My boyfriend is missing
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Why would you let him go if he's an alcoholic. I know you're stressed but honestly. If my bf was suicidal and an alcoholic I wouldn't let him go out to a bar or i'd atleast go with him
Trust me, I didn't want him to go. I tried to stop him. We also have a small child at home, I can't just get up and go with him.
Why isn't he on antidepressants?
As I said in another post, I have urged him myself along with his therapist to get them, but he kept putting it off. I can't make him do anything-he's a human being.0 -
I'm really sorry to hear about this, phone the police, hospitals, friends,family etc. see if anyone knows
i hope he comes back soon xxxx0 -
Hope you find him safe and well! X0
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Really hope he turns up ok. Last thing needed right now is why would you do this, why that, nothing she can change about what's done now! Support would help I think! Thoughts are with you.
Although, in my experience, often if they are talking about it it's one good step! If he was really considering it, nobody would know cause then people would stop him. I think he'll be ok. Hoping so too. XX0 -
Thank you all for your support...I've contacted the hospitals, he's not anywhere. Police haven't called me back though it's been 30 minutes. I'm going to call my SIL now...0
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Why would you let him go if he's an alcoholic. I know you're stressed but honestly. If my bf was suicidal and an alcoholic I wouldn't let him go out to a bar or i'd atleast go with him
Trust me, I didn't want him to go. I tried to stop him. We also have a small child at home, I can't just get up and go with him.
Why isn't he on antidepressants?
Leave her alone?!0 -
Why would you let him go if he's an alcoholic. I know you're stressed but honestly. If my bf was suicidal and an alcoholic I wouldn't let him go out to a bar or i'd atleast go with him
Trust me, I didn't want him to go. I tried to stop him. We also have a small child at home, I can't just get up and go with him.
You don't want to force a depressed, suicidal person to do anything...it'll make the situation worse...if she would've forced him to stay home then there's a possibility he might have done something at the house around the child and that is the last thing you want him to do0 -
He's most likely on drink/drugs and will turn up later ok, but yeah - check with police + hospitals if you are worried. You can't force people to change, they have to do it themselves. I stopped this stuff when I woke up in a hospital bed. Good luck and hope it turns out ok.0
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Called, she's on our way. Love that girl. :]0
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Try Contacting the county jail. My brother went missing once and he had never been in trouble before. Sure enough he was there. Even though when we called the police they had no reports of him being arrested.0
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is there any news yet?
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Called, she's on our way. Love that girl. :]
Its good that you will have someone with you so you aren't on your own worrying!
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Just catching up............Any news?0
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fantastic. hope he is home soon.x0
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Hang in there I know it is hard0
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If I seem harsh, well sorry. I can't help thinking logically and questioning peoples behaviour.
You can't apply logic to all situations, especially when there are mental health issues involved.
Tenoreo90 - I completely understand what you are going through - I have been through exactly the same situation (ended peacefully - my brother was able to locate my husband). Try and focus on your breathing and stay as calm as you can and please, please try to get family/friends to you ASAP. Sending you all my love, empathy and best wishes xx0 -
Oh sweetheart, I do hope he turns up. x0
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Why would you let him go if he's an alcoholic. I know you're stressed but honestly. If my bf was suicidal and an alcoholic I wouldn't let him go out to a bar or i'd atleast go with him
Crikey, are you kidding! this is not the time to grill this poor woman about why she didnt stop him.
Please keep is posted on your news. My thoughts are with you x0 -
I can't really offer any help but didn't want to read & run.
I really hope he turns up safe and well soon
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An officer showed up at my door, he didn't seem to care that much, honestly. He said, "Boyfriend who go out to the bar aren't very high on our missing person list. He probably just got drunk and hooked up with someone." Wow, thanks, officer. He took down similar information on scrap paper and left. I don't think they're going to be much help...I'm going to go out and look when my SIL gets here.0
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An officer showed up at my door, he didn't seem to care that much, honestly. He said, "Boyfriend who go out to the bar aren't very high on our missing person list. He probably just got drunk and hooked up with someone." Wow, thanks, officer. He took down similar information on scrap paper and left. I don't think they're going to be much help...I'm going to go out and look when my SIL gets here.
That is disgusting behavior! I am sorry you are going through this.0 -
Why would you let him go if he's an alcoholic. I know you're stressed but honestly. If my bf was suicidal and an alcoholic I wouldn't let him go out to a bar or i'd atleast go with him
She really doesnt need bashing at a time like this. If you dont have anything supportive to say, Dont say anything at all.
THIS! Seriously people, think before you open your damn mouth.
I really hope that you get news soon and that he's safe and well. Hopefully this whole situation might urge him to get some help. I know how hard it is to go through all of this with someone you care about.0 -
Best of luck to you!!! I know the feeling.
( *hugs and prayers* 0 -
Oh sweetie, my heart goes out to you. A depressed/suicidal person is difficult to reason with. You are in my prayers tonight. Keep yourself safe too.
Donna xxx0 -
How do you know if i've been in that situation or not?
I'm not judging i'm trying to understand.
If I seem harsh, well sorry. I can't help thinking logically and questioning peoples behaviour.
Most people who say that want to commit suicide never go through with it and it's usually a sign of something else in their life that they want to escape from because they find it unpleasant. Drinking=escaping. Not coming home =escaping. Not answering phone call=escaping.
There are ways to ask questions, that are more tactful than you are managing though. Your posts are coming across judgemental and accusatory and now you've pretty much said he's trying to escape from her in this latest. If you have been in this situation, or something similar surely you can empathise to the point where you don't over simplify the situation to the point of insensitivity.
I agree, it sounds like he's 'running away', BUT removing himself from his family deliberately or accidentally doesn't equate to they being the ones or thing he's running away from. People do strange things, unintentionally and willfully when they're not thinking straight - be it mental illness, drugs, drink - they all take an unpredicatable toll and judging him and the OP by your tactless posts isn't helping anyone.0 -
An officer showed up at my door, he didn't seem to care that much, honestly. He said, "Boyfriend who go out to the bar aren't very high on our missing person list. He probably just got drunk and hooked up with someone." Wow, thanks, officer. He took down similar information on scrap paper and left. I don't think they're going to be much help...I'm going to go out and look when my SIL gets here.
You need to stress the fact that he's suicidal, not just missing.0 -
An officer showed up at my door, he didn't seem to care that much, honestly. He said, "Boyfriend who go out to the bar aren't very high on our missing person list. He probably just got drunk and hooked up with someone." Wow, thanks, officer. He took down similar information on scrap paper and left. I don't think they're going to be much help...I'm going to go out and look when my SIL gets here.
Police officers are a disgrace sometimes! Im glad you will have your SIL by your side you need support, keep us updated I really hope he turns up soon xxxxxxx0 -
I'm very sorry love. Go outside once your SIL get there and look for him. Make sure to call home just in case he gets back home. Also, keep calling the police and make sure they havent forgotten about you0
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An officer showed up at my door, he didn't seem to care that much, honestly. He said, "Boyfriend who go out to the bar aren't very high on our missing person list. He probably just got drunk and hooked up with someone." Wow, thanks, officer. He took down similar information on scrap paper and left. I don't think they're going to be much help...I'm going to go out and look when my SIL gets here.
You need to stress the fact that he's suicidal, not just missing.
She's right, you need to stress that he's suicidal and they should be able to do a cell phone trace since he is at risk...don't let that one officer get to you...I'm so sorry you just had that experience0 -
Please keep yourself safe too as you go out searching.0
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