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LinzCurlyQ
LinzCurlyQ Posts: 94 Member
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I was telling my mother about these fabulous yet horribly bad for you brownie things that a co-worker brought in, and I broke down and had two of them. I told her how good they were, but that I shouldn't have eaten them. Her response was this:

A little goodness once in a while doesn’t hurt you…………..I worry about you sometimes, please don’t get so obsessed with your weight and working out that you don’t keep a balance. I love you………..mom

Now I work out 4-6 times a week and do not keep a strict diet. Why does this make me angry??
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  • megimoops
    megimoops Posts: 22 Member
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    what a lovely mum

    give her a hug
  • original_cake_face
    original_cake_face Posts: 131 Member
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    what a lovely mum

    give her a hug

    ^This.

    She's looking out for you, and worrying about you. And she's right.. Don't stress because you ate some brownies.
  • astrampe
    astrampe Posts: 2,169 Member
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    No idea hy you would get angry about that.... You have a lovely mum with a balanced outlook on life...eating two brownies when otherwise living a healthy lifestyle is really not wrong....
  • TheDoctorDana
    TheDoctorDana Posts: 595 Member
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    She's right?
  • ashhhhole
    ashhhhole Posts: 74
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    If i had to guess I would say it maes you angry because you wanted someone to hold you accountable for eating something "bad." But your mom is right, its ok to have treats once in a while.. Having one or two brownies isn't going to do much. Having one or two brownies twice a day every day will... So next time enjoy your treat, and give your mom a hug. =]
  • Cindygutie
    Cindygutie Posts: 50 Member
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    Well, its just a mom thing to say. Take a deep breath and let it go. My mom tells me im too skinny all the time, and it makes me not want to keep at it, but i still have at least 10 pounds to go. So good luck. Try not to let it get to you.
  • drmryder
    drmryder Posts: 181 Member
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    I think our moms just want us to be happy. Our 'obsession' with staying in shape and being at a healthy weight may not be understandable to them. My mom thinks that as you get older it's okay and expected to gain weight. I think her theory was 5 pounds for every 10 years or something like that. I told my mom that I don't agree with her that keeping those extra pounds off is much better for my health. Of course my mom is overweight and has diabetes and knee problems that I'm certain are related to her extra weight. I think what makes me angrier is the fact that she doesn't watch what she eats and does little to no exercise.
  • GoldspursX3
    GoldspursX3 Posts: 516 Member
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    I agree with the above posts about her being a good mom. My mom can be very overbearing sometimes but I know it is only out of love for me. Brush it off and don't let the petty *kitten* bother you so much. Life is too short.
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
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    I don't know why this makes you mad, unless you think that she's always been an enabler and you secretly (or openly) blame her influence for your struggles.

    There is a balance, you must find yours. There are things that if I say "I can't ever again have x,y,z" I know I will never be successful. So, I say "I can have wine and chocolate, as long as I log it, and it fits in my diet after coming in pretty close on my protein macro." Otherwise I know I will binge on wine and sweets. Now I'm going to have a matled milk ball . . .
  • Bunnybeesweet
    Bunnybeesweet Posts: 165 Member
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    Ask yourself what you wanted or expected her to say. Consider how she could BE that would be most supportive and loving for your journey....and then, without making her wrong (because what she said is her way of loving you) make a powerful request for how she could react in the future that will best serve you (both)

    Ps. If YOU think you shouldn't have eaten them, than listen to your own wisdom. You can be a mother's voice to yourself!
  • LinzCurlyQ
    LinzCurlyQ Posts: 94 Member
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    The part about eating a little goodness is ok isn't what pokes at me. I used to be unbalanced in my diet eating way too many "brownies". The part that makes me angry is that she thinks I'm obsessive because I go to the gym 4 or 5 times a week. I'm not a strict dieter. You can look at my diary and tell that. Hell, I couldn't even fill out my diary this weekend because of the mess I ate.

    I just don't understand when you do something that is different than what you used to do people think you are obsessive.
  • lind3400
    lind3400 Posts: 557 Member
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    My mom told me the same thing
    actually she told me to stop worrying so much and stop dieting cuz I look great and guys like a girl with curves
    I told her I was 5'3" and 174 lbs I was clinically obese and not happy with the way I look or feel
    and she won't listen cuz she's accepted the fact that she's chubby....and thinks we all should
  • helpmelose2011
    helpmelose2011 Posts: 125 Member
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    Possibly b/c your not getting the support from her that you want. My mother does the same thing to me and pisses me off so what do I do.. I work out harder!
  • mkwongh
    mkwongh Posts: 279 Member
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    My mom would say the same thing...
    dont let it get to you, she is just trying to show how much she cares about your well being.
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
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    It has made me upset when my mom has said something similar, but I had to take it with a grain of salt.
    She loves you, wants the best for you.

    It made me (probably you too) because it felt like she was disapproving of my healthy lifestyle and felt undercurrents of sabotage. Of course, I'm still a little kid deep down and want Mommy's approval. Heck, my momma wants to meet this wonderful man I've been talking about so glowingly.
  • ekz13
    ekz13 Posts: 725 Member
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    don't overthink it... she's your mom.. she cares enough to say something.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
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    Why would this make you angry? Obsession always start from low ends. You think the Anorexics got to that point in a few days? She's looking out for you and if anything, she's doing it in the best possible way. Have you read what some of the other family members say to people trying to live healthy here?

    I'd call her up and give her updates on the days you're not working out (AKA rest days) so she realizes that you're not just working out but living a healthy lifestyle full of days off and on. Our elders worry about us and no need to be angry about it :)
  • chaniray
    chaniray Posts: 87 Member
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    she sounds like a caring mom. that would not make me angry.
  • LinzCurlyQ
    LinzCurlyQ Posts: 94 Member
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    My mom told me the same thing
    actually she told me to stop worrying so much and stop dieting cuz I look great and guys like a girl with curves
    I told her I was 5'3" and 174 lbs I was clinically obese and not happy with the way I look or feel
    and she won't listen cuz she's accepted the fact that she's chubby....and thinks we all should

    Oh! You know exactly how I feel. Our mothers sound like two peas in a pod. I'm not losing weight the way she is doing (WW), so I'm obsessive.
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
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    I don't think I know enough about you or your mom to take sides here.

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