I miss the way I used to eat....And I feel worse now then I

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  • TurnLeftNow
    TurnLeftNow Posts: 171
    I feel like I could have written this myself. A month ago I was absolutely miserable. Having to count everything, not being able to be carefree about what I eat... having to log everything, always exercising. I remember thinking too that I wish I had never found this site because it made me miserable. I was happy that I lost the weight, but was I really happier? I was really, really depressed.
    I 120% relate to what you are going through, and I am sorry that you are struggling so much with things.

    I wish I could get some professional help. I would suggest that maybe you try and find someone to talk to. I don't mean that in a rude way, but I think it would be very beneficial to you. I know what it is like to be TRAPPED in the dieting mindset. It is not fun, it is horrible. If you ever need to talk or want some support feel free to send me a message.
  • annacataldo
    annacataldo Posts: 872 Member
    THeres no reason you cant have pizza, or a burger. I have these things regularly. Ive had a sweet everyday for the past week plus. Icecream, donuts, candy... when i ahve pizza i cant have any less than 4-5 pieces.. i ahvent put on weight a single time in my year here. ive gone out drinking with friends and out to eat a million times. ive only went over maintenance calories 2x in my year though; so wether it be getting in some exercise or eating lighter on days i know im going out that night, or whatever the case, i work it in. I live life to its fullest.
  • Lolli1986
    Lolli1986 Posts: 500 Member
    If you're feeling totally tortured by this, then you're doing it wrong.

    Perhaps open up your diary, or at least look at other men's diaries.
  • vanessaleigh818
    vanessaleigh818 Posts: 45
    I am sorry you are feeling this way. Please, try not to obsess. Sadly life does not change overnight with or without the weight. I am going through some depression over that fact myself. By the way, congratulations on all of your hard work Mr.! I hope that you find good information, and feel all of the love and solidarity being sent your way through this thread. Thank you for posting this.
  • yuckidah
    yuckidah Posts: 290 Member
    you gotta remember that the more you weigh the faster you will lose, at first. so someone who weighs over 200 pounds will lose it pretty quickly

    Not always so.
  • Heartpath
    Heartpath Posts: 33
    Just the decision to keep the weight off or put it back on is completely stressing me out. I've always been the odd man out. No one really spoke to me, so I thought that if I lost the weight I would stand out more, which I did, but it wasn't as satisfying as I thought it would be. I would have no problem gaining back the weight but I just went out and spent like 200 bucks on new clothes to fit my new body and rhhshjkkddcvgdsbg I'm just a confused mess. For the first time in months I pigged out. I had candy, cake, and ice cream during the day but came home and workout about for about 2 hours and lost about 700 calories. After punching all that in I still found I was about at 900 calories for the day. Does that mean I can continue to eat like that and still keep my current weight? Granted my sugar was about 60 grams over, my fats were still really low.

    How did a binge on sugary food make your life better? You've accomplished a lot in losing the weight, and you have new clothes. Enjoy them. You can calculate how much you need to maintain your BMI, factoring in exercise, in a plan that includes some food you like and mostly healthy food. Unless you can see how gaining the weight back is going to make your life BETTER, you might as well keep it off, right?

    I'm 39 now, and I'll tell you something that I wish someone had told me when I was your age and felt like the odd person out. It doesn't matter what the whole world thinks. Be your best, most authentic, awesome self, and find your people. They may not be your biological family. They may not be among your current social circle. You may have to get out there into new situations. What makes you happy? What do you enjoy doing? If you're not sure, you may have to try out some different hobbies or interests, and things may be uncomfortable for awhile. But, hey, you lost 60 pounds, and you can handle doing difficult things. What traits do you think make an ideal person? Not what you think everyone else would like but what YOU think makes a good person. Work on being a person like that, and look for people who think it is good to be like that. The way that you find the people you fit in with is to be yourself, so you can spot each other. Not everyone thinks I'm wonderful, but that's OK because the friends I do have are awesome friends who accept me, and I accept them.
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    Some of you are missing the point. I miss eating things I ate before I lost the weight. For example (and since it's Easter and I'm missing out on all of my favorite things) jelly beans,marshmallow peeps, cookies, brownies, Pizza, wings, hamburgers ect. Yes it's ok it eat in moderation but, for example, a moderation for peeps is like 1 peep. That would make me miss them even more. And I already do plan ahead. Sometimes I plan up to a week ahead and follow that plan verbatim.

