How to handle a boy bully against girls?

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I would let him know that this has to end immediately. Make him responsible for his boy's actions. You have to be prepared to hold him to it.

While my opinion may not be the most popular one, I'll say it anyways.

Tell your daughter to punch him in the face next time he threatens her or bullies her. It may be just the thing to get him off her back.

I agree except that she will get suspended. School is the only place in the world where you don't have a right to defend yourself.

^^^ This is very true and sad. I have always told both of my kids to stick up for themselves!! If someone hits or pushes them they have been told and taught to fight back! If the school decides to punish them fine but if they were to really pay attention to the children’s files they would know my kids are the ones with fantastic grades and NO discipline problems. For the part these bullies are already problem children at school.

Bullies will bully until someone puts them in their place!!

ETA: Going to the parents is usually pointless, where do you think the behavior is learned from.......

OK. I will NOT have my daughter punching or kicking over verbal harassment. I also will not be jumping on any school buses to scare the crap out of a kid. I kind of like A: Not spending a weekend in jail, or B: Having to pay fines, So we can stop suggesting that because it isn't going to happen.

I called the school today. The woman I need to speak to is out of the office until this afternoon, at which point I have assured I will get a call back.

I think you're taking the high road and showing your daughters how to deal with things maturely. It's absolutely terrible that your daughter is being bullied - I was bullied in elementary school as well. Like many others have very well suggested, stick to dealing with the school and making an appointment with the stupid little boy and his oblivious father, the PRINCIPAL - no one else, talk with the principal, and see if an officer can be present - it'll scare the boy and maybe the father will take it more seriously.

the school isnt going to do shlt.. they're only out to cover their own @ss. take this to the police, file a complaint for harassment, let the police handle it.. the school will not give you satisfaction.

Sadly, I agree about the school. You always hear about how parents go to the school and nothing happens until it's too late and someone really ends up hurt. Watch or read the news and you'll find a story every day about how a parent kept going to the school and they did nothing.

Request a meeting with the principal, the kids and the parents. If you go to either the parents or the principal without gathering everyone together, there's a good chance the situation will never be resolved.

the school isnt going to do shlt.. they're only out to cover their own @ss. take this to the police, file a complaint for harassment, let the police handle it.. the school will not give you satisfaction.

Sadly, I agree about the school. You always hear about how parents go to the school and nothing happens until it's too late and someone really ends up hurt. Watch or read the news and you'll find a story every day about how a parent kept going to the school and they did nothing.

This is because it's not a news story when the school nips it in the bud and reprimands the bully. I'm not going to state emphatically that this school WILL do something, but he definitely should start there.

Does anyone else think that a fifth grader threatening murder of another classmates parents is seriously off? The fact that his parent, a religious teacher, took it so lightly also gives me weird vibes. Is it possible he is crying out for help in the only way he knows how? To act the way he is treated at home? I know its possible that hes just a rotten kid but sometimes their are extenuating circumstances. Like kids who shoot up their schools and we find out later that they were bullied mercilessly with no intervention from the parents of the bullies or support from the school. Protect your daughters by getting on the schools case and keeping the situation at the forefront with all involved but dont be so quick to judge the boy. I personally knew a boy that was extremely aggressive and angry. He also defecated in his pants often all the way up to middle school. Later we discovered his father was raping him throughout his childhood. It wasnt until he was strong enough to fight back physically that it stopped. Please pay attention to the children around you. Some may just be looking for someone to save them.

when i was a child i was beat up by a few boys... and then as an adult i was beat up by a man.... i suggest learning self defense... and carrying pepper spray.

daughters need to be taught at a young age how to defend themselves and what is acceptable and what is NEVER acceptable.

Does anyone else think that a fifth grader threatening murder of another classmates parents is seriously off? The fact that his parent, a religious teacher, took it so lightly also gives me weird vibes. Is it possible he is crying out for help in the only way he knows how? To act the way he is treated at home? I know its possible that hes just a rotten kid but sometimes their are extenuating circumstances. Like kids who shoot up their schools and we find out later that they were bullied mercilessly with no intervention from the parents of the bullies or support from the school. Protect your daughters by getting on the schools case and keeping the situation at the forefront with all involved but dont be so quick to judge the boy. I personally knew a boy that was extremely aggressive and angry. He also defecated in his pants often all the way up to middle school. Later we discovered his father was raping him throughout his childhood. It wasnt until he was strong enough to fight back physically that it stopped. Please pay attention to the children around you. Some may just be looking for someone to save them.

Yes! That is not language I'd ever expect to hear come out of a young child's mouth unless something was SERIOUSLY off. Hopefully it's nothing as drastic as the boy you knew, but I certainly think he needs regular counselling when all this has been sorted out. To be that aggressive and to use language like that at any age is bad, but to use it as a young child is very strange and disturbing.

Wow, it sounds like the school is taking it very seriously. Good for them. I've had issues on the school bus with my 7-year old who, along with a bunch of his peers, was being bullied by a 5th grader. After having a less than satisfying outcome during the meeting with the principal, I now drive him to and from school. Good for you for taking care of it.