What is up with my husband???

Just ask him. It always helps to just come out with it.

Is your husband also 19 (give or take)? In my opinion that is a very young age to be married ^^ Maybe he is just changing. It's not necessarily a bad thing, he might simply not feel like speaking that way anymore because his mind is still developing.

That's not terribly uncommon in a relationship, from either partner. Just talk to him and let him know that you like for him to initiate things sometimes too.

Once that happens, be ready to respond (and I mean, REALLY respond... give him a crazy, sweaty, holy *kitten* hour) when he tries it the first few times. If you've told him you want him to start it, then give him an "I'm busy" or "I have a headache" type of answer, he'll probably back right off again.

Not a dude.... but...

Maybe he's got something on his mind?

I know with my husband if he's stressed out, then sex is out of the question.

I'm most often the pursuer anyway. I think sometimes men just want to be wanted. (Just like us ladies!)

Don't take it personal.

And if you do want him to absolutely ravish you without you having to instigate it, then want not make the extra effort and make your self desirable? Lace and heels go a LONG way... ;o)

Yes, it does!

It's been about a month since he's said anything like, "Hey, you're looking good." or anything remotely relating to.. you know... ummmm.... sexual things. I'm ALWAYS the one who has to start it. Then after the ...sexual stuff.. he says to me, "I've been wanting to for days now." But he DOESN'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT!
So this week I haven't started anything just to see what he'd do, he doesn't even seem remotely interested..
Sure, I don't have a job so I don't feel the need to put make up on and get dolled up when no one is gonna see me. Does that really matter to guys?

I need input..

I feel as though it does make a difference, whether you look presentable or not...but most of all...you should be discussing these personal matters with your husband. Maybe he has things on his mind that is just making him not that into it. Just a thought...I know my husband tends to internalize things and I begin to feel a little rejected sometimes, until I bring up a nice convo and suddenly, I realize he's got lots on his mind. Just a thought~

I would say mention it to him. I know sometimes my bf will say "well, you didn't seem like you'd be in the mood" or something similar, he just anticipated that because of my mood or something that had gone on that day etc. that I wouldn't want to and so didn't try.

If your husband is saying he does try, but you're not seeing it/feeling it, then maybe suggest ways that it would be a little more obvious to you??

Wife’s Journal

Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn’t flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn’t say much. I asked him what was wrong; He said, ‘Nothing.’ I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn’t upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it.

On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can’t explain his behavior I don’t know why he didn’t say, ‘I love you, too.’ When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent. Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep – I cried. I don’t know what to do. I’m almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.

Husband's journal

Jeep won’t start…can’t figure out why.

Not trying to make a joke of your couple issue, but really you should just, talk.... could be really something on his mind.....

Sometimes guys like to feel wanted too and for the girl to start it. Its the chase or the excitement. Every now and then you have to shock him or switch the routine. Sometimes you start or sometimes he does.

To be totally honest lady, my husband is the same way - and has been the same way since we first met 6 years ago. I think its a Marine thing. Sometimes they're hot, sometimes they're cold. They have a lot on their minds a lot of the time, so try not to take offence.

When it comes down to a boiling point though, I normally just have to be extra aggressive to get his mind to come back down to earth.

When he says 'I try' ask him 'and how do I respond?' or tell him 'honey, if i'm not responding with an obvious yes, then grab me and kiss me or something because i can guarantee i will be feeling the same way'.

my ex felt like i didn't initiate, but i felt that i did, and that he rejected my advances (probably because he didn't understand that affection is an advance).

I don't feel the need to put make up on and get dolled up when no one is gonna see me.

Ouch, you just called your husband "no one".

Communication. Yes, sometimes it's good to get input from others (like a message board), but the person you should REALLY be talking to is....your husband.