Do you think it is true that marriage...

Kids is a major factor for most, specially for women since the body changes during pregnancy. But what about guys? They also gain weight. And although when having kids, life takes a different twist, it shouldn't really be a reason not to pay attention to ourselves. In fact, healthy fit parents have a bigger chance to educate their children about being healthy and also opens the door to be more active with them, etc.

I know exactly why men gain weight when women are pregnant, once us women get past the first 5 months our stomach feels like they have shrunk being pushed up higher and all, so the food that we were used to eating in one go cant be done anymore. Literally the "eyes are bigger than the belly" syndrome, unfortuately without really noticing it my hubby kept eating my leftovers and therefore eating 0.5X more than he used to, with each of my 2 pregnancies he gained 15 lbs each but i am eating better and now so is he and he has lost 8lbs too

Perhaps to some it might be true but in my case I am actually in better shape now than when I got married. I think mainly what changed for me after I got married was time meaning time to focus on myself new challenges of adjusting to sharing my life and all my time with another person, different goals and expectations, life changes ie. new home, or a family. I find now that my family is older, I can now reshuffle my time and goals to include my health and wellness. In fact my husband and my family are now my biggest reason for wanting to get back in shape.

I've been with my hubby almost 10 yrs and we both packed on weight id say almost 140 lbs between the 2 of us but because I joined mfp started working out n eating better i lost almost all of mine! Its true tho u get comfortable n stop taking care of yourself but I feel its important to keep working on urself... I was depressed and miserable at my highest weight and it effected the marriage... things are def better now! :-)

It doesn't necessarily sticks to just marriage. It happens if people are just dating. We tend to get comfortable around each other. We tend to work out not only to be healthy but to be attractive to others. Sometimes when we meet that person our mind set changes and instead of being at the gym / working out 2-3 hours a day, we decide not go to just to spend more time with that person.

check out fitness they had a whole article about it a month or two go, we tend to change our eating habit to what ever our spouse does. What ever is easier.Not everyone but some people.

In my situation, my husband and I started to gain weight together. We enjoyed trying new restaurants together, and we weren't really inactive...we'd even go to the gym together. However, we slowly gained weight. We actually actively started tracking calories and then I got pregnant. BOTH of us did not watch our weight throughout the pregnancy, and after my son's birth we were just too tired (and busy!) to get healthy.

I get trying to look good for your spouse, but I married my husband for more than his looks. I know weight struggles are hard, and I have always left my husband's health decisions entirely up to him. Luckily, he's smart enough to know we both need to get in better shape for our child's sake.

Do you think it is true that marriage is a major factor when it comes about gaining weight? Some people use it as a joke that all you need to do in order to gain weight is to get married.

The logic I'm finding behind this, although that statement is not always true, is that when people get married, they feel they already have someone with them, so there's no need to take care of themselves anymore. That goes for both women and men.

What do you think about this?

I think it varies from person to person. Some people may get involved in other aspects of their life once married. Maybe they don't have time to be so health conscious. Others may feel that they don't need to take care of themselves, like you've mentioned. Then there are those who are always health conscious and can't stand to "let themselves go."

I don't think most of marriage weight gain is about taking each other for granted. I think it is a combination of things, different ones for different people, but including

*kids: pregnancy changes your body
*kids: your life revolves around them and you don't have time for yourself
*kids: you feed them mac and cheese, pizza, and cheeseburgers and you eat that yourself, too
*career: the older you get the more job responsibilities you are likely to have and that leaves less time for yourself
*age + metabolism changes
*marriage rewards: for example, I'm at the store and I see my husband's favorite brand of cookies, so I buy them to surprise him and then we both eat them. Or, he buys me candy for Valentine's Day

I'm sure there are lots of other reasons, too, but I think those are part of it.

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The not caring as much about your looks thing is just one of many factors that change once you're married. There's just generally more to worry about in life when it's not just all about you as a single person. When there are other competing priorities, fitness/nutrition can tend to go on the back burner for a lot of folks. Obviously, it doesn't mean it can't all be done AND stay in great shape at the same time, but it's MUCH harder after life throws stuff at you like the needs of a signif other, more demanding job, kids, age, more house & bills, etc.

Do you think it is true that marriage is a major factor when it comes about gaining weight? Some people use it as a joke that all you need to do in order to gain weight is to get married.

The logic I'm finding behind this, although that statement is not always true, is that when people get married, they feel they already have someone with them, so there's no need to take care of themselves anymore. That goes for both women and men.

