Question about men

kk0223
kk0223 Posts: 179
edited November 10 in Chit-Chat
I am just curious. Why do men try to act "hard" in front of their friends about relationships but then act lovey-dovey and sweet to your face?

I have asked a friend this same question and her response was "that's jus thow men are..".

Does it make a man feel better about himself to not admit that he's sweet, loving and actually does think about his significant other?

I am just curious in general about this. Men act like females are confusing, and we are..but, men can be, too! For me anyways!
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  • bikermike5094
    bikermike5094 Posts: 1,752 Member
    Men dont act like that, boys do.
  • TwinkieDong
    TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
    haha sounds like the question, why dont I smile in my pictures? There is a certain expectation men have for other men, including society. It is a shark eat shark world for men. Once there is a hint of being soft other men take advantage of that and use it against you.

    However I must caveat that by stating when you get to a certain age you just dont care anymore about what others think about you (to an extent)
  • Buca412
    Buca412 Posts: 301 Member
    Men dont act like that, boys do.



    Bingo!
  • witheredorchid
    witheredorchid Posts: 164 Member
    Men dont act like that, boys do.

    This.

    My ex was always sweet to me no matter who we were with or what we were doing.
  • ❤lindsay❤dawn❤
    ❤lindsay❤dawn❤ Posts: 443
    Not all of them are like that. If anything, mine's more lovey dovey in front of His friends to let them know He's happy. : ))
  • carrie_eggo
    carrie_eggo Posts: 1,396 Member
    Men dont act like that, boys do.

    +1
  • thepetiterunner
    thepetiterunner Posts: 1,238 Member
    Men dont act like that, boys do.

    Hit the nail on the head.
  • Chairless
    Chairless Posts: 583 Member
    Men dont act like that, boys do.

    He got it.
  • judypriv
    judypriv Posts: 206 Member
    Men dont act like that, boys do.

    i love that. my boyfriends when i was young were like that and then I met my husband who is never like that. I knew he was a man. Mine is always going on with sweetness about me and the kids.
  • MaximalLife
    MaximalLife Posts: 2,447 Member
    Don't sweat that.
    We act like fools, because it's just in our nature.
    Love us ANYWAY:drinker:
  • bellavie23
    bellavie23 Posts: 83 Member
    Men dont act like that, boys do.


    I completely agree with this. If you want the girl that much, you shouldn't be ashamed to ensure everybody knows you care for her, because if you won't there is always someone out there that would love to brag about the girl being his. :/ Just saying, not a man, but any guy should know this, but as the PP just said, boys enjoy doing this, men however, have no shame in acting one way all day long.
  • MisterDubs303
    MisterDubs303 Posts: 1,216 Member
    Yes, it makes small men feel better about themselves.
  • UnderConstructionLuis
    UnderConstructionLuis Posts: 331
    Men dont act like that, boys do.

    Hit the nail on the head.

    Agreed! Agreed! Agreed!
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
    Again, Spice Girls bear relevance here: "I want a man, not a boy who thinks he can."
  • johnnythrash
    johnnythrash Posts: 19 Member
    Insane amounts of immaturity. Still have the high school alpha male captain of the football team mentality.

    Here's another question...why do a lot of girls go for that type of guy? even though most of them complain about the way they act anyway
  • Kris0109
    Kris0109 Posts: 177 Member
    Girl, you nailed my question on the head ... and the subsequent posters nailed the answer.

    Now: Wait for the boy to grow up or cut losses and run??
  • kk0223
    kk0223 Posts: 179
    I agree with the comment everyone likes.

    Thanks! :)
  • nohusuro
    nohusuro Posts: 3
    What you'll generally find is that the ones with more testosterone are the ones who generally act "less sweet" and lovey-dovey when you are with his friends.

    The reason generally comes down to our hormones, believe it or not, even in this modern day (kinda) civilized world, our primitive side still takes a large front seat when it comes to asserting dominance and rank amongst peers.
  • fionarama
    fionarama Posts: 788 Member
    I disagree with the common response. Many PEOPLE (predominantly men but not just men) don't open up emotionally except to their partner. They have their public persona and they have their softer persona. Nothing wrong with that. So they might have a bit of a tough front that gets them through the day, that doesn't mean they can't crumple in a heap on the couch with their partner at the end of it.
  • kk0223
    kk0223 Posts: 179
    Girl, you nailed my question on the head ... and the subsequent posters nailed the answer.

    Now: Wait for the boy to grow up or cut losses and run??

    Exactly! LOL That's exactly what I'm wondering. I mean, he is extremely precious. He is sweet to me in front of people. Don't get me wrong. But, I do know that when I'm not around and depending on the subject..he acts like he is hard and doesn't go to the levels he does for me. He doesn't lie about how he is but in my opinion, he needs to tell his friends how he is towards me and teach them how to be. Just saying. :)

    I won't run. I love this "boy" as others are putting it. He just needs to man up.
  • gnrshelton
    gnrshelton Posts: 358 Member
    They think it makes them sound weak. Would you really want your man to tell all his friends he is gushy mushy to you. I'm not sure I would want my man to do that. As long as they treat you right I wouldn't worry about it.
  • ahealthy4u
    ahealthy4u Posts: 442 Member
    Men dont act like that, boys do.

    My husband even before we were married never acted like that he gets ribbed on all the time from his single guy friends but he still stands up for me and has ot problem with telling me or showing me that I am important when around his guy friends.
  • SaketoKim
    SaketoKim Posts: 254 Member
    Men dont act like that, boys do.
    I love this answer. So true.
  • kk0223
    kk0223 Posts: 179
    I disagree with the common response. Many PEOPLE (predominantly men but not just men) don't open up emotionally except to their partner. They have their public persona and they have their softer persona. Nothing wrong with that. So they might have a bit of a tough front that gets them through the day, that doesn't mean they can't crumple in a heap on the couch with their partner at the end of it.

    Awesome answer! This is how I like to think. I know my man is a man. If not, he wouldn't be sweet and loving to me at the end of the day. I guess if it makes him feel better to act "hard" in front of his buddies, then so be it. Just as long as he comes home to me and leaves that attitude out the door. I'm happy. I know he loves me and cares for me. He doesn't deny it in front of friends. But, he doesn't talk about it, either.

    Suppose I should just let him be a man and get it out of his system with his friends.
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    Men dont act like that, boys do.

    ^^^ THIS
  • Tribix
    Tribix Posts: 12
    They don't want to expose themselves to an opportunity to take *kitten* from another guy
  • Skeemer118
    Skeemer118 Posts: 397 Member
    Men dont act like that, boys do.

    ^Yup. My husband is not this boy. He's a caring, compassionate man who let's his friend's know that his family comes first.
  • Heaven71
    Heaven71 Posts: 706 Member
    Men dont act like that, boys do.

    THIS^^^ Though most never grow up so there you have it!
  • I1ahunt
    I1ahunt Posts: 72
    Men dont act like that, boys do.


    insecure litle boys at that
  • glenr79
    glenr79 Posts: 283 Member
    I agree with what they said, men don't do that just boys!!!
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