VERRY embarrassing question!

I would let him know that this is a need you have and you'd be willing to do whatever you can to help him feel less stressed so you guys can "enjoy" each other. If he's under so much stress that he can't do that, then he has more problems. Personally, I wouldn't be able to stay with someone that couldn't fulfill that need.

I know it's not all of a relationship at all but you do need that connection unless you of course are ok with no sex. I would never cheat though it makes it worse if you really need sex break up. I hate when people cheat and try to justify it after because "you love them" break up and maybe you will find someone who will complete you in all areas.

don't feel humiliated, but yes, you should talk to him about your needs. and if he is worth his salt, he will seek help or other avenues to make sure they are fulfilled.

I would let him know that this is a need you have and you'd be willing to do whatever you can to help him feel less stressed so you guys can "enjoy" each other. If he's under so much stress that he can't do that, then he has more problems. Personally, I wouldn't be able to stay with someone that couldn't fulfill that need.

Ditto on that!

I know how you feel, a lot of people dont understand how somethign like that can happen in a good relationship but it can. Make it a priority, but whatever you do dont fight about it, maybe if its hard to talk about then dont, just act. Try different times of the day, try taking the initive even if it means being a little bolder than usual. Try triggers (whatever the things are that have worked in the past, romantic movies, sexy undies ect..) Bu tdont let it ruin your relationship if you love each other you can get through this, you may never be the couple that has sex every couple days (I know I will never be..) but you can have a happy and good sex life that works for you the hardest part is getting it back and once you two are able to start having sex again it will get easier to keep having sex.

Make it a priority and work on it just like other things in your relationship, you guys can get past this if you really want it.

Feel free to message me if you want to talk more, I definatly know what you are going through.

How did you last a F**** year? Jeezuz. Please talk to this man and get some action!!!!!!!!! Stop reading these posts and GO NOW. Seriously Im getting hives from this. GO BABY GO!

HAHAH my favorite response ever!

Would you stay? Would you just get it from someone else?
I personally don't believe in cheating, and I have tried to make things work. But...I'm at my wits end. I do love this person and do not want to be without them, but a girls got needs. LOL! Oh, and the self help option is a no brainer...lol!
Ok, now that I've humiliated myself....
My question to you is....what would you do??? Be honest please.

Do NOT cheat. If its a problem than break up with him, or your self esteem will hit an all time low. Either get him to communicate with you and make some sort of progress with him, or just break up if you don't get results. If your not having sex, than your just friends anyway right?

I agree with others in that you need to talk to your partner or go get help.

Saying that, when my marriage was failing I no longer wanted to have sex with my ex. After that I've realized that if I don't want to have sex with the person i'm with than there is something going wrong in the relationship and usually end it pretty quick after that.

I'd also like to point out that the longer you go without it the easier it is to make up excuses about why you're not doing it.

Life is busy but if you love each other you can at least plan a day/time to get it on. I know that might feel forced but at least it'll get you back into the groove.

Ahh I'm glad I can't be downvoted here.

I'm thinkin' gay

Based upon the variety of answers on here - I think what you have to do is what's best for you.

Sounds like there's some relationships here where people haven't had sex for years - and they're ok with it. If you're not ok with it (and it sounds like you aren't) then you need to tell him that. You need to say that you need more sex to make you happy in your relationship. The trouble is if he's stressed, telling him could add to the stress, so you need to tell him, have the tough talk, tell him you need a change, and then forget about it.

Once you've forgotten about it - start making the moves on him. If he's still not responsive (give it a few times), you can then re-have the serious talk where you tell him - remember when I told you I needed more sex? Well that's still true. And I told you, and tried to give you some time, and then initiated sex, and it's still not happening. You can then say that it still holds true, and then re-forget about it and repeat.

Up to you how many times you want to repeat before you decide whether you're ok with not having it or you want out. Just don't let anyone tell you what's normal or not normal (although if this dry spell is not "normal" for his past behavior - getting checked by a doc is always a good idea).

I think a very frank and honest discussion is in order. the stress excuse can only go so far. Work out a plan on when things will occur, plan time, find out what you can do to turn him on...if that doesnt work, then personally I would have to seriously consider moving on. Sucky of me to say I know...but that is what I feel.

or option 2- Boink random strangers...

I have to agree. Sex is an important part of a relationship and should be discussed and agreed upon just as any other part of the relationship (finances, responsibilities, etc.). I can tell you that in my very personal experience this doesn't get better on it's own. It doesn't just go away. We all have stress, and we all lose interest from time to time, but this is more than that. I have a friend who went 7 years before deciding to move. I myself am on year 6...