Healthy Eating Harassment

Dahllywood
Dahllywood Posts: 642 Member
edited November 12 in Motivation and Support
So this has been in full effect recently since I am on spring break with a bunch of friends, but does anyone else get nagged on or "harassed" for eating healthy? It seems like every time I make a meal someone is harassing me for eating healthy.
"A bowl of cheerios and a banana for breakfast? Gross"
"What are you a rabbit? (Celery and carrots)"
"Would you like some turkey with that sandwich?" (Making a sandwich with a bunch of greens)

It just seems like a nonstop cycle of being "criticized" for being healthy, and it's really annoying but also demoralizing. I'm trying to do the right thing (especially during break) and I'm just getting negative comments on it.

This happens at home with my roommates also. They order pizza or are eating desserts, and I'm sitting there with an apple and get bashed. It even happens when we go out to eat. If I order a salad or a "healthy" option I'm cast as a bad guy (I ordered a bison burger with a low-carb bun the other day and got bashed by the entire table!) :(
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  • nessafly
    nessafly Posts: 58
    I happens all the time. People are too lazy to eat healthy themselves and feel threatened-guilty when they see someone else who does. I always notice true friends and people who love you are happy and supportive, and may even help or join you :wink:
  • thepetiterunner
    thepetiterunner Posts: 1,238 Member
    Well, I suppose you could retaliate by commenting on what they're eating, but I'm guessing you want to be the bigger person :)

    Not everyone understands. Not everyone likes being shown a mirror that displays the poor choices THEY are making, which is what happens when you choose to eat something healthy and they reach for a slice of pizza.

    I guess in your position I would do one of the following:

    1. Ask them to knock it off because it bothers you (but, given their relative insensitivity, I'm not sure they'd be so open to this).
    2. Say "what's it to you if I eat this? Does this affect you in some way?"
    3. Just play along, smile and nod, eventually they'll tire of it.

    It's frustrating when everyone else is poking fun at you, I still get this to some degree even though I've been at this for nearly 2 years. It's more about them and less about you. Do what you need/want to do and tune out the rest.
  • cmeade20
    cmeade20 Posts: 1,238 Member
    I usually find when you snap at someone to mind their own business a few time they learn to mind their own business.
  • iuew
    iuew Posts: 624 Member
    So this has been in full effect recently since I am on spring break with a bunch of friends, but does anyone else get nagged on or "harassed" for eating healthy? It seems like every time I make a meal someone is harassing me for eating healthy.
    "A bowl of cheerios and a banana for breakfast? Gross"
    "What are you a rabbit? (Celery and carrots)"
    "Would you like some turkey with that sandwich?" (Making a sandwich with a bunch of greens)

    It just seems like a nonstop cycle of being "criticized" for being healthy, and it's really annoying but also demoralizing. I'm trying to do the right thing (especially during break) and I'm just getting negative comments on it.

    This happens at home with my roommates also. They order pizza or are eating desserts, and I'm sitting there with an apple and get bashed. It even happens when we go out to eat. If I order a salad or a "healthy" option I'm cast as a bad guy (I ordered a bison burger with a low-carb bun the other day and got bashed by the entire table!) :(

    yep.

    my favorite :

    hey, we're trying out the new massive portion restaurant with nothing healthy on the menu / friedsugarlard all you can eat buffet. come on, man, you can eat every once in a while.

    nope. door locked, phone unplugged. lol
  • WhatDoesLisa
    WhatDoesLisa Posts: 214
    Ok, if that is really you in the picture (HA HA) then who cares what people say? You look like you are in great shape! I wish I had that commitment, maybe that's what all the sniping is about? We criticize in others what we can't do ourselves.:smile:
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,990 Member
    It should only bother you if you feel you're depriving yourself.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • treetop57
    treetop57 Posts: 1,578 Member
    Your profile provides your comeback:
    I have already lost 65 lbs and don't plan on losing any more, so I just want to use MFP to keep my weight where it is.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    ALL
    THE
    TIME

    An my answer is always the same... I c o c k an eyebrow and tell them its making my sex life incredible.
  • cinasana
    cinasana Posts: 40
    They're jealous ;) And probably all contemplating doing the same....

