when is it okay to post you're pregnant?

I think it's a personal choice.

I've read that at least 25% of women's first pregnancies end in miscarriage -and those are only the ones that are documented so it's definitely higher than that. My boss's wife was about seven weeks pregnant when she let it slip out. Everyone knew, family friends, the old lady down the street... She ended up miscarrying and it was so hard for her to tell every one. She got pregnant again and carried healthy full-term girl. She also waited 13 weeks before she told people the second time. So I would say that the girl you know should have probably waited, but if she feels confident telling "the world" at seven weeks, more power to her. To each their own, I suppose

I think it is a personal choice and there is no 'shoulds' and 'musts'.

12 weeks from a person that knows. People like to spread good news not bad. I had someone ask how my pregnancy was going 4 weeks after the miscarriage. I felt as bad for him and I did for myself. Take it from me keep the secret.

Agree. Personal choice.

If it were my decision alone, I would tell people as soon as I knew. I'd want to share it with the world.

My fiancé has asked that when the time comes, I wait until the second trimester as he doesn't want to have to explain things if they go wrong. My own thought is that I'd rather people knew early, because I'd have far more trouble saying:

"I'm upset because I was pregnant, and had a miscarriage" when people didn't know in the first place, than saying:

"I had a miscarriage" when they already knew.

But, I'll be following his wishes. It'll be difficult, but I will.

Definitely a personal choice. I don't really think its a question of right or wrong timing more a question of whether you will be strong enough to explain to people that you have miscarried when the start asking you about the baby.

With both my kids, I waited until around 12 weeks. I think I told my parents a little early (around 10 or 11 weeks) with my second simply because I was going to be visiting and staying on a boat in close quarters with them for almost a week. At that point I was falling asleep every time I sat down and was still for more than 10 seconds so I knew that they would notice something was up. Easier just to tell them than to try to evade the subject for a week only to come home and call them a day or two later to tell them.

I know a lot of people are just too excited to not say anything for weeks at a time. However, it is usually best to wait and get through the first trimester safely before you tell the world...

Personal Choice. The pitfall to early announcement is possible miscarriage and then having to tell everyone that too... That's why some people choose to wait.

I too think it is a personal choice. I was pregnant, and told close friends and family, but when you have a large family that knows everybody, word gets out............and then I miscarried. It was very awkward for the people who knew---awkward for me and for them. That said, I would still tell early-family and close friends as I needed that support when I did miscarry...had I not told them I would not have had the support system that I had.

I would, however NOT post it on facebook at 6 or 7 weeks. But, then the "safe" time to tell is 12 weeks,..........and my cousin told everyone she was expecting right at 12 weeks, only to m/c at 13 weeks............so I guess you just never know.

I don't think this is a Miss Manners (etiquette) kind of thing. The only reason that some choose to wait is because early miscarriage is actually quite common. That didn't stop me from telling all of my online buddies when I was about seven MINUTES pregnant. :laugh:

Oddly enough, the one time I waited to tell anyone I was pregnant, I let people know at that magical 12 weeks, and I miscarried when I was 14.5 weeks along.

Its a personal choice. I told my friends on fb at 6 weeks..I mean hey if something did happen then I know I would have all of there support.

We told our parents and close family as soon as we found out (I was about 7 weeks). Had to tell my work about it immediately because of job requirements I wasnt able to fulfill due to the pregnancy (around some chemicals). Told close friends and other family members around 11 weeks....then had bleeding and thought I was having miscarriage within a few days. Turned out ok, obviously, but I said that if we ever have another, I am not telling ANYONE other than my fiance before the second trimester.

Personal choice. I have had 8 pregnancies and have 3 living children. After losing my daughter at 18 weeks, I swore I wouldn't tell a soul if we got pg again. However, it took 2 1/2 years to get pregnant after her and by the time I saw 2 lines on the test I couldn't wait to tell everyone. I'm glad I did because the support was wonderful. Yes, a lot can happen during a pregnancy. Of my 5 losses, two were 2nd trimester, 3 were 1st trimester. I think it depends on how much support you would like to have. I am glad with my losses I had told others because they were there for me and I knew others were praying for me. When I told my husband I was pg with our son, I told him at work. Everyone at his command knew what we had been through and that we were trying again so it was a happy occasion we wanted to share with friends.

its personal i guess. but i think that id wait, to be safe! but i think its a bit 'tacky' to post it on facebook, just tll the people you know by mouth!

I close friend of mine had a stillborn with her first child so is of the mentality that tragedy can strike any time and the good news of pregnancy should be celebrated as soon as possible. I think she was only 5 or 6 weeks pregnant each time when she told us about carrying her next three.