    Yes you will miss them. You just can't eat the same way and also be thin.

    But eventually, long term, once you are more used to eating healthier choices you'll stop wanting the crap food as much.

    Give yourself some time. 3 months is not long enough to change your emotions and your brain.

    Judging by the responses from some of the other posters, it's sounding like you're also not eating enough. Throw some of your old foods back into your diet, and/or eat more healthy foods. But yeah, if you have a peep you have to be able to settle for a serving instead of eating the whole box or you'll just undo all the work you've done.
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    Just the decision to keep the weight off or put it back on is completely stressing me out. I've always been the odd man out. No one really spoke to me, so I thought that if I lost the weight I would stand out more, which I did, but it wasn't as satisfying as I thought it would be.

    Being thin won't make you instantly popular unfortunately. You have to work on being friendlier and more approachable. I can relate totally because this was me.
    For the first time in months I pigged out. I had candy, cake, and ice cream during the day but came home and workout about for about 2 hours and lost about 700 calories. After punching all that in I still found I was about at 900 calories for the day. Does that mean I can continue to eat like that and still keep my current weight? Granted my sugar was about 60 grams over, my fats were still really low.

    No, the way you're eating now is right on the verge of an eating disorder. Please speak to someone professionally to help you with the things you're dealing with. If not a psychologist, at least a nutritionalist to help you learn to eat and work out healthy. Believe me, you don't want to add an eating disorder to the pain it sounds like you're already experiencing.
  • ByrdMessy
    ByrdMessy Posts: 94
    Just the decision to keep the weight off or put it back on is completely stressing me out. I've always been the odd man out. No one really spoke to me, so I thought that if I lost the weight I would stand out more, which I did, but it wasn't as satisfying as I thought it would be. I would have no problem gaining back the weight but I just went out and spent like 200 bucks on new clothes to fit my new body and rhhshjkkddcvgdsbg I'm just a confused mess. For the first time in months I pigged out. I had candy, cake, and ice cream during the day but came home and workout about for about 2 hours and lost about 700 calories. After punching all that in I still found I was about at 900 calories for the day. Does that mean I can continue to eat like that and still keep my current weight? Granted my sugar was about 60 grams over, my fats were still really low.

    How did a binge on sugary food make your life better? You've accomplished a lot in losing the weight, and you have new clothes. Enjoy them. You can calculate how much you need to maintain your BMI, factoring in exercise, in a plan that includes some food you like and mostly healthy food. Unless you can see how gaining the weight back is going to make your life BETTER, you might as well keep it off, right?

    I'm 39 now, and I'll tell you something that I wish someone had told me when I was your age and felt like the odd person out. It doesn't matter what the whole world thinks. Be your best, most authentic, awesome self, and find your people. They may not be your biological family. They may not be among your current social circle. You may have to get out there into new situations. What makes you happy? What do you enjoy doing? If you're not sure, you may have to try out some different hobbies or interests, and things may be uncomfortable for awhile. But, hey, you lost 60 pounds, and you can handle doing difficult things. What traits do you think make an ideal person? Not what you think everyone else would like but what YOU think makes a good person. Work on being a person like that, and look for people who think it is good to be like that. The way that you find the people you fit in with is to be yourself, so you can spot each other. Not everyone thinks I'm wonderful, but that's OK because the friends I do have are awesome friends who accept me, and I accept them.

    "FIND YOUR PEOPLE" -- wisest words spoken on this thread. I hated my college until I found my people. I hated Paris, France--one of the most serene cities in the world, because I couldn't find my people. I was pissed to be home again, until I found my people, and it turns out, in my home town, they're mostly middle-aged women!

    Might be a strange thing to bring up, but remember Michael Phelps eats, what, 3500 calories a day? It's not all about starving yourself--it's about fueling your body right.

    If you can't decide to go up or down, then do all the research required to teach you how to MAINTAIN where you are until you're happy and can make a good decision for yourself.

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