Severely depressed
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I got on Celexa and it changed my life~! - Sia Bevis0
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I too, was severely depressed after my divorce 30 years ago. I went for counseling and was introduced to an amazing book called; The New Mood Therapy (a Cure for Depression without the aid of drugs). I was not a reader at the time so it took me a while to get into it. When I did I could not put it down. I thought it was written about me! Half way through I WAS CURED!!! and have not been depressed since! Sure, I have my "blue":huh: days but I refuse to ever be "severely depressed" again and the book showed me how. Some may call it "brain washing" but who cares what it is called if it works. It also made me a reader! The older version was by Dr Beck & Dr Burns. The updated version only lists one Dr but I am not sure which one. Go to any book store and ask for "The New Mood Therapy". Anything is worth a try. If you would like someone to talk to until you can get in to see someone let me know and I will give you my phone #.
You can also talk to your family physician in the mean time as well.
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Hey there,
I was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder about 8 years ago and, needless to say, it's been a "roller coaster ride" for me and my family so I know where you are coming from when you say depression just creeps up on you all of a sudden - for no reason whatsoever. I can honestly tell you that the only thing that works for me during these times of complete and utter hopelessness is telling myself, "You are not always like this. You are now, but you won't be tomorrow" It's not bad to be depressed but it can be harmful to stay that way. Acknowledging how you are feeling at the moment is part of the journey to get you back to your happier self. Don't try to deny that this is not who you are, because it is, infact, a part of who you are.
Something you could do is meditate and spend some time with the depressed or sad part of you to understand it better. I do this to better understand what triggers the symptoms, whether it be external forces or a lack of nutrition in my body. Therapy and medication do have their place but I'll be honest with you, the day that I took my bi-polar disorder by the reigns and made it a priority to control it through my own actions was one of the best days of my life.
Talk to your husband and work out a plan with him. When I get into a slump I know to let my husband know before I explode and he is more than willing to take the kids for a while so I can concentrate on myself and what I need to do to get back into the swing of things.
I could sit here and write a book about the little tactics I've found that help me over the years but I'll just leave you with the idea that it is something you will have to live with for the rest of your life. So, instead of seeing it as something wrong with you just see it as something that is a part of you, like the color of your eyes. Embrace it and learn from it instead of trying to suppress it. It's hard to explain but once you have become comfortable with the fact that you are clically depressed it makes it so much easier to, well, not be depressed. :-) I wish all the best for you and your family. You are strong, just by being a part of this community shows all of us that. Good luck in your life journeys.0 -
You are SO not alone, girl. I know it feels like that when you are at your lowest point but there are many people right around you who are suffering. You just don't realize it. Depression is very common, especially at this time of year. I have struggled much of my adult life with depression. I struggled for decades - tried therapy, self-talk, exercise, OTC supplements - before I finally threw up the white flag and realized I was fighting something bigger than me. I fought taking prescription meds for YEARS but when I finally bit the bullet and tried an anti-depressant, the drastic improvement I felt made me wish I had taken them since puberty! :laugh: Seriously, I couldn't help but think how my life choices may have been better without the cloud of depression hanging over me all of those years! It felt like a heavy cloak had been lifted from my shoulders. I could see the sun, I felt hope, I could SLEEP! I realize this is not the recommended road for everyone suffering from depression but for me, it was a life-changer. I'm now on a low dose for maintenance and someday, when my life settles, I hope to not have to take them. But for now, the meds are life-savers!!
Not sure if you are considering medication or not, but if you are, don't feel bad! They make these drugs for a reason and they help a lot of people!
Best to you! PM me if you want to talk further!
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You are definitely not alone. Lots of us have been in your shoes. It doesn't always help to look around at your many blessings (family, home, job, etc) because the depression comes from within. I have been in that place before, and it's very scary. But you will come out of it. You may need professional help to do so, that's why the professionals are there. Hang on until your appointment. Exercise when you can, cry when you need to, ask those around you for support. You can get through this. You have come so far on your journey, and you didn't do that without inner strength.
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It's hard getting out of a funk when you can't control it. My one thought might be to tell your husband that you are in a bad
Depression and that you would appretiate a nice hug and a truce of the fight. Tell him you love him. Control what you can and try to feel good about that. A nice hug might help your mood. It couldn't hurt. Also he may not know how depressed you are and it might help him understand your mood.
I hope you get the help you want soon. All you MFP's are there for you!
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I am sorry you are feeling so bad. A lot of people in my family suffer from depression and it can be very awful. It's hard to dO the things you need to to help yourself out of it when you feel so crappy. Talk to your friends or family about what's bothering you. Maybe see a therapist instead of waiting for the psychiatrist. And if you can, exercise. It will help you feel better.