What do you think about this?

I agree that marriage can make one gain weight, at least it did me. But it wasn't that I felt I didn't need to take care of myself. It's just that I ate out more often than when I was single. Suddenly I ate "dinner" every friggin' day, whereas when I was single I might just have a bowl of cereal or a few chips and salsa if I wasn't very hungry. I spent more evenings talking and relaxing with a bottle of wine on the porch than I did working out. And, there was someone there always telling me that I looked good, and there was no way I'd gained 5 (then 10, then 15...) lbs because I looked just as hot as the day we started dating. It turns out that I'm very susceptible to flattery when it's genuine.

I think it simply depends on the individual. I have always been into fitness and the way I looked. So even after 10 years and 2 kids, I look the same as I did. However the hubby, not so much. He can care less and yes a part of his not caring comes from being married. However one thing is for certain, if I ever left him he would diet and workout and look like I have asked him to look for the last 8 years.

I my case it was true. When I am married, I find myself unhappy and then I eat. When I am single, I am much happier so I have more energy and don't just sit around and feel sorry for myself. Not a great commentary on my marriages is it.

Kids is a major factor for most, specially for women since the body changes during pregnancy. But what about guys? They also gain weight. And although when having kids, life takes a different twist, it shouldn't really be a reason not to pay attention to ourselves. In fact, healthy fit parents have a bigger chance to educate their children about being healthy and also opens the door to be more active with them, etc.

I'll second that kids have a big effect on women's weight gain!

My husband was 19 when we got married and only weighed 120 lbs, so yes, he definitely gained! Part of it was because he wasn't finished developing yet. Part of it was that I packed his lunch every day and cooked dinner every night, and he happens to think I'm a good cook! In 15 years, he's gained 20 lbs, so he's still not overweight, by any stretch.

Now, me, on the other hand... I was thin when I got married, but I didn't have a chance to get off the weight from my second pregnancy before number three was on the way, and then it was next to impossible to get it off, due to some imbalances. My youngest is 4 and I've finally gotten back to where I should be. My dear husband has loved me through every phase, which makes me appreciate him even more!

I suppose some of the trend is because "he/she loves me just the way I am," which is (or should be) true. Sometimes, life happens. But, I don't think that's a good reason to let yourself go, if you can help it. The way I see it, If I love him, I'm going to keep myself attractive and healthy for as long as I can (and vice versa).

I didn't put my weight on because of being happily married. It was my own fault for letting myself go. Not making it a priority to stay in shape. I had 3 kids, got married, and husband got cancer. Everyday life was busy but I never scheduled in time for me. I always had excuses.

Do you think it is true that marriage is a major factor when it comes about gaining weight? Some people use it as a joke that all you need to do in order to gain weight is to get married.

The logic I'm finding behind this, although that statement is not always true, is that when people get married, they feel they already have someone with them, so there's no need to take care of themselves anymore. That goes for both women and men.

What do you think about this?

I think it will be true for some people. But it is not a universal truth.

People do often gain weight when they get married, and it might sometimes be because they're not out in the dating scene looking for a mate, and have lost some motivation to stay in shape. They might have married a great cook, too.

But I think marriage also happens very often when people are maturing and/or get career-type jobs, or start to raise kids. So you have other factors in play that can lead to weight gain/being less fit: getting older, and more sedentary jobs, longer work hours, less time for the gym, etc.

My husband and I have both gained weight over the time we've been together. I've gained about 50lbs, he has probably gained about 35lbs. The attraction is still there something fierce though!

I think part of it is that we were 20 and 21 when we started dating, he was a Marine and I was broke and just not eating much, lol. Now I am 28 and he is almost 30, he's no longer in the military, I spent a good chunk of our first 5 years together either pregnant or breastfeeding (several pregnancy losses, two successful pregnancies and a combined total of 2.5 years of breastfeeding, plus I am one of the unlucky ones who can't restrict calories too much while nursing because my supply was very sensitive to dietary changes), we both work and go to school, etc. We just don't take care of ourselves as much as we should now that we are getting "older."

I personally never worried about my attractiveness in the eyes of men to be related to my weight before my husband, because it never seemed to affect my dating life before. I was pretty thin anyway, at 5'10 and anywhere from 145-165lbs during my high school and early college years. So I don't see it as "letting myself go" just because I'm no longer looking for a mate. We just got lazy and comfortable. I still can't get undressed in the same room as him and be able to hold his attention in conversation, LOL!