what is wrong with me???

I can commiserate. I can't see to commit and the constant feeling of failure is making my poor eating even worse.

Nothing is WRONG with you! I know for years I tried to lose weight and couldnt do it and kept falling off the wagon.. but this time its just like a lightbulb went off in my head as to what i need to do. Some days are easier than others but I remember WHY i'm doing this and it helps me stay on track. If you want to add me, youre more than welcome to. Maybe motivating each other will help too!

I know that watching what you eat can be very hard. Until last year I was in the exact same situation as you and just couldn't imagine ever being able to keep it together long enough. I don't know if I can help you to be honest. What happened in the end is that I met my current boyfriend who gives me tremendous support to this day to mind my eating and we go to the gym together twice a week. Without him I know I wouldn't be where I am now weight-wise. I did a very intensive diet for 2 months where I just kept at it, really mentalizing myself that I just HAD to get through these 8 weeks. Once I did, I had lost 8 kg. Seeing such a huge result in such a short time is really what has kept me going. Now I really don't find it difficult to stay healthy and eat smaller portions. When I really crave something I either make it for my boyfriend and make myself a healthy alternative or just have a bite of it for taste. I think you just really have to have a mental 'click'. For me it took someone supporting me in my goals 24/7 (even if it meant I got cranky sometimes, he understood) and to be able to see the immediate effects of an actual diet. At the moment I have lost 15 Kg since I started Hopefully I will be at a healthy 79 Kg somewhere in the summer.

I don't know if this will help you at all but just know that it IS possible and you are not alone in your situation!

Good luck and keep your chin up

I think a lot of times people try to drop their calories too low or start up enormous exercise routines they can't keep up with. Start small, take baby steps, enjoy the journey- eventually you'll get there!

I was the same, I just started this program and i like it, I have a friend that encourage me to keep doing it, that's what you need, some one to be pushing you all the way, just like my friend does, If you want to add me you are more than welcome to do it. like this you'll have more friends with the same situation by your side....Don't give up...

nothing is wrong with you its super hard i want to lose weight so bad i eat 3 meals a day and 2 snacks i work out at the gym every single day for 1 hr and walk when i can i eat no breads no pastas drink loads of water keep track of carbs, sugars, fats, calories on this site and jsut dont eat anything after 6pm i started on the 9th of this month(march) lost 13 pounds so far i really think exerscise the the key u can do it dotn give up i lost 13 pounds and u cant tell at all it takes alot of pounds to show i get frusterated all the time im so scared this wont work i got 74 pounds to go to my goal keep it up u can do it!!!!!

I think a lot of times people try to drop their calories too low or start up enormous exercise routines they can't keep up with. Start small, take baby steps, enjoy the journey- eventually you'll get there!

What she said - If you're having that much trouble sticking to it, perhaps you set your goals too high for the level of effort you're able to put in at this point. Even a half pound a week is better than nothing if you can do it consistently.

I totally understand. I had to have my husband remove bad foods from the house today and the SCALE. I do okay for a few days than I blow it. My husband is doing this with me and he gets more calories than I do so I struggle with dinner because I want what he's having but in order for me to lose weight I shouldn't have it. Then I feel deprived and bitter. OVER FOOD!!!! How crazy is that.
I think it's in my mind.
Keep on logging everyday and if you don't do well one day so what just keep on keeping on.

I guess it's important to define "blow it" if you still manage to land UNDER your maintenance level, you're still moving in the right direction.

Don't think of it as a diet that you have to suffer for, for a year or more, it is a LIFESTYLE change. I was doubting myself too, I always relied on restricting myself because I never thought that I could eat healthily and get my *kitten* off the bloody sofa. But I'm doing it, 13lbs down but I've still got more to go.

Maybe you're doing too much too soon, or thinking you're not losing enough. I used to expect 3-5lbs loss a week, but now I am so happy to lose 1lb a week.

Don't give up.

It was really hard for me in the beginning too. Some things that helped me:
1) i had to schedule my workouts on my calendar or I just wouldn't do it.
2) the best kind of exercise is the one you will do. I just don't do gyms. I hate it so I won't stick with it. Find something you like doing.
3) I eat about 1600 cal a day. I would die on 1200 calories. I am losing weight slower but at least I can EAT.

You can do it. It's hard, but it is what it is.

This is how it has worked for me. I am 56 and a life long yo yo dieter. Lose it, gain it back, lose it, gain it back and more. You get the drift. For one thing, we all want to make "lifetime" or "lifestyle" changes. However, when we start this journey that can become overwhelming to think about. I've done two things profoundly different this time and because of those two things I believe once and for all it has been changes I will keep after all the weight is gone. First off I have ate very clean. In the past I would exchange ice cream for Weight Watchers ice cream etc. You get the drift. Just substituted lower calorie/fat versions of the same foods. This time I have not done that. I eat whole grains, fruts, vegetables, low fat dairy, and lean meats. No crap. What this means is after getting through those first two weeks I no longer craved salty and sweet things. Now I crave FAGE yogurt LOL. The second thing I did is decided to take this journey one moment at a time, one minute at a time. I am an emotional eater and food addict. If I am having a particularly stressful time now I decided in this moment, right now, I am going to make a healthy choice of what goes in my mouth. No guarantees for tomorrow, that would be to stressful. But right now, in this moment, I can make a healthy choice. I have been making minute by minute choices now since October 1, 2011. This would not work for some people. And many would say "eat what ever you want, just eat it in moderation". But that is not possible for me. Once I go down that road, I will start making a bad choice in this minute. And then that will lead into the weekend. And then once a day. And then every meal. You get the drift. So find what works for you. For me it means moment by moment choices so I'm not overwhelmed with it all and staying away from sweet foods and salty snacky foods.

Small changes as others mentioned.

Don't deprive yourself of treats; work them into your daily allowance or use as a reward.

I have the same issue. Its just like everything else in life, practice makes perfect. You just have to keep trying and you will get better and better everyday.

Problem is: you are human. You need to become a machine!

There is nothing wrong with you. We all go through it. Take it one day at a time and don't beat yourself up if you slip....