would it be crossing a line to...
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Sadly she may not even know she screams/cries at night. My mum has severe anxiety attacks about going to bed and screams but if you talk to her about it the next day she doesn't know she has done it so there is the potential for embarrassment.0
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Nice gestures are always a go so long as your motives are pure.
Your situation is a perfect example.
Good Luck!
exactly. just a small understated bouquet and simple note wishing her a good day. Very sweet of you!0 -
Go for it, but I agree that it should be anonymous.
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If I lived alone and got a note that someone was always watching me, I'd probably report it to the police! :laugh: Sorry, that would scare me a bit!
As for the OP's situation, people reaching out to people is a good thing. Neighbors should get to know one another, and she does not need to know why.
We just wanted to say hello, because you are our neighbor.0 -
Leave her a nice note and flowers, but don't say who it's from.
It'll brighten her day and let her know people notice her, and not make things weird between you.0 -
I like the flowers and a note idea, though not a message that reveals that you know something's going on (odd as it sounds, even if she knows you know, bringing it up turns it from something appreciated to a little embarrassing). Just a note wishing her a good day or something sounds like a really nice gesture. When people are going through a hard time, reaching out to them is just a really great thing to do. :flowerforyou: for being so nice!0
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I would say to leave it anonymous because it might make her feel funny about de-stressing in the future if she knows you can hear her. I have some noisy neighbors myself but I would feel so weird saying that we could hear their business! It is also kinda awkward for us at times because if I can hear them they can certainly hear us!0
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Valentines is the perfect occasion. A small bouquet. But, I'd tell her who it was from. If she's living alone, she might think stalker... Just let her know it's no biggie- you saw them and thought of her and know she's got a lot on her plate and thought it might make her smile. Let her think it was a spur of the moment thing, only.0
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do it. simply a kind gesture.0
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It's sweet, but don't tell her it's because you hear her crying or anything. Sign the card so she knows it's from you, but say it's just to brighten her day because you know how hard school must be. Something like that.0
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A small bouquet. But, I'd tell her who it was from. If she's living alone, she might think stalker... Just let her know it's no biggie- you saw them and thought of her and know she's got a lot on her plate and thought it might make her smile. Let her think it was a spur of the moment thing, only.
This.... and how thoughtful of you!0 -
Oh, give the poor doctoral student some flowers! My daughter is working on her PhD, and believe me the stress is unbelievable. How nice of you to consider it! Yes, say it is from her neighbors, but I wouldn't mention that you hear her crying. :flowerforyou:0
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I would do that but say it is from person in your apt number. Say nothing about hearing her cry. When I was doing my MS degree there was nights that I fell asleep at my desk doing homework.0
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Give her flowers... And cookies! Everyone loves cookies!
It's a lovely gesture and if she asks why say you give gifts to friends and neighbours on valentines day for fun (not because she's alone)0 -
DON'T do it anonymously!!
If I got anonymous flowers I wouldn't be able to sleep wondering who they were from. Stupid idea, personally. Or she might even get scared wondering if she has a stalker or something.0 -
Go for it, but I agree that it should be anonymous.
anonymous
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If I lived alone and got a note that someone was always watching me, I'd probably report it to the police! :laugh: Sorry, that would scare me a bit!
I almost fell off the couch when I read this! Very good intentions but I agree, 'i am always watching you' may not be the right choice of words.0 -
I would do it! :flowerforyou:0
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thanks for all of your responses! i was not even thinking of tomorrow being valentine's day - that's the perfect cover!0
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DON'T do it anonymously!!
If I got anonymous flowers I wouldn't be able to sleep wondering who they were from. Stupid idea, personally. Or she might even get scared wondering if she has a stalker or something.
As someone who just finished her doctorate and spent many an afternoon pacing in my living room and sobbing, I think this is a really sweet thought. :happy:0 -
Sounds like she has bigger issues than the stress of her program. I get stressed but I don't scream and cry every day. That being said, I think an anonymous little card would be cute!0
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DO IT. Not anonymously but yea. Random acts of kindness can make a world of difference to someone.0
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