Unsupportive friends :(

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  • jmbreister
    jmbreister Posts: 13
    I feel ya! My friends are all incredibly skinny and have never understood what I go through. I finally got my best friend to sign up for a fitness class with me.... well that lasted about three times. She started finding excuses every night the class rolled around. BUT I kept going. And you know what, I finally found that it's pretty darn good to do stuff all on my own without needing a friend to do it with me. Maybe along your journey you will find new friends with your same perspective/ interests. Sometimes it's hard for others to be sympathetic to something they can't comprehend! Kudos to you for keepin doin what you're doin!!
  • mgmlap
    mgmlap Posts: 1,377 Member
    I just looked at your pics..and you are gorgeous. If your friends are making fun of you..its one of 2 things...

    innocent teasing or they are jealous of your commitment to your body.. I would let them know how it makes you feel..and move on from there
  • jenbrooke73
    jenbrooke73 Posts: 3
    That's awful. Get new friends!
  • sandrinamsilva
    sandrinamsilva Posts: 651 Member
    Looking at your profile pics you have a rockin' body. BUT I would use that as your motivation at the gym. I would stop talking to them about the health/fitness side of stuff and just do it. Sooner or later they will stop. You look awesome.
  • tequila09
    tequila09 Posts: 764 Member
    Any updates on the situation?
  • mybeach27
    mybeach27 Posts: 243
    Any updates on the situation?
    I tried to talk to one of them about it, and she got really defensive(?!) and said I was over reacting...I'm not sure why. I calmly pointed out that what I was doing wasn't easy and she was my friend and I needed support, that i wouldn't talk about it or try to change her, but just asked if she could support me, and if she couldnt do that that she could at least not try to stop me...she hasn't talked to me for 3 days. :( why does a friendship have to be ruined because I want to improve myself?! I was very calm and nice about it so i know I couldn't have offended her...oh well, I have you guys, and even though we have never met and probably never will you have given me more support than I could ever have imagined and I thank you all so much!<3
  • ArtGeek22
    ArtGeek22 Posts: 1,429 Member
    That stinks! Hopefully, she will come around. But if she doesn't you may be better off. From what you are saying the relationship sounds a little toxic to me. I use to have a friend like that them she crossed a line and we haven't talked since. Also, they probably just don't get what you are going through while we do :smile:

    If you need a friend feel free to add me :flowerforyou:

    Keep Calm and Carry On,
    Anna
  • _VoV
    _VoV Posts: 1,494 Member
    Any updates on the situation?
    I tried to talk to one of them about it, and she got really defensive(?!) and said I was over reacting...I'm not sure why. I calmly pointed out that what I was doing wasn't easy and she was my friend and I needed support, that i wouldn't talk about it or try to change her, but just asked if she could support me, and if she couldnt do that that she could at least not try to stop me...she hasn't talked to me for 3 days. :( why does a friendship have to be ruined because I want to improve myself?! I was very calm and nice about it so i know I couldn't have offended her...oh well, I have you guys, and even though we have never met and probably never will you have given me more support than I could ever have imagined and I thank you all so much!<3

    Good for you for trying to make yourself understood. She failed at being a good friend. I'm sorry if any of this causes you emotional pain.
  • DoctorKyrina
    DoctorKyrina Posts: 130 Member
    I do really understand. I have some friends who are still overweight and I'm ok with that, but they seem to dislike me leaving the fat club. It's a rough spot to be in.
  • Belvie_101
    Belvie_101 Posts: 3
    I know exactly how you feel. I am currently in the same position and that's why I joined this program. All of my friends are in pretty good shape. I'm not saying I'm obesse but I do want to get a little more toned and fit. They say I don't need to lose weight and I'm wasting my time but I just want to be able to go to the swimming pool and not have to hide behind a towel when I'm with them. Sometimes I even think they are trying to keep my pounds on me by making me go out to eat and they pay for my snacks and drinks trough out the day. They encourage me to eat loads of food and be lazy because that's how I've always been. But I need to change for the better of myself. And no one here is giving me that extra boost to let me know that I CAN DO IT! My Fitness Pal is helping me a lot. All of the people on this program are extremely helpful, nice, encouraging, and inspirational. :)
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