I agree. Also your doctor can give you something until you see your psychiatrist. It may help. I know when I feel depressed it always helps to exercise. It releases endorphins. Also maybe spend a little special you time. Get a manicure or your hair done. Try not to ponder on not celebrating the day together. If you can make it a you day And no sad music it always made me feel worse. try something upbeat. Praying can help as well. Give it to God. Hope your day brightens up and is magnificent!0 -
I know that "SAD"- seasonal affective disorder can be a ***** for me. Spring shows up and I feel alive again.
Hang on and in the mean time i try to do activites that increase the serotonin in my brain. Nurturing, grooming the kids hair, sex, snuggling, cuddles with pets anything like that. Also, herbal remedies St Johns wort tesain(tea) kava, or 5- htp help me
temporarily. I also meditate and do yoga.
Like somebody said, losing 71lbs is a huge accomplishment as well as being a Mom, wife and achiever! Girl, your a POWERHOUSE and don't your forget that!0 -
Don't feel guilty about being depressed!!! I've dealt with depression for a long time, and I have a lot of good things in my life, too - I just couldn't see them or put' them in the right perspective. It took me several years to find the right antidepressant, and now, most days, I don't have issues with that general out-of-nowhere depression.
Looks like you've lost a lot of weight! I can't tell how long you've been working at it, but that's quite an achievement! I just started and I still have a long way to go. So far as dieting and depression, especially the out-of-nowhere kind... Is there anything recent that you have changed in your diet? Like, for instance, have you dropped your daily calories by more than you were eating before, or stopped eating meat, or changed your caffeine intake or sugar intake? It is possible if you have had recent changes, that you are reacting to that - you could be anemic, or having low blood sugar, or going through caffeine withdrawal, or something like that. It might not be the cause of the depression, but it could be adding to the feeling of depression. Try taking a multivitamin and see if that helps any.
If you're not celebrating Valentine's, find a way to make yourself feel special today. Get that book you've been wanting, or a haircut, or go to (or rent) a movie. Get out some paints or crayons or even a pen or pencil and draw, put on some great music and dance to it (and hey, burn calories along the way), buy a new plant, pick some flowers and put them in a vase - something that will make you feel special.
If your depression is really severe, and you can't ease it yourself, call and insist on seeing a professional. Even if you can only get in to see your regular doctors, tell them how you're feeling. They might be willing to prescribe something to ease the depression until you can get in to see a mental health doctor. Depression isn't something to ignore or wait on, especially if it is overwhelming, or you feel hopeless. If you start to feel that way, don't stay by yourself - get out where there are other people around, and call your doctor.0 -
Your not alone hun, I have been dealing with Bipolar Depression for years now, its been a crazy train ride for me too.. Meds are always there to help yes, however if your anything like me? i try to keep the meds to a minimum, and will try other meens to get my mind back on track..
I find talking it out always helps, but I talk to people who are in the same boat as me, because the people who dont suffer depression sometimes dont seem to understand what your going through, I have heard on many occations "oh girl its all in your head" well yea; they are right! thats the point, so now how do i get it out?? but they never seem to have an honest awnser for that one lol.
Also argueing with your significant other or anyone for that matter dont help the situation, but you sometimes can not help that! Just keep this in mind my friend, Im sure deep down he understands, but just dont know how to cope with it himself? BUT when you get ino an argue or fight with your loved one, you kiss and make up, it only makes the relastionship stronger.
If you ever need a person to talk to (i know im a stranger but hey lol) feel free to contact me i live and breath MFP now lol. Keep your chin up my friend this too will pass. And HAVE A WONDERFUL VALENTINES DAY as im sure you will.0 -
Have you been taking any new supplements or shakes or anything? My husband was trying some weight loss supplement several years ago and some ingredient did NOT agree with him. He was moody and quick to anger. Within 2 days of stopping the supplement he was back to normal. My sister in law has battled depression her whole life and used to take prozac. She no longer has medical insurance and cannot afford it so she played around with herbal supplements. She swears by a mix of St. Johns Wort, fish oil, and magnesium..... I would also suggest sunshine, exercise, prayer, and positive affirmations along with lots of cuddles and kisses from your little ones. I hope you find something to alleviate your sadness. Good luck and God bless.0
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Please know that, no matter what, you are never alone.
I know that depression can be extremely isolating, but allow yourself to feel natural human emotion by talking to someone. I'd suggest diet and exercise, but assume that you've been fine-tuning this for quite some time now.
The winter months could be brutal for depression sufferers, so keep in mind that spring is just around the corner. Take advantage of sunny says whenever possible. I find that the warmth it provides is a tangible reminder that there is , in fact, a light at the end of the tunnel.
