Curious - How did relationships change as your weight change

Thanks for the response! It seems like for the most part-relationships were improved. My boyfriend never knew me to be skinny. In fact, when we met, I was probably close to the highest weight I've ever been. He's made it clear that he loves me regardless.

He is very easy going so when I make my low calorie meals, he'll eat it. And enjoys it. I'd like to be more in a routine for our meals, pre-planning, etc. I think it will come in time. He has lost weight just by eating differently and if he does eat unhealthy things - watching portion size.

We are planning on doing the Couch to 5k program whenever the time changes so we can do it in the afternoon together. I really think that when he sees the changes in himself that will incur, he won't want to STOP exercising. He is not that much overweight, only about 30 lbs or so and he's almost 6' so it doesn't look that bad on him but he wants to lose weight for health reasons (I think I'm repeating myself from original post!) I, on the other hand, wake up at 4 AM to get to the gym for 4:45 AM. He doesn't come with because sometimes he goes to work early in the AM. I couldn't see myself making time to go to the gym in the afternoon plus I rather not go when the gym is full of people. I also considered getting P90X or some sort of other work out program we can do at home too. All I know is that I am definitely changing physically and mentally. I do not want to sit on the sidelines of my own life.

We have a very good relationship. We can do a little better on communication but since we know that, we can work on it. I guess though that I have to realize he is supportive just not as vocal as "I" would like him to be. But as someone says, maybe he really HASN'T noticed a change yet and that's OK.

All other relationships in my life (family & friends) are good. They are all supportive. I tend to be a home-body and introverted.. I believe self-confidence has something to do with that. I can already feel myself wanting to be more sociable then I usually am!

my husband works away during the week so every friday when we see each other again its great, he can see the results of the previous week better than I can. and he's loving the results! Its been great for our relationship.
But he's working out hard too, we are slightly competitive I think in a good way.
I guess its going to be bad for couples where one person makes a major lifestyle change but the other half wants to stay the same, as jeolousies and resistance will be the result.

I agree with your last point. People will have a new focus and old compatibilities may not be the same. Luckily I feel like I am with someone who is interested in being healthy as well even if it hasn't fully "blossomed" yet.

Well, with my ex, as soon as he began to suspect that I was eating more healthily, he would suddenly appear with ice cream, chocolates, bring home takeaway meals, fry everything - just pushing food at me at every occasion. It would work out that he would go to the kitchen and come back with a high calorie snack/meal every 90 minutes, and at every point, if I said I didn't want it, he would act mortally wounded that I should reject his being nice to me.

I'd make a perfectly nice meal, and ten minutes after eating it (or him pushing it around the plate like a two year old), he would claim to be still hungry and go out and come back with about 3 meals' worth of food.

The real lightbulb moment, as opposed to feeling suspicious he just happened to do this things if I wasn't eating as much as him, was when he offered to serve the jacket potato and beans I had been preparing, and as I glanced into the kitchen, he was systematically adding chunks of butter to the beans and melting it in so I couldn't see it there.


He wasn't particularly large, and normally dated skinny girls, but he could not stand the idea that someone might look at me. Perhaps they dumped him and he thought I was less likely to - so long as I got fatter.


It took about 6 years and nearly 6 stone to realise just how bad he hated me looking healthy.


So I eventually lost 13 stone of dead weight before I could start addressing the weight I carried myself.

Hoped you dropped him along with the lbs!

He was the 13 stone I dropped first

Good!

You should really have a sit down with him. It sounds like you are emotionally drained and that's not good. You need to let him know that he needs to support you and maybe consider other options besides being a stay at home mom if you really want to work! You deserve to be able to do things for yourself too especially when you probably always take care of everyone else! I wish you the best!