    You look GREAT. Keep it up.
  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
    Really? All of you have friends that harrass you and bash you for what you eat? Do you make comments about their food or something? I am around some pretty nasty people on a regular basis and they don't even do this.

    If you are eating what you are happy eating, then don't worry what anyone else says about what you are eating. If you are complaining or commenting about how you want to eat that other stuff, then budget for some fried/sugar/allyoucaneat/pizza. Just make sure you don't go overboard and do it every night. I will go out with people and if there is nothing someplace I want to eat, then I enjoy their company. I don't make anyone feel bad about what they are eating and if they ask, I just say I am not hungry, but I am enjoying their company. Not so hard, and I don't have to lock myself in my house and not answer my phone.
  • treetop57
    treetop57 Posts: 1,578 Member
    An my answer is always the same... I c o c k an eyebrow and tell them its making my sex life incredible.

    Love it!
  • mamamc03
    mamamc03 Posts: 1,067 Member
    :
    ALL
    THE
    TIME

    An my answer is always the same... I c o c k an eyebrow and tell them its making my sex life incredible.

    ^^^THIS!!:love:
  • tig_ol_bitties
    tig_ol_bitties Posts: 561 Member
    I would make better friends.
  • darlilama
    darlilama Posts: 794 Member
    ALL
    THE
    TIME

    An my answer is always the same... I c o c k an eyebrow and tell them its making my sex life incredible.


    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • skierxjes
    skierxjes Posts: 926 Member
    My 2 best friends from high school were having this problem over spring break. One has put on a solid 50lbs since graduation and wanted to eat out every single day, while the other friend and I are working on losing weight. The friend didn't say anything to me, but bitched for DAYS that the other friend wouldn't go out the last 2 nights because she's watching what she eats..

    I think she really does feel guilty that we're both losing weight and she's still packing it on. That's probably the case with your friends, as well.
  • rockerbabyy
    rockerbabyy Posts: 2,258 Member
    maybe im just lucky - but ALL of my friends and family support me. ive never gotten crap for making a healthier choice, or eating a smaller portion than everyone else.
    that said, i also dont shy away from socializing. if we're going out to eat at red robin, i figure out my calories FOR THE WEEK. i may over do it that day, but it gets made up for at some point (if not that day). if we're going to an all you can eat place, im in heaven ;)
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    I love when people stop by a thread just to happily announce to everyone having this problem, that they dont have it, AT ALL

    :smile:
  • watboy
    watboy Posts: 380 Member
    I just ask "are you going to finish that chip on your shoulder?
  • rockerbabyy
    rockerbabyy Posts: 2,258 Member
    I love when people stop by a thread just to happily announce to everyone having this problem, that they dont have it, AT ALL

    :smile:
    god forbid someone share different experiences ;)
  • jennifer52484
    jennifer52484 Posts: 888 Member
    I love when people stop by a thread just to happily announce to everyone having this problem, that they dont have it, AT ALL

    :smile:

    lol.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    I love when people stop by a thread just to happily announce to everyone having this problem, that they dont have it, AT ALL

    :smile:
    god forbid someone share different experiences ;)

    AWESOME im off to the ball cancer threads to share my experience with not having balls
  • rockerbabyy
    rockerbabyy Posts: 2,258 Member
    I love when people stop by a thread just to happily announce to everyone having this problem, that they dont have it, AT ALL

    :smile:
    god forbid someone share different experiences ;)

    AWESOME im off to the ball cancer threads to share my experience with not having balls
    have fun!
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    Really? All of you have friends that harrass you and bash you for what you eat? Do you make comments about their food or something? I am around some pretty nasty people on a regular basis and they don't even do this.

    If you are eating what you are happy eating, then don't worry what anyone else says about what you are eating. If you are complaining or commenting about how you want to eat that other stuff, then budget for some fried/sugar/allyoucaneat/pizza. Just make sure you don't go overboard and do it every night. I will go out with people and if there is nothing someplace I want to eat, then I enjoy their company. I don't make anyone feel bad about what they are eating and if they ask, I just say I am not hungry, but I am enjoying their company. Not so hard, and I don't have to lock myself in my house and not answer my phone.

