Do you think it is true that marriage...

I think for me it's more that the number of times I ate increased, and I find cooking for two to be amazingly difficult. i can cook for 1 or 3+, but 2 apparently is an impossibility for me.

Could be you get extra comfortable and let other tasks take priority over maintaining your weight and health. I made it a goal not to gain weight like one usually sees because maintaining my appearance and health is a huge priority.

It was true for me. I was enormous when I was married. I began my downward trend after my divorce.

partly. i've seen peeps blow up like balloons right after they say i do, well not right after but several months later. men and women. poof

oh but i won't go so far as to say they don't want to take care of themselves, things change, life gets in the way and maybe they don't make time for exercise or healthy eating. it's tough, but it can be done.

We all want to think that our love is so deep that it transcends physical beauty - yea right!
I'd be replaced by now if I had not lost the fat.
One warning was all it took, and if that sounds cruel, think of it another way.

Her honesty is what motivated me to change.
More relationships would survive if people communicated with each other honestly.

My husband and I both gained weight when we got married, but it wasn't because we didn't want to look good for each other. We treated everyday like a special occasion. We went out to eat more, split bottles of wine, and snuggled on the couch. We have since changed our date nights into tennis playing, going for walks, and eating at the table instead of in front of the tv.

Kids is a major factor for most, specially for women since the body changes during pregnancy. But what about guys? They also gain weight. And although when having kids, life takes a different twist, it shouldn't really be a reason not to pay attention to ourselves. In fact, healthy fit parents have a bigger chance to educate their children about being healthy and also opens the door to be more active with them, etc.

I'll second that kids have a big effect on women's weight gain!

My husband was 19 when we got married and only weighed 120 lbs, so yes, he definitely gained! Part of it was because he wasn't finished developing yet. Part of it was that I packed his lunch every day and cooked dinner every night, and he happens to think I'm a good cook! In 15 years, he's gained 20 lbs, so he's still not overweight, by any stretch.

Now, me, on the other hand... I was thin when I got married, but I didn't have a chance to get off the weight from my second pregnancy before number three was on the way, and then it was next to impossible to get it off, due to some imbalances. My youngest is 4 and I've finally gotten back to where I should be. My dear husband has loved me through every phase, which makes me appreciate him even more!

I suppose some of the trend is because "he/she loves me just the way I am," which is (or should be) true. Sometimes, life happens. But, I don't think that's a good reason to let yourself go, if you can help it. The way I see it, If I love him, I'm going to keep myself attractive and healthy for as long as I can (and vice versa).

Kids cause weight gain?
That's just an excuse.
My wife has had 5 of my kids, and every single time she was back in peak condition within 1 year of delivery.
It was not easy, but she got to work a month or so after delivery and never stopped until reaching her goals.

After 5 kids and at age 46, she can still wear a bikini and turn the right heads.
All it takes is work.

I think its true...sad but true...More people need the mentality to keep themselves looking and feeling FABULOUS for their spouse...its a win win.
Happy Monday!

Which is unfortunate because looking FABULOUS for their spouse keeps the flame on forever! So I agree with you, its a win win :bigsmile:

Happy Monday to you too!

I've been married for 28 years and I want to look and feel good for ME. It really has nothing to do with my husband. His health and wellness needs to be about him. Otherwise, if we hit a rough patch in our marriage (which we all do), we'd both be a mess.

My husband definitely makes it harder for me to lose weight, but in our case it has more to do with his eating habits. When I was single, I ate a really healthy near-vegetarian diet. But my husband is your typical "meat and potato" kind of guy. Whines like a baby if I try to feed him anything that doesn't have meat in it, wants biscuits at every meal, only eats a few kinds of vegetables, thinks a salad should consist of nothing but iceberg lettuce smothered in french dressing and croutons.

The worst part is that even if we eat separate meals he'll complain and carry on about what I'm eating if he thinks it looks or smells gross. I'll buy him a frozen pizza to pop in the oven so that I can eat the salmon that my dad sent me from Alaska, and he'll complain that it smells like fish. Drives me NUTS.

And every time I go to the grocery store he asks for breads, biscuits, cookies, and all sorts of things I don't need to be eating. Though I do al the grocery shopping, so lately I've just been telling him no. He wanted cookies the last time I was making a grocery list, and I told him to buy some himself and keep them in his desk at work :P

He's also very sedentary, and kind of prissy. Computer programmer who likes to play video games in his down time. Dislikes dirt, sweat, bugs, and sunlight.

Don't get me wrong, he's also got a lot of great qualities, but many of his habits do make losing weight more difficult. He does compliment me a lot, though, and he's quick to point out the positive changes from me working out regularly.

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I've been married for 28 years and I want to look and feel good for ME. It really has nothing to do with my husband. His health and wellness needs to be about him. Otherwise, if we hit a rough patch in our marriage (which we all do), we'd both be a mess.

I agree - I can't believe there are people out there who want to be fat now that they are married, or don't care if they become overweight since they snagged a mate. I'd like to think I value myself more than that. I want to look good for me - it's a bonus if I look better for him, too

I think that you get comfortable with that person and it's not that you feel like you don't have to work out for them but you'd rather just hang out with them and relax.. My husband and I both let ourselves go after we got married and are now trying to look better than ever for each other.