Is your 'other half' supportive enough??

I feel like I'm just coming here to brag, but my boyfriend is really supportive. If I gain a few pounds, he always says, "Well, I sure can't tell!" If I lose a few pounds he is really congratulatory and supportive. He has even started expressing interest in eating healthier and working out.

I am a lucky girl my husband is super supportive and is always trying to help me even though he doesnt need to loose any weight, he eats what I eat and usually works out with me at the gym. :bigsmile: It has not always been this way, before he ate bad things in front of me, and never worked out with me, when I was having health problems because of my weight, it scared him and me both and we had a serious talk about why I needed to do this, and it all changed, he is on board with me 100%

My wife and I go to the gym together and log MFP together and have made great gains together. She's lost 37 lb and I have lost 45. We recently renewed our vows after 25 years of marriage. Things couldn't be better. )

I am a lucky girl! My husband has been there every step of the way. He has never had a weight problem ( 10 lbs maybe and drops it in no time) . He listens,encourages and gently guides. I think he has been the reason I have done so well.

'seems' annoyed? Don't assume that she is annoyed. Most women are PRETTY clear about if if they are truly annoyed. Just keep doing what you're doing. Do it for you. Separate time & interests is GOOD for a healthy relationship.

Don't give up and don't try to read her mind. Humans were given the ability to speak for a reason.

Thank you ALL very much for the helpful responses!! they have been great to read,

My problem is that I'm an all or nothing type of person. I either have to obsess over something or I just lose interest. And i think its partly me that keeps talking about the things im doing that bores her. I try to help her when i can but she cheats regularly and when i bring it up she gets all defensive. I have however realized that, as long as I keep doing what I'm doing then I'll be happy in myself, and in turn she will have a super healthy lean Husband!

I'll have a chat with her today and see if she is up for a big push for a month to make a difference!! because if she is losing weight then she will be happy meaning I will be happy menaing We'll be happy.!

Thanks again everyone!!!

I started off by doing WeightWatchers propoints and got NO support whatsoever from the other half. I then heard about this and he's got much better as it seems to 'fit in' more with his ideas of how people should lose weight - not the calorie counting bit, but balancing carbs, protein and fat. He's even joined the gym with me and eating better himself, HOWEVER only because he wants to! Now I get a little disheartened cos he loses it quicker than I do because he's got more pre-existing muscle than I have, even though I am like you - all or nothing - and have been trying my very VERY bestest with food and exercise. There's little more I could do so don't see how I could compete with his losses (mentally, I mean - I'm a naturally competitive person and compare my achievements with others!)

My advice...if she's trying to lose weight herself, don't criticise her in any way - she WILL get snappy and defensive!!! See if there is something that you could include her in that she enjoys or agrees with and bring her round that way - you can then build it into your joint routines and do it together, so she won't get hacked off 'hanging around waiting for you' ;-)

Maybe if she sees you being 'too successful' at losing weight she could even start feeling insecure about herself - we girlies can be strange little creatures!!

Good luck.x

My husband is supportive of anything I do I am anal about exercising and eating healthy foods. He is not as concerned about weight and eating as I am, and he is the cook.

Sometimes we eat different things, and I exercise harder and more often than him. We sometimes exercise together, but it can be frustrating for both of us because of the different intensities that we desire.

All that said, if your girlfriend is not supportive of your exercising, and you feel you can't tell her about your weight loss now, I would be concerned about entering into a marriage. Now it is weight and exercise, but after your wedding, it could be other things.

People don't change for the better after marriage, they become more comfortable and the "real" them emerges.

I would say that she's supportive to a degree. She doesn't log or count calories....we tried doing this before, and for some reason it drove her crazy.....so it's not her thing....I don't judge or harp on her about it.....she looks good but complains about how she looks, yet does nothing about it (she's 5'3 and a little over 120, so I think she looks fine) We were going through a phase where she would get mad at me for going when she didn't or couldn't (whatever excuse was coming up that day). We've talked about it several times, mostly because I had to broach the subject. She feels that me going and her not makes her look bad.....now, honestly, I can't begin to wrap my head around the concept, but have come to terms that my health is more important than her "face". Before I'd plan to set up days for us to go together and would end up disappointed, and worse yet out my own training schedule. So nowadays I just go without her because I'm off work 2 hours before her leaving me plenty of time to get what I need done. She talks of getting back into it, but that seems to fall flat often. I actually had to tell the person who runs our fitness place that if we come in together to pretend like he's never seen me......and in summary I feel like I have to cheat on my wife with fitness.....so, how I handle it is I tell her how much weight I've lost, but not how I'm getting it done. I can tell you that while your situation might be irritating, it could be worse.

My fiance is 45lbs less than me... and not really supportive. We don't even talk about it. A few weeks ago he did say that when i lose a certain amount that he will start losing as well.. but he said it won't take him long. -.- He's got more muscle than me , where mine is fat of course. The people at work are really proud of me and we talk about it a lot. I even have people motivated to get healthy as well. We are having a contest called The Slim down Showdown at work. We are on teams and have 8 weeks to get healthy and we will see what team wins. It's all about losing weight in the contest but i really don't see how that's fair, people can lose inches and stay the same or gain muscle. Blah.. I'm straying away from the subject. lol

I know the feeling. I love my husband, but like me, he could stand to lose a few pounds too. I've been trying to get huim to go to the gym with me or just to eat healthier in general, but he never wants to. He's happy for me when I lose a few pounds, but then he just complains about how he's "too fat to exercise". It drives me nuts!