Skinny people and the word fat

Or when we lose a couple pounds and our skinny 125 pound friend says, "oh your going to waste away, your getting so skinny!"... Nope I'm sure all 180 pounds of me isn't about to "waste away" anytime soon, and I'm pretty sure you're in no danger of me borrowing all you clothes anytime soon, (or ever, I'll never be 125!) It's like they just want to be the only thin one around!

i have had the same experiences..

people are starting to notice that i lost weight then ask,, how much more do you want to loose ? i say 55 pounds and they go ..... ho noooooo that would make you look way tooooo skinny..
that comes from people weighting 125 lbs . and me loosing 55 lbs would bring me to 145 .(witch is the cutting point of me being overweight to healthy).....
now thats strange...... because the next thing they say is ..... wow .. i wish i could loose some weight too... !!!!!!!!
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i think that people that are already skinny see themself as big because of the pressure from society..
my friend is 5'7'' at 120 lbs and she was ashamed of "admiting" her weight to me.. shes the type to really take notice of those celebrity magazine and videos... that just drives me bananas....
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Or when we lose a couple pounds and our skinny 125 pound friend says, "oh your going to waste away, your getting so skinny!"... Nope I'm sure all 180 pounds of me isn't about to "waste away" anytime soon, and I'm pretty sure you're in no danger of me borrowing all you clothes anytime soon, (or ever, I'll never be 125!) It's like they just want to be the only thin one around!

You actually probably don't look "fat" to her. We're our own toughest critics. Many people will tend to pick apart their own physical flaws, but overlook those of others. To her, you probably look fine, and she is wondering why you are trying to lose weight.

I have friends of all sizes that say they are fat.. even i say I am fat... But it is at a certain degree. I have love handles and my legs rub together. My friend is 50 pounds overweight. I have another friend that look soooo skinny... but we have one thing in common...We all say, "I'm getting fat", or "I'm trying to lose weight"

So what do we say to each other....
Not
"Your getting big"
"yeah, you could loose a few pounds there"
"you look anorexic"

People say "you look fine" because they are uncomfortable to tell them anything else. Some people are not born motivators. I will be offended if they are honest, I will be offended if they say I look fine, and I will be offended if they say nothing at all.

Don't worry what other people think. You are doing this for yourself. You see what needs to be done. So you have the power to get it done.

So when I say (I'm only 140..was 150 @ 5'8) I'm loosing weight and the response is. "You don't need to loose weight" My ending sentence is "you haven't seen me naked"

Good luck to you all! It all starts with loving yourself

Or when we lose a couple pounds and our skinny 125 pound friend says, "oh your going to waste away, your getting so skinny!"... Nope I'm sure all 180 pounds of me isn't about to "waste away" anytime soon, and I'm pretty sure you're in no danger of me borrowing all you clothes anytime soon, (or ever, I'll never be 125!) It's like they just want to be the only thin one around!

You actually probably don't look "fat" to her. We're our own toughest critics. Many people will tend to pick apart their own physical flaws, but overlook those of others. To her, you probably look fine, and she is wondering why you are trying to lose weight.

I will agree I am my own worst critic but when some woman who is 125 pounds looks at me (at 400 + pounds) and tells me I look fine or That she knows how hard it is and she just can't seem to shed that extra few pounds I feel like reaching out and strangling her. There is no way people look at me and not see the fat. I just wish that people who have never had more than 20 pounds to lose in thier entire lives would realize there is no way they know what it is like to need to lose 200 pounds. It is like a kick in the teeth to hear someone that size say they are fat!

Nobody sees their weight the way other people see it. I recently confessed to a close friend that I was trying to drop about fifty pounds and she said that I looked more like I could lift that much than I could stand to lose it. I kinda see what she's talking about, but at the same time all I also see someone who hopes like crazy that their work uniform comes in an XXL. Skinny people almost never see all the weight you think you need to lose.

This must be a female thing. Guys saw me start working out about 8 months ago and just said "your crazy man, I wouldn't put myself through that." and now they still say it but they add "but you can tell your looking a lot thinner now." Where they immediately regret saying something like that to a guy and turn and walk away as fast as pride allows. LOL! It's usually a pretty funny scene. Sometimes I feel like I have an unfair advantage being a guy and doing this, woman definately have a lot more pressure on them for this stuff. It's pretty rare when a guy gets vindictive or jealous over another guy's body. Unless he's oogling your wife, then it becomes a different story.
I hear all the stories on here about female friends trying to sabotage your success. For guys, they pretty much put it out there. My friends say things like "Dude, eat what you want, but I'm still ordering the potato skins and buffalo fingers. But I'll keep em out of your reach if you want."
Course these are the same guys that will be wondering why I have 30 stolen bases this year when they have 6. LOL!

Not to argue but as a "skinny person" I thought i would offer my view. I am and have always eaten relatively healthy, you would not find me in a fast food restaurant and i have always done some form of exercise, I also walk a lot because i live in NY. Over the last couple of years things like grad school and living with a boy have changed my eating a little (love cheese and wine and wings and beer). After a while it king of catches up with you. Please understand that someone who is 127 when they are used to being 120 and wants to get back to their former self is often critisized for wanting to do so. I know it is a "different" kind of weight loss than others might be going through but it is actually really hard to lose weight when you have little to lost.

I do not thing thin people don't want you thin. I think that is silly, but i understand where you are coming from. I always notice when friends who are a little larger lose some weight and i am always encouraging because it is more about losing weight it is about making a change (more of a change then say a skinny person is making)

I know this may not apply but it is kind of like someone with money troubles complaining about it to someone wealthy. It is uncomfortable for the wealthy one and the poor one is thinking the wealthy one is judging them the whole time. So complain about your lack of money with your fellow poor friends but don't hesitate to ask your rich friends for advice. That way everyone no one feels "weird"

Discussing Weight Loss falls into the Sex & Politics Category....oooo Grass Cutting & Fertilizing tooo.....TABOO SUBJECTS to steer clear of.

I think society has made EVERYONE self conscious, regardless of our outward appearance. There are many, many skinny people with even lower self esteem than some heavier people.

And it is THOSE skinny people that look at those that are heavier ("pleasantly plump" as my grandpa used to describe grandma!), and it makes them feel better about themselves.

So if those heavier people were to become skinny, the skinny people don't feel so special anymore.

That is my take on it.

I happen to not be heavy or overweight. I am just trying to get healthier and tone up what I already have. But I have always had friends of all sizes. And I've noticed the differences in behavior of the skinny people towards the heavier ones, and I really think they want them to stay fat in order for the skinny people to keep getting the good attention from it.

well said!