for takeout if you have to have it. is there anyway you can fit in C25K? I think you mentioned 30DS and thats great. You can do this xx

Why are you with that boyfriend??? You are beautiful! He is very shallow-minded (my kind word for prejudice). Find a new one.

As for the diet, you need to learn how to handle your stress. I would suggest meditation. Envision a little bird with a box flying up to you and you put one item that is stressing you in the box. The little bird takes the box and flies to the sun, dropping it into the sun to burn. On the way back to you, it picks up another box into which you put another stress item. Repeat the vision until your stress is less.

You need to work on getting back to what was working. Keep the daily journal. Don't eat out if you can help it. There are so many hidden calories.

Realize that being with that guy is stressful because you not only have all the other stuff going on, but you also have to worry about gaining weight because he already said he would dump you if you were fat. What a weight to put on your shoulders!!