You can get through this, I promise. Keep yourself afloat by remembering that you are loved, you are beautiful, and you are worthy.
I know that I'm a total stranger, but if you ever feel terribly alone and need to vent, please feel free to message me.
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You are absolutely not alone. I suffer from depression too. But more than all the people on here who know (more or less) what you're going through, your husband is with you.
Apologize (I know it either isn't your fault or doesn't seem like it, but that is not the point). Tell him that you love him and that you need him right now, because you're not at your strongest.
Try to not let the little things bite you. It's good that you are counting your blessings. It won't help your mood, but it does help you cope.
And celebrate Valentine's day. You have a Valentine.People get mad. **** happens. But you've got to keep moving forward, or the depression wins. So buy him some chocolate, apologize, and tell him that this evening is important. You deserve it.
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When I am dieting and exercising is when it is so much more vital for me to be taking my supplements. Otherwise the blues creep in on me.
This is what has helped me and its been a miracle in my life,
Cod liver oil
Flax seed oil
and what really helps as well is Superior Amino 2222 liquid
B Complex vitamins
Multi vitamins
Extra Vitamin D3 not D2. The vitamin D3 is the one you want.
I spread these supplements out. I don't take them all at once. I use my intuition on what I feel I need for the day.
It has been a miracle for me!
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You are not alone at all. I have suffered from anxiety disorder and depression for years. I have made great progress lately but it is always there. Never feel alone. I would always be glad to talk if you need to.0
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I know things are tough, there is always someone that is willing to listen, offer advice, or just be there for you.0
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You're not alone. I've been battling depression for 15 years. I hate being so upset -- functionally debilitated, really -- for no apparent reason, but the thing is you *know* this is depression. You *know* this is a mental state. And, because of that, you *know* it can get better. Your brain just needs to re-balance. Take care of yourself, wait it out, ask patience of those around you, and this episode will pass.0
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Hugs to you today and everyday from your MFP friends! You are loved!!
And as you can see you definitely have lots of company on your journey in dealing with depression. We are not alone in the battle with this dreaded disease. We are here for you and will keep you in our prayers. Bless you.0 -
I wish I had the courage you do now...I let my depression get so bad that I lost my marriage. I couldn't see anything around me, but I began reading this book called "your best life now". It's a religious book but it helped me. I was able to see things more clearly, I saw that I wasn't alone. NO matter what you are NEVER alone! There are days I can feel myself slipping back into depression but I follow the advice from the book, it religion isn't your thing that's okay you just need to tell yourself..."I'm not perfect, but I'm a perfect work in progress!". If you ever need another friend please add me! Every night has a day!0
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My thoughts are with you. Do something right now to make yourself feel a little better. Maybe You and your husband can talk it over and make up.
Many hugs.0 -
I suffer from depression as well and sometimes it's really hard to not let it take over. Do something that makes you happy. Like I will read a good book, dance around to music, snuggle with my dog or look at baby animal pictures. Hard to be sad when doing any of those things. Also, I will start a list of everything I am thankful for. Depression makes us forget how lucky we are and we need to remind ourselves.
go exercise! It feels really good just to distract and forget for a little while and you can feel proud of yourself. Good luck, it's a hard road.0 -
Hey girl,
I can completely relate... I suffer from clinical depression and it can hit you like a ton of bricks out of no where! Some of the things I do to help me out of my funk are: watching a lot of comedies, painting my nails, washing my hair with nice smelling shampoo, talking to friends and reaching out and just trying to laugh even when I don't feel like it. Feel free to add me!0 -
I am sorry to hear you are so miserable. As a nurse I understand that being depressed has nothing to do with how many blessings you have but is a result of your particular brain chemistry. That is why it often runs in families.
Can you see your regular family doctor sooner and can he/she help? I have had several friends who suffer from depression and it can be a devastating disease. So many well-meaning but misguided folks urge you to just get over it, buck up etc without understanding that this isn't a choice.
Since exercise causes a release of the same endorphins that make us happy, it can decrease the symptoms of depression. I hope it helps. Hugs and best wishes to you.0 -
I can totally relate to your feelings!! I have had depression for years!! Sometimes it's not bad... other times it's almost unbearable. I too have many things to be thankful for but, when it's so bad, I can't seem to see the light at the end of the tunnel (though, I always try to remember the good things in my life... it doesn't really help per se, but it at least gives me a reason to keep living... if not for me, then for them.
Right now I'm in a good mood but I never really know when that's going to change. It's a constant worry of mine (which probably doesn't help.) While I don't have any real advise on how to 'get over it' or 'through it' or anything like that, I definitely believe that mine is not only hereditary but also some kind of chemical imbalance. And people who don't 'believe' in depression are idiots.
