Friend Request denials.

Maybe the like country music. ;-)

If thats the case then who would want to be friends with them?

I get a lot of friend requests and accept them all, even the ones without messages, although I ask for people to add a little note in their requests. I will sometimes delete people later on if we seem to be in really different places (like the young girls who are starving themselves, I don't know why my profile attracts them, but I seem to--and I will usually have to delete them at some point).

On that note, I'm gonna send you a friend request because we live in the same state and your socks rock

I've been denied like the last three FRs I sent out. I'm starting to get a teeny bit of a complex. Do I smell? Better question yet is, why am I fretting about it?


Now, I deny blank FRs, but I say that in my profile. If someone sends you a FR and they add a message (and it's not creepy ...) what reason(s) would you still give them a deny? (saying of course that you are accepting them at all)

I am one of those guilty ones who sends those blank FR's & yes I have been denied so many times likely b/c I didn't add a quick note. I know if I receive a request I will accept. The more the merrier I say as we go about our journeys to better health & wellness. I will from now on send a quick hello with my FR's.

If I dont feel a connection or want to keep my list small,ive added every single friends request before and it turns into a big ole mess

I try to keep my friend list small, so for me it is usually only because we seem not to have many goals in common. I also typically delete my friends who are ALWAYS negative, or are eating too low of calories. Women who add me that clearly have a disorder won't be accepted. Been there, done that, don't need the unhealthy triggers. Also, if I do accept someone, and they never give support or we don't communicate with each other, I also delete them.

I seem so hard to please, lol. But honestly, this is not an easy journey and I have learned that having 75+ friends and negativity floating around really does not help me at all- nor can I be as supportive as I would like.

I warned them about your potty mouth.

But seriously though, certain keywords cause your friend request to not get sent. One example would be profanity. If you say **** or ****, in the friend request, the other person will never get it.

Oh I did not know that. I rarely have this problem as I usually don't send FRs but I usually accept them and then delete or hide the person at a later date if they end up being creepy or annoying.

It's true. We did extensive testing a long time back. There also seem to be some other random triggers that make FR's mysteriously never get received, but as you might imagine, it's very hard to diagnose this from the end user's perspective. Or it might just be a random bug.

While I don't recall ever cursing in a FR, I have sent a few that never got a response. People in the crowd I think I hang with. No response. I'm going to choose to believe that this is why. Thanks, Taso.

I know for a fact that many requests that are sent to me hit the spam box before I ever see them.
For some reason, I draw some awesomely worded requests apparently.

I try to keep my friend list small, so for me it is usually only because we seem not to have many goals in common. I also typically delete my friends who are ALWAYS negative, or are eating too low of calories. Women who add me that clearly have a disorder won't be accepted. Been there, done that, don't need the unhealthy triggers. Also, if I do accept someone, and they never give support or we don't communicate with each other, I also delete them.

I seem so hard to please, lol. But honestly, this is not an easy journey and I have learned that having 75+ friends and negativity floating around really does not help me at all- nor can I be as supportive as I would like.

there missing out cause you are an AWESOME friend!

After reading your profile, I would have to say it could be because they may not have the same sense of humor. Luckily, I do.

Don't take it personally though, I've been dropped as a friend a fair number of times. Be a duck (rollin' off your back).