    Lunch time comes. I go to the kitchen, pull my food from the fridge and get it ready while they all hackle about what they want to order in today!!! wee yay!! eating is the best part of the day-O! I eat the salad in the kitchen while Im heating up other parts of my meal- cause if I walk back to my office with the whole meal AND the salad- they start calling me a holier than thou btch who parades salad in front of them purposefully to make them feel guilty.

    So I eat my salad while Im heating up whatever protein. I go back with my measured 1 serving portions- a little bit of lamb, some ricotta and a pita with avocado, some walnuts and raisins and a new bottle of water.

    "She thinks if she eats sticks - she'll become one someday"
    "Depriving yourself never works, Youre going to fall off that diet eventually, I'd put money on it"
    "No dont tell her that it will just make her more determined"

    Me: Hey hey hey I never judge you on what you eat

    "That's cause we eat like normal people, there's nothing to say"
    "Maybe if you weren't so consumed with your appearance you'd enjoy life more"
    "Im ordering dessert on your behalf- want cheesecake?"

    Me: Actually Ive been looking forward to eating this all day.

    "Keep telling yourself that, hunnybunny"

    Then they order for the three of them approximately $70 worth Chinese food and eat for an hour and a half. The food comes in smelling all crazy, and Im fine cause I ate before hand.

    Finally they start burping and moaning and groaning as they stand up and fiddle in their purses for their after meal cigarettes and Im bopping around and running back and forth and full of energy and they go sit in the bathroom and whine and complain and sweat and ughhhhhh i'd lose my apetite anyway.

    Then sure enough- around 3 when I pull out grapes and milk........

    "pssst look I told you she'd get hungry again"

    ME: PSSST GUESS WHO HAD EIGHT ORGASMS LAST NIGHT
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    "Violence can be used for good" - V
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    ME: PSSST GUESS WHO HAD EIGHT ORGASMS LAST NIGHT

    LOL!
  • watboy
    watboy Posts: 380 Member
    What? What? What?
    ME: PSSST GUESS WHO HAD EIGHT ORGASMS LAST NIGHT

    LOL!
  • rockerbabyy
    rockerbabyy Posts: 2,258 Member
    ME: PSSST GUESS WHO HAD EIGHT ORGASMS LAST NIGHT
    only 8?
    >.>
  • fubar2us
    fubar2us Posts: 43 Member
    Every meal I get looks for my large plate of Lettuce, carrots, celery, and portion of protien. I am always told "Thats not enough food" "Your going to starve yourself" "eventualy you are going to need more than that". I think I have a good track record so far. I have lost 12 lbs in the last 2 months while most of the others I eat with have gained a few along the way. I dont let it bother me. I get called Rabbit and what not. Even been asked if I poop pellets. But, it makes me feel good and it is a diet I can live with so none of it bothers me.
  • usedasbrandnew
    usedasbrandnew Posts: 300 Member
    ALL
    THE
    TIME

    An my answer is always the same... I c o c k an eyebrow and tell them its making my sex life incredible.


    HAHAHA
  • KevinJJones
    KevinJJones Posts: 1
    I am the kind of guy that will give a friend a hard time no matter what they choose good or bad for themselves. Say we grill out my buddy pulls a burger off the grill " good god man, you gonna eat the whole cow on one bun or split that amongst the family" or if order salad or the like " what's going on you girl put you on a diet cause you squashed her" and thats just food I am like that with everything. Which is my way of helping, in my mind. I have actually been thanked for this behavior because if they can ignore and get over the garbage that I can spout they can ignore anyone. However these are my family and friends, and on the way to accepting me this way there were many tear and bouts of rage. I would never talk to a work associate or just someone I kinda know and have met a few times. I do not listen to or even hear what people say about my choices because what they say is irrelevant unless I specifically ask for it helpful or not whether I make good choices or not they are mine I have to live with them. And I have tried to bring my friends along with me in this mind set, unless I have determined that you know more than me on this subject and have requested your knowledge what you say falls on deaf ears often literally. I will say when people complement you and you don't respond to it because what they said is irrelevant they can get irritated.
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