Does You Spouse Motivate Or Complicate Your Weight Loss?

My husband of 35 years is both my main support and a large part of my motivation. He has weighted the same and looked as hot as he does throughout our entire dating/married life. We are going to Hawaii for our 35th anniversary and I want to look as good as he does when we're on the beach.

He has encouraged me throughout this, has built equipment an equipment racks for me, has moved the guest room furniture countless times, eaten what I eat at dinner (well, maybe I add a few things for him - he works hard all day). He is never judgemental and never presses me if I just don't want to exercise that night. He eats his chips and drinks his beer, but is good about not leaving temptation in my path and never offers things he knows I shouldn't have. He has loved me through menopause and weight gain, and shows his appreciation and pride in the new me in wonderful ways. He even took the bikini pics I have posted here!

Could have done it without him, I guess, but its been so much more fun doing it with him!

My DH is super supportive, but on the other hand makes me want to drop kick him onto Mars! We agreed for a New Years resolution we'd work out, watch what we eat, etc. He lasted A FREAKING DAY on the working out. THEN after it was so apparently obvious he bailed, he was going to sit and "give me advice" on my Jiliian Michaels workout. I can say, at least he knew when to beat a hasty retreat!
He eats crappy, has no energy, promises EVERY DAY tomorrow is THE DAY he will start. Scary thing is he HAS to lose the 30 or so pounds he packed on. He has hereditary high cholesterol and triglycerides and had quadruple bypass surgery almost 11 years ago.
We met 6 years ago this April, and he packed that on since then. I too, gained weight after meeting him, but to me he is just blowing smoke to keep my quiet at this point.
Has anyone else had even a remotely similar issue, and if so what do you do to drop kick their *kitten* into gear again!
I love him, but would love to sucker punch him at the same time!
OHOHOHOH, the other thing he is doing!!! His 21 yr old daughter moved in after getting out of a bad relationship. She scarf eats her food like he does, and yet he is on her about it? GGRRRRRRR Bad day at work is spilling over. SORRY!!

Vadiane1,

I totally feel your pain. My husband needs to lose about 30 lbs (compared to my 60). His father had a sextuple bypass. He himself is on blood pressure meds, cholesterol meds and something else I don't even know what it is.

I have done my bestest to convince him to go to the gym with me, walk the dogs with me, anything. Nothing.

I really worry about the struggle you and I both have, but I have resigned myself to thinking that in the end, I can only be responsible for me. I can try to prepare healthy meals for the two of us, and provide healthy snacks in the house. But if he's going to grab tortilla chips in the middle of the night after I've gone to sleep - there really isn't too much I can do about it.

Ann

She's definitely the biggest help we're both junk foodies, but we're really good at trying to motivate each other to do better. We shop for food together and make good (or bad!) decisions together. Knowing that someone else is watching what I eat as well as I am, and celebrates my weight loss when I do, has made this a million times better.

My Ex-Girlfriend literally did not care about my Eating Habbits at all. She always wanted to go to CiCi pizzas, or some itallian place. Needless to say, she gained about 20 lbs. We are no longer together :-D

Neither, really. He looks after the children at weekends when I want to exercise, but aside from that, he keeps out of it. Doesn't put me off, but doesn't encourage either. He has only commented on my weight loss when I have outright asked him, and even then only in one word replies!

I've got one like that

My boyfriend keeps on saying I needn't lose weight but understands that it will make me feel more comfortable. He does encourage exercise (but doesn't do any himself). We only see each other on the weekends and because he eats rubbish fast food I usually give in and undo whatever progress I've made during the weekdays, which is very frustrating. When I insist on cooking a healthy meal he's well up for that and helps me chop veggies etc, but one or two healthy meals unfortunately don't seem to balance out the cheese on toast, pizza and fries we'll end up eating the rest of the weekend. I guess I just need to try and be more proactive about cooking healthily and have more self-control when he's munching on delicious yet fatty food.