Do you get hit on now that you have lost weight?

I have heard different stories from women who have lost weight and are noticing how different they are being treated. I don't really see a difference with myself and it comes across as counterintuitive if that is a word I would use. I have been every size from a 4 to 28 for the past 20 years and even today with 119 pounds to lose I still receive compliments from men and women. Even some men flirt every now and then. My own husband gives me that look and can't keep his hands off of me, but that is another story. In my opinion, I think it's how a person feels on the inside. I don't like carrying around all this excess weight and I got tired of pretending like I was comfortable with it. I have a ways to go on this journey and I enjoy this site and reading the success stories. It helps keep me going day to day, even when I don't have such a perfect tracking day. I wish you well.:happy:

I don't think it's a matter of dudes being shallow in every case. When people lose weight, they become more confident. They smile more, they come across more approachable. And that's what guys are really attracted to - confident, friendly looking women.


Even when I was really big, I still got hit on a lot, got a lot of numbers, etc. Because I never acted like an ashamed fat girl. I was always out being friendly, making eye contact, chatting people up.

That's exactly how I feel. I've always been approached by men, no matter what size I've been, but I think it's because I've always been very sure of myself and confident and I give off that vibe. I think men are attracted to women that are confident and carry themselves as such, so it does make a lot of sense when women are noticed more by men as they lose weight, not so much because of the physical transformation, but because of the emotional one.

i have more girls check me out, but never approach. first proper sunny day last weekend and me and the girlfriend went for a walk, 3 cars got stopped at the red light and were all women of ages between 20-30, all of them looked at me. i noticed 2 of them but my girlfriend said just as we were walking by did you see that woemn in the red car and the women in the white car checking you out. she didnt notice the one in the blue car :-)
luckily for me she isnt a jealous type unless they are actually speaking to me.

I find that men have never stopped hitting on me... :blushing:
You're all Mr. Pervy Pervertsons......lol :laugh:

So how you doin??? :devil: :devil: :devil: :devil:

sorry I had to

I used to get hit on by guys a lot more when I was younger and had a 'man's' haircut, and no ear rings. :laugh:

I grew up with the idea that men had to always make the first move. You know... traditional BS. I've had a few women hit on me over the years, and I have to admit - I was not clued in. I had no idea they were hitting on me when I was younger.

Nope! I don't think I've ever been hit on... :grumble:

(the smelly truckers I encounter at work don't count.)

Or maybe I just don't know what getting hit on is anymore? :laugh:

I'm oblivious to getting hit on. I always have been. I just assume people want to be my friend, because I'm ****ing cool.

That's how my bf is. I have to tell him when women are hitting on him and he's like "I thought she was just being nice?" It's actually pretty funny, I tease him a lot about it!

Yes. Not only that, but I have been treated better in general since I've lost weight. By women, men, coworkers, and even salespeople. It might be shallow, but its unfortunately a fact of life.

I do try to remember how I felt when I was very overweight and I try to NOT treat anyone differently because of their appearance in any form or fashion.

It does stand to reason that more people are attracted to a fit healthy person who is confident about themselves, though. We wouldn't be human otherwise.

no. :sad:

but I'm really bad a reading the opposite sex. so maybe I am and just don't realize it:frown:

How you doin'?!? :bigsmile:

I have not been flirted with, looked at, or otherwise made to feel like I exist...partly because I'm a ninja.

I know thats not true Le-le....cause I have been flirting with you the best I can. Maybe you just don't notice cause I am wearing camoflage????

You're the whispering foliage-humanoid??? SWEET! *does '80's fistpump*

Yeah, thats me. (starts thinking seriously about some groundskeeping). Do you know of a good lawn service?

I own a lawnmower and some hedgeclippers...I'll be right over

Whoever invented the ghillie suit....thank you!....

No. Because I spend too much time looking at myself in the mirror. :smokin:

I wouldn't say hit on, but I do notice people looking at me more now. It makes me feel good.

No, I never get hit on. I am feeling depressed now.

C'mere, Rammstein, I got some ramming...uh...what...hey...huh?

This is mild stuff compared to what goes on at some gyms. I've heard horror stories of "action" going down in the shower.

I have a lot of gay friends (I used to work in the theatre and graduated with an BFA in performance) and the stories I could tell you. You would never EVER go in the steam room again. Ever.

As far as getting hit on? I havne't lost enough weight for anyone to hit on me. Not even my wife!

I do by far, but hadnt been out to get noticed for a long time and wasnt single before that.
Im enjoying the attention, but I am way more confident and outgoing than I was. Some of that is due to weight loss but more so to getting my health back.. I just feel good and love to have fun and make others laugh.. So of course men are more attracted to that than a shy woman..

Nope! I don't think I've ever been hit on... :grumble:

(the smelly truckers I encounter at work don't count.)

Or maybe I just don't know what getting hit on is anymore? :laugh:

How YOU doin ?!?

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I fail to see how it's sad or shallow, the majority of people will be attracted to a slimmer/fitter person than a bigger one, it's human nature.

What is sad is not to look after yourself and ending up being overweight and unhealthy as a result.
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It's not human nature, it's because of the media. 100's of years ago, people were attracted to obese people as they were considered wealthy and powerful. People are attracted to what is rare and considered 'unique'. These days, with our abundance of calorie-laden food & incessant TV watching, people admire those who they consider to be 'healthy' and what they deem as self-controlled. ie. slim. Hence, the demonising of fat or obese people. Trouble is, not all skinny people are healthy and not all overweight people are unhealthy!

I can identify with the original author that I have always been treated differently according to my weight and I understand what you mean by it being 'sad' that people treat you differently, according to how many lb's of fat you have on your thighs! When you think about it, it really is bizarre. As an adult, my lowest weight has co-incided with my most stressful time of life. But people thought I finally looked great and "healthy". Men hit on me constantly and I knew it was because I lost weight and I both loved and hated it at the same time.

At my current weight, I am probably in the "frumpy" category. I used to live in the South of France and there, looks are everything. So a few years ago, I was 'somebody' because I looked the part, went to exclusive parties and mixed with "important" people. Then my husband and I went back last summer, pale and overweight, and we weren't allowed into the exclusive places anymore!

It's almost like I have moved up and down 'leagues' according to my weight.

At the time, it was hurtful but I can laugh about it now and finally am feeling more comfortable in myself. Yes, I have a few pounds to lose to be within what is considered a healthy BMI, but I no longer want part of the imaginary exclusive club where all the skinny desirables are. I love my imperfect body and my imperfect life and my imperfect friends