Husband isn't supportive

I agree to LEAD BY EXAMPLE ~ just doing it for yourself and no one else is rewarding enough. You'll outlive him ~ be sure he has lots of insurance!!! LOL

Who is doing the cooking? If you are going the cooking, don't cook the unhealthy stuff. Make a menu that has all the meals you'll make that week and the ingredients you need. Get what's on the list. If he puts something else on the list, take it back out and tell him it's not on the menu and you're not cooking it. Give him a meal a week that he gets to pick and just watch your portion size for that one. You'll save money by not buying outside the list. And it's easier to decide what to have for dinner.
As far as exercise, is there something he likes to do? My husband won't go for a walk around the neighborhood with me. He loves hiking so we do that on the weekend. We also got an Xbox Kinect and it's great. You can actually work up a good sweat with some of the games. And it's fun.

Hey everyone. Hate to start out with such a bummer topic, but this has been bothering me for awhile and am hoping to get some advice, or at least know I am not alone.

In my attempt at getting in shape, and trying to eat better and healthier, so far I am doing pretty well. However, my husband is a little less enthusiastic about my efforts and is not at all concerned about his health or his diet. Anytime I mention we should eat better, or he should go walking or running with me it always turns into a fight.

Grocery shopping is also a fight. As I'm loading up the cart with fresh fruit and veggies, meats etc, he is loading it with chips, hamburger helper, mac and cheese..well you get my point.

I'm tired of fighting with him, but it kills me to see him not care at all about his health or appearance. HELP!

I'm sorry... seems like we are married to the same man. I don't have any advice but I do sympathize!!

You are not alone. My boyfriend is not only unsupportive, he refuses to acknowledge the change in my body. I could get 10 compliments on my weight loss in a week and not one of them will be from him. Sometimes, I even feel as though he is trying to sabatoge my efforts. Last week, he brought home pizza and wings one night, and chinese food another night. These are two of my weaknesses and it seemed as though he was angry that I didn't falter and stuck to my healthy meal I had planned.

I had to come to the realization that I am doing this for me, and I have put others ahead of me for YEARS. Now it's time to put my needs and wants first, and I dont think he likes it. Thanks to the support I've found on MFP, I am succeeding in MY journey, for MY health and well being. It's hard, but if he isn't supportive, you have to find support somewhere else. Good Luck to you on your journey!

Lead by example thats all you can do.

I agree with everyone, if he's going to do it, it'll be because he wants to. Meanwhile, do some grocery shopping on your own. Make mac and cheese with some low-fat cheese and wheat pasta. Make little substitutions here and there without him knowing. Also, just start going for walks by yourself, or find a friend you can go with. It sounds like he's feels you're not happy with the way he looks and are trying to change him. If that's the case, any guy would balk at that.

My husband was the same way. For decades I fought with him to get regular exercise and better nutrition. He is a good cook and that did not help much. He did not care even though he is diabetic. Suddenly 2 years back, he started falling while walking with out any reason. He hit is highest weight and was unhealthy. Suddenly, one day after work when he was on business trip he watched an hour show with managing diabetics with low glycemic index foods. Suddenly something changed in him and he got hooked to the information. He started exercise and having a low carb diet and lost about 50 pounds in less than an year. His medication dosage has come down and hasn't fallen even once. Now he encourages me and very supportive of my weight loss journey. Now he is an inspiration for me, my family and friends. What I learnt is you cannot force anyone but it has to come from with in. Hopefully your husband does not wait until he gets his wake up call. Good luck.

I am about 400 pounds, had a pulmonary embolism last year, though other stuff seems to be okay. I've always struggled to find diet food I can enjoy.

I decided to figure out how to create a meal I enjoy eating, that is full of nutrients, and that leaves me filling full. Usually that amounts to a kind of bowl filled with some combination of tomatoes, chicken or fish, sweet potato, and so on. Usually it takes the form of a stir fry (in water or olive oil) or almost thick soup in consistency. One bowl usually does it. Siracha, cream cheese, or peanut butter can be added in very small amounts for thickening.

Thus, for your husband and your problem, I would suggest NOT trying to get him to eat what you eat, but finding a way to make what he enjoys eating, but in a modified low calorie way. Take his data-(weight, height, activity level)- and get his RMR (resting metabolic rate), and then calculate how to do tasty meals that hit under that number. Don't force the veggies or typical diet foods. Just subtly introduce high vitamin foods into his favorite foods, and modified so that the totals come in under the rate that his body would burn calories (at rest). (Oh, and when calculating BMR or RMR, don't factor in any activity).

In the end he may not even notice why weight is dropping off until you convey to him why. Of course this only works to the extent you are making his food. If he is buying fast food, then he is probably sunk for the day. You might approach that from a "saving cash" angle. Encourage him to save money for what he, or both of you, might want to do. So instead of him not buying fast food for weight or diet purposes, you avoid fast food for "savings" purposes... to take that vacation or buy that new computer he wants.

You combine that with favorite food modification and it might work. So for example, instead of saying, "Fried chicken is bad for you, eat tofu spinach salad with me," you say, "Okay, I will make fried chicken". Then get boneless, skinless, and fry it in the best possible oil. The goal here, is to make all his meals for the day come in under his RMR number, not so much to correct the wrong food patterns.... yet. Eventually you will evolve him away from fried foods, low nutrient foods, bad carbs. But focus first on overall weight loss.

Over time, this might work. Or not. Given my weight I am the last one to give advice. However, it's the method I am trying to consistently apply to myself, while trying to introduce healthier snacks like popcorn, pickles, yogurt, a few nuts, etc.

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