Hubby trying to lead me astray

I have the exact same problem. My fiance dislikes everything healthy pretty much...lol He doesn't like any vegetables unless they are slathered in cheese. So, what I do is usually make him the same thing as me but then I shred cheese over his portion.....lol

If he is still hungry after dinner he usually snacks...

I know exactly how you feel... I'm trying to lose 50lbs and my boyfriend is actually trying to gain weight and therefore will eat anything and everything he wants. I have the job of cooking for him and I always end up cooking two meals but I have to say my boyfriend is pretty good at why I am wanting to eat differently to him.

Feel free to add me if you like, I will try to help!

I am genuinely shocked that so many women seem to cook for their husbands on a daily basis, honestly - do they never cook or do you not cook together? I've always cooked with my partners, it was a bonding, romantic sort of thing. Though to be fair I am the single one on this thread - perhaps I need to get my apron on!

My wife loves to cook. Oh yes....:sick:

Lousy cook she is......

I am not sure I should really laugh at that, but I can't help it :laugh:

lol my man can't cook for the life of him. He's awful!
He does help me with prep and such.
Sometimes I let him make me a sandwich. ha

I just cook 2 meals it is easier than dealing with him.

I understand. My goal is to lose 60lbs. I know my husband wants me to, but his motto is if it doesn't have sugar, grease or fat he doesn't want it! Just last night he sat next to me in bed eating a bowl of ice cream. Huh!......What I have started to do to prevent me from having to cook two meals every night is 1. Find recipes that are good from weight watchers and other sources and trick my family into eating healthy with me and often times they don't know the difference because I don't tell me. 2. I plan my week meals on Sunday and I cook things that I can take for lunch and eat for dinner throughout the week. Like baked fish, chicken etc...... Dont give up if you stick with it he will eventually come around!!!!

PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD DO NOT TRY TO FEED YOUR HUBBY GROUND TURKEY!!! Nothing screams "diet food" worse than ground turkey. But look at the nutritional stats for ground turkey vs 90/10 ground beef, or even 85/15! Turkey has a little more protein, but that's it. IMO, The only thing you get for switching to ground turkey is some sort of weird self flagellation that you're sacrificing something (taste and flavor!)to lose weight.

Does hubby need to loose a few pounds also? If so, hubby needs to get on the program, but he will still need more calories than you.
He doesn't have to live on carrot sticks,apple slices, and celery while you diet. A lot of foods are healthy you can both eat. You can both pretty much eat lean meats and non-starchy vegetables. Add a filling carb (potatoes,yams, beans or rice) to his meal and you can both skip the bread. You could put him on a healthy eating plan and him not actually realize it.

Don't fall for the "no-eating at night rule" many dieters adhere to as some sort of law of the diet universe. Save the bulk of your calories for dinner together. You can eat like a bird during the day and more of a regular meal at night together. As long as you are in a daily negative caloric state you will loose weight. I lost a buttload of weight last year, and I eat more calories between 6pm and bedtime than any other part of the day.

I do a majority of the cooking for my fiancee and I, and I have no problem making two entirely separate meals if necessary so we can both meet our diet goals. It's really not that big a deal, the only harm is it's usually one extra pan to wash.

I also have the same expectations of her though, when she does make me food (usually breakfasts on the weekends), I expect her to make something that fits into my diet, even if she has to then make something separate for herself.

A lot of folks are saying to cook and let him decide if he wants to eat. That is an option, but from my perspective it can put strain and make the tone of the meal more negative. I'd gladly take the work of washing one extra pan to avoid that.

EDIT: Also reading some of the responses, I don't get why people assume that resistance to change signals some kind of insecurity in that person. We all resist change, heck that's the very reason a lot of us are on here and need to lose weight, because we didn't change sooner and stuck with bad habits and an unhealthy lifestyle. I don't like eating rabbit food because it tastes like rabbit food, not because I think my fiancee is suddenly going to get way hotter than she is already and leave me for some other guy.

