Is taking my own pancake mix too far?

This is what I would do. I see nothing wrong with it at all. If someone asks you can say why you brought them for real or just say you have an allergy that prevents you from eating the others lol!
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Wow! Now people are suggesting you lie about why you bring your own food? I hope this is a joke.
If you really need to take your own food talk to the hostess first or eat before you go. But don't lie about it. How does that help anyone understand that being healthy is important to you?

My theory is: If you can't attend social events without constantly worrying about calories and diet, you might as well stay in your house forever!

Life is way too short. Eat, drink and be merry! You won't gain 10 lbs overnight and you will most likely be under your TDEE.

Enjoy the pancake/pizza party!

This. Said perfectly!

I enjoy pizza and ice cream with my kids. It's about moderation.

I'm with lynheff. Bring a huge salad to share. That way you aren't putting off your hostess by having her cook you something special at the last minute (planning a party with food is enough work) and you are adding to the party (instead of eating something you can not share). If you really feel guilty about eating too much of something why not burn off the calories by offering to help the hostess clean up?

Hopefully the other folks at the pancake/pizza party will be having too much fun stuffing their own faces and chatting to pay any attention to whether or not you are bringing your own pancakes. If I was having the party, and I wasn't able to accomodate ALL of my guests' dietary needs, then I wouldn't blink twice if they brought something... Shoot, I wouldn't care if they brought something even if there wasn't a dietary need.

I am going to have to stop reading this thread b/c it's making my blood boil. Haha! (I need to get over it.) I am literally flabbergasted by how ridiculous I find the attitude that eating the pancakes that make you comfortable is a big deal or rude or a reason to not be friends with someone. Oh well, our differences make the world go round I suppose. Now I am going to take a chill pill, forbid myself from reading this thread anymore and being uber thankful that I hang out with people who would support my weight loss goals if I felt like I needed to bring my own pancake mix. This is not a topic that I would have predicted would turn out to be so divisive...I had no idea we all had such strong feelings about this. Funny.