Question for all ladies that go to night clubs with their fr

'I'll talk to anyone. I'm super nice. But as soon as your penis touches my *kitten* without me knowing, I'm not happy.' - Jenna Marbles

aahhaha i love jenna

Ok so i recently went to a club in NYC and i see a couple of group of girls. Girls looked good... but then the girls just danced with each other. Thats fine.

but then i saw these random fellas try to dance with one of the girls and no luck. Then i see the moronic man who tries to grind behind and still no luck. LOL not surprised..

but then i ask myself, is it a lose lose situation. Does a guy have no chance approaching a girl at a club? is the setting the bad place? i mean even if a guy asked a girl politely, "want to dance?" they would get shot down.

what say you ladies?

You gotta challenge them to a dance off......loser buys drinks!!!

usually girls go to the club to dance/have fun with their girlfriends.

see i always thought the same thing.... just sucks for the guy i guess. i'm married and dont care but its hilarious to see some guys try hard.

oh and another thing, are girls just getting really dressed up and looking extremely hot for their girlfriends?

no, we dress that way for ourselves lol, you just feel better when you look your best...don't get me wrong though, if we're attracted to the guy making a move and are single we wouldn't turn them down

I gotta say, i think some of the ladies here are not quite being honest... i'll get hated on for this, i know, but here goes. I dress up and look cute cause i like it. I like that my girlfriends think i look good. AND, i like getting noticed by guys. I'm married, been with him for 9 years, but still, it's nice to know someone still finds you attractive.

when i'm dancing with girlfriends, i'll usually stick with my girlfriends though. when a guy comes up, again, it's a bit flattering that they are trying, and i know it takes balls for a guy to approach a group of girls, so i usually don't shoot him down. (like the others, unless he's really creepy!) Yes i'm married. yes i'm with my friends. but there is nothing wrong with dancing with someone. i'm not doing him, and i make that clear from the beginning.

My girlfriends are the same way. we dance together, but if someone has the balls to try to join, he's usually welcome to it. of course we draw lines, but in general, it's fine. and when we were single, BRING 'EM ON!!! :laugh:

I know this isn't what the Men want to hear, but I have to agree with you on this one. My husband and I have had this conversation many time. He was never a clubber so he doesn't get it. Girls DO NOT go to the club for the same reasons guys do. Guys go to pick up women, women go for the ego boost.

While yes I go to have a good time with my girls. I have to admit that the hott clothes and the stripper dance moves are all for my ego. I like knowing that I still have it and showing my husband others still want it. Just in case he thinking about going anywhere. LOL

Ok so i recently went to a club in NYC and i see a couple of group of girls. Girls looked good... but then the girls just danced with each other. Thats fine.

but then i saw these random fellas try to dance with one of the girls and no luck. Then i see the moronic man who tries to grind behind and still no luck. LOL not surprised..

but then i ask myself, is it a lose lose situation. Does a guy have no chance approaching a girl at a club? is the setting the bad place? i mean even if a guy asked a girl politely, "want to dance?" they would get shot down.

what say you ladies?

with this particular group of girls, perhaps they were having a "girls night" because they're all married or in relationships?

usually girls go to the club to dance/have fun with their girlfriends.

see i always thought the same thing.... just sucks for the guy i guess. i'm married and dont care but its hilarious to see some guys try hard.

oh and another thing, are girls just getting really dressed up and looking extremely hot for their girlfriends?

haha my friend and I just had this discussion! Women dont dress up for men they dress up for other women! lol :P

To an extent, women do dress up for men. We all expect to get attention when we know we look hot. But really it isn't about the men. It is about being equally if not hotter then your group of friends. Whoever get the most attention wins. Sorry but it is true.

If I was at least a little attracted to a guy who asked politely I would not shoot him down. But the grinding thing? Gross and bordering on sexual assault.

I also had a situation last time I went dancing with girlfriends where some random guy (old enough to be my father and NOT attractive) saw me get up to go dance with my friends. My friends were going up there, but had to wait for something, so I was trying to wait for them and this man literally grabbed my arm and tried to drag me to the dance floor even as I was telling him I was not ready to go out there. A guy who does that doesn't stand a chance, either, even if he's attractive to me.

Yeah, I had a guy old enough to be my dad do the exact same thing, except with a lot of *kitten* groping too. That is just horrible. Even if he were Ryan Gosling's twin, I would not be cool with that. Have some respect please.

I've only been to a club once, I was highly intoxicated when I arrived and Allll i wanted to do was dance with my girlfriends. But there was a catch, both my girlfriends had their boyfriends there.. they went for "protection" but wound up dancing anyway, sooo me being the 5th wheel, we all 5 danced together, haha welllll i guess it was obvious i was the lone wolf, and i got approached SO many times...They were all by these guys that were like tryin to feel me all over and freaking get nasty,... NO. I saw it work all night with other girls, girls who I saww their lady parts, so it made sense for them to accept the dances, but thats a reason I never wanna go back. All i did was walk away from the guys but they left me alone after the initial shut down. thank goodness!!

Bartending for many years at night clubs has proved that the arrogant ones get either turned down, or toyed with. Occasionally, that one prick will find himself a girl who's just as arrogant and they'll put on a show. He'll buy her drinks ALL night long, she'll give him what he wants on the dance floor and when it's time to go, she'll disappear. Most of time when girls go in a group, they won't budge unless they're single, take a liking to you, and you've approached them with respect. I've seen a girl deck a guy because he tried to get a grind in :laugh: Personally, if I go to a club with my girls, I'm there to be with my girls. And I never let a guy buy me a drink or send a drink to my table. I've seen way too many girls get sloppy way too quickly to trust that the drink wasn't spiked. You may be a fabulous, trusting, amazing man, but you're not buying me a drink.

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When I took Philsophy in the summer of 2011, my professor was telling us how love is just a chemical reaction and you get the same effects if you are addicted to drugs. That's why people fall out of love, cause soon the chemicals in the brain stop mixing. It's possible to fall back in love with someone.

Anyway, while we were talking about that he brought up how they did a study in the UK about the amount of skin women showed at a club. Now bare with me because I don't know the science terms for all this. They tested the women's hormonal levels to see if they were ovulating or not. Those that were showed more skin to attract a male than does that weren't. Even married women did the same thing.

We're animals people!! Get that right before you say anything. Sure you have a thought process and say "I'm getting dressed for my girlfriends" (which I find HIGHLY annoying) but chances are your primate instincts are kicking in and you're actually trying to attract a suitable mate even if you are involved with one.

Same things with males. They usually tend to go for the women with child baring hips. Why? Because men are here to breed. Women want someone that is a provider (biologically speaking of course...which means Independence is a myth). That's why most women drool over the big guy with muscles.

Okay I'm done cause I can't remember anything else and I'm sure none of you will read this because no one reads my posts. Take care you creepy little animals:flowerforyou:

I thought clubs were made for people to get laid?! Jersey Shore is not teaching me well...:(

Typically, I don't think girls expect to find "nice guys" at a club. I know there are probably plenty of nice men who go and just like to dance, but I don't think I'd pass my number out to anybody while clubbing.