It's not your hubby leading you astray. You are an adult, you need to be responsible for yourself.

"Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly." — Stephen R. Covey

Don't rely on others for this journey, use them for short bursts, but in the end it's all about what you hold inside.

I am genuinely shocked that so many women seem to cook for their husbands on a daily basis, honestly - do they never cook or do you not cook together? I've always cooked with my partners, it was a bonding, romantic sort of thing. Though to be fair I am the single one on this thread - perhaps I need to get my apron on!

my hubby is actually the one that does all the cooking... I need to learn to start doing some of it. :-) Cooking together is all and well if you don't have kids but throw a few little ones in the mix and that "romantic" cooking tends to fall to the waste side at least for us. I would rather be "romantic" when everyone else is asleep and little eyes are staring at me. (I have 4 kiddos). Now don't get me wrong, we hug and kiss in front of the kids... we dance and are "romantic" just don't have time to be romantic and cook. hahaha!

I have the exact same problem with my husband! He'll even go as far as making me a surprise dessert knowing that I'm trying to
eat healthier! Just stick to your guns! You HAVE to be REALLY determined enough that no matter what your husband does, you're going to continue to be healthier for yourslef! And I agree with the others as far as cooking healthier for the 2 of you. Healthy cooking is tasty when done right and before long, he'll be right there with you, eating healthy. Cooking 2 seperate meals is going to wear you out and eventually throw you off from being successful in losing weight! Dig your heels in deep because you HAVE GOT to do this for YOURSELF!

I know this might sound mean, but I would just cook whatever you need to cook for yourself to stay on your plan. If he wants a meal, he can eat what you make. If he doesn't want it, he's fully capable of fending for himself. It's not your responsibility to feed his cravings.

Loved ones are often sabateours for a variety of reasons (jealous, afraid, resistant to change, etc.). Don't let his choices/actions affect your progress!!!

Congratulations on beginning your journey and welcome to MFP! I have found this to be an amazingly supportive and informative community!

(p.s. Loved the post about the lingerie and offering to wear it based on his support... LOL)

I have the same issue, except add 3 kids (a teenage boy, a 9 year old, and an extremely picky 5 year old). I have learned to have smaller portions of what they are having. In fact, I have started making smaller portions all around. I sneek in healthier options when I can and they are none the wiser.

It is so hard to cook healthy meals for a family when they don't have the same motivation that we do! Here are some things I try to do to ease the pain for the husband and kids:

1. Cook chicken or fish every day and red meat once a week - if they need a sauce, dip or gravy - just make it but reserve your naked piece before serving
2. Use 94% lean ground beef - it has almost the same macros as ground turkey and goes over much better with the family
3. Add a starch like rice, potato or corn to every dinner for them, but don't eat any
4. Cook 2 vegetable dishes every night so they have a choice (I like lots of veggies they don't like)
5. Buy good non-stick cookware so you can reduce the cooking oils (I use Calphalon Unison with olive oil)
6. Find alternative ways to make their favorite meals - like chicken parm (breaded and baked, with reduced fat cheese), tacos (lean beef and fat free beans), chicken fettucine alfredo with a light sauce, etc
7. Bring back the toddler magic - hide the vegetables! I recently started adding chopped zucchini, peppers and even cabbage to ground beef for stuffed peppers to keep them juicy so I can use the leaner beef.
8. One "normal" meal each week - something they love like homemade pizza or our favorite butcher shop burgers (mine with blue cheese, red onion and tomato please!)

They don't want you to fail, they just don't want to give up their favorites - so I try a lot of smoke and mirrors magic to make them feel like they're not missing out!

Good luck!

My husband used to cook but I have kicked him out of the kitchen because he would cook a meal and come to find out he used alot of butter or something that would send me over my calories lol......he's banned from the kitchen I know he meant well, he's learning slowly yet surely lol

My husbands the same way! I have a rule in our house, If you don't like what I fix you are more then welcome to cook for yourself ,just remember to clean up your mess or you will be cleaning up mine (i cook 3 or 4 days at a time)