If you need to talk, vent, whatever, feel free to send me a private message. Also, is there any kind of warm line you can call to talk to someone? Does your psychiatrist know how bad you're feeling? Maybe if you stress the real NEED you have to see him/her, they can squeeze you in sooner. Whatever happens, you shouldn't have to go through this alone!! ((((HUGS))))0 -
As others have said, you are not alone.
Wanted to add something I haven't seen others mention (or I missed it). Consider getting a physical check-up. There are physical conditions out there that can cause depression. Thyroid issues, certain vitamin deficiency, etc. If you have any of those issues, getting them treated may help you feel better. I used to be clinically depressed from past traumas, but I also have hypothyroidism. Getting my thyroid levels back into the normal range went hand in hand with therapy to help me heal.0 -
I cannot thank everyone enough. You've all left such heartfelt replies that made me feel so much less alone. Sometimes depression can feel unreal since I have a life I have to continue despite it, which makes it seen lije it's all in my head and I *should* be able to overcome it all.
I also deal with generalized anxiety disorder, OCD and PTSD (which brings a whole host of symptoms that make me feel like I'm losing my mind to some spreading disease, ugh) and adding depression just made things so much harder.
I wrote a little note to my husband explaining why I was upset and after a short argument this morning he said he saw my point and apologized... Still awkward, but better. Hopefully we can still go to diner tonight. Hes so funny sometimes; he read my note, it made him angry and he went out to get me some flowers for valentines before getting into it with me. Abyhoo...
I'm feeling better knowing in definitely not alone and your sympathy and kind words have gone a long way. I so appreciate everyone who took the time to respond.
Also, I called back the psych. and she will be able to see me this Friday which is a HUGE relief. Hopefully I begin to feel better soon. The happier I am, the happier everyone else is LOL0 -
Ilovepepper, if you haven't already done so please consider getting a full assessment from a really good cognitive behavioural (CBT) psychotherapist. CBT is really effective for anxiety disorders such as GAD, OCD and PTSD. In my experience, multiple disorders develop when the underlying ones are untreated. Medication can be a lifeline but sometimes doesn't treat the underlying cause. I'm glad you sorted things out with your husband and got in to see your psychiatrist sooner. Hope you feel well again soon (((hugs ))) :flowerforyou:0
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I can definitely relate. I used to be pretty depressed, sometimes I get depressed now but it never lasts too long anymore, and it was truly awful. The worst part was feeling like I couldn't tell anyone that I felt that way because I never really saw a reason that I was depressed, I had basically everything. But, I realized that the main reason for it was because I had become friends with a girl who was extremely depressed. She brought a big grey cloud of gloom everywhere she went, but I didn't realize it until I had already become really good friends with her and let her depressive thoughts become my own. She was constantly bashing on other people and saying how stupid or annoying or materialistic etc, they were and I was the only person she really talked to. So by default she became my only real friend. I mean, I had other friends in my classes, but she was the only one that I hung out with during lunch (this was in high school), but she was always talking about how she needed new friends, which of course made me feel even worse. At that point I had no good friends b/c she kinda treated me like I was only there to make her look not like a complete loner. Talk about a toxic person. I actually ended up switching schools after sophomore year and joining the cheer squad at my new school. By far the best thing I've ever done! I met girls very like minded to the happy person I actually am and never saw her again. You have to find what the trigger is that makes you so depressed and do everything you can to get rid of it!!!!! Even if it means making a drastic change in your life. If you ever wanna talk, feel free to message me0
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well this thread has helped me see that many people suffer from depression.......... i know that there is something wrong with me and there has been for many years....at least 15 probably. how does a dr determine what is wrong with you? do they ask u a bunch of questions? run some sort of tests? how do I know if I'm depressed, bi-polar, or need anger management???? and what do I do? call my family doctor and say I want an appt becuz I think I'm depressed? it does make me feel a bit embarressed or ashamed?
but i hate the way i am. i get mad at little things. when i get really mad, like when my husband and i are arguing and I feel like he doesn't give a crap about me, i can end up callng him names, throwing things and even hitting. i feel like no one loves me. i didnt have a terrible childhood but i had a dad that abused my mom once in awhile and he ended up becoming a nasty drunk cuz he was in the gulf war and ended up having PTSD. when i was 21 my mom and i moved away from my dad and about 6 months later she met someone and a few months later she chose this guy over me and kicked me out. so , i dont really talk to either of them. i have no sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, grandparents...........
i never feel truly happy, tho others probably wouldn't understand. i have a family, a son and a daughter, and a roof over our head. i feel like i matter to no one.0
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