Don't want to be rude BUT

mem1086
mem1086 Posts: 136 Member
edited December 18 in Food and Nutrition
I need some help! So everyweek at my job we have a lunch and learn meeting where lunch is provided. This is great for the wallet, but bad for the waistline. The woman in charge of ordering is rather large and has little to no concern for eating healthy. SO that means that I am stuck eating fatty greasy foods. For instance, this week is Ham, baked bake mac & cheese, and salad. The mac and cheese is so loaded with grease that it has in the past upset my stomach, and since I have not had anything this heavy in a while, I know it will end badly in the bathroom later. Now before you go and tell me to load up on salad, they only order enough for a side salad, so I dont want to be a pig and load up on it.

My question is, is it rude go and get a salad from the salad bar? I have already been told I am too skinny, so I am sure this will go over like a ton of bricks. I have already offered to help plan what we are eating, but that is not working, obviously.

Please help!
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  • Cdcaldwe
    Cdcaldwe Posts: 189 Member
    I have got to the point when in that situation I bring something or load up on salad. When people are eating those other things salad is usually the last thing on their minds. Also keep a stash of Zone Perfect bars on hand. They have saved me on many occasions.
  • kirstineu
    kirstineu Posts: 51 Member
    It might come across as rude if you do this on your own and the person organising may feel that you are attacking. Why not get the support of some of your colleagues and 'mention' that the food choices could be more healthy. Perhaps say how much you enjoy the meetings but wish there was more choice?
  • AJ_Pete
    AJ_Pete Posts: 863 Member
    Not rude. Not rude at all. You can still eat with them, but not what they're eating.
  • barbbrend
    barbbrend Posts: 1
    Listen girl, it's your life. there is no reason why you should put something in you mouth that is going to upset your insides.Go to the salad bar often enough and someone might follow your example. It is not rude to eat what your body needs. do not apologize. laugh and eat what YOU need. :flowerforyou: ::drinker:
  • skinnylion
    skinnylion Posts: 213
    I would just pack a lunch and explain that you're trying to watch what you eat. Nobody should argue with you about that, and if they do it's kind of rude on their part.
  • Lisamar74
    Lisamar74 Posts: 114
    Definately not rude. Just say that the last time you had it you got an upset stomach and that you're trying to eat healthily. You could even take something in and say it was left overs from your meal the night before that you don't want to waste.
  • leahnoelle31
    leahnoelle31 Posts: 79 Member
    Pack a lunch. Then, if someone points out the obvious, just say "no thanks, I brought my own" and then drop it. It's really none of their business what YOU choose to eat for lunch.
  • RoseyK
    RoseyK Posts: 157 Member
    Every year my job has us all go to the home office for the annual meeting. We stay a few days and the company provides us with free lunch. The lunch is usually large sandwiches with chips, cookies and a regular soda. This year, I took charge of my own dietary needs... when lunch was served, I went down to the cafeteria and bought a large garden salad and some grilled chicken and sugar free ice tea. People were surprized and I just explained that I had health issues that required me to eat healthy. I also packed healthy snacks for break time. Everyone was okay with it.
  • Zichu
    Zichu Posts: 542 Member
    To be honest, you shouldn't have to eat what everyone else is eating. You should be allowed a choice because the food that everyone else is eating is too greasy, too fatty and might be bad for your health.

    I'm not trying to be rude to the person that is bringing this food in, but these people generally get like that because they eat too much and too much of the bad stuff. It doesn't matter if you are skinny or not, you can still gain weight by eating healthy food, but nobody should just eat junk food to put on weight because it's bad for there health.
  • AeolianHarp
    AeolianHarp Posts: 463 Member
    I have to legitimately ask. What's unhealthy about mac and cheese?
  • Martucha123
    Martucha123 Posts: 1,089 Member
    Definately not rude. Just say that the last time you had it you got an upset stomach and that you're trying to eat healthily. You could even take something in and say it was left overs from your meal the night before that you don't want to waste.

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    if it makes you sick, do not eat it!
  • ablykins
    ablykins Posts: 200 Member
    Simply pack a lunch and refrain from making any comments about the food selection. You have to do what is right for you and your body and if others make comments- let them. Just smile, be polite and refrain from judging anyone else for what they are eating. This is your journey, your wellness, and if others don't understand or respect it, let it be their issue- not yours.
  • cramernh
    cramernh Posts: 3,335 Member
    It might come across as rude if you do this on your own and the person organising may feel that you are attacking. Why not get the support of some of your colleagues and 'mention' that the food choices could be more healthy. Perhaps say how much you enjoy the meetings but wish there was more choice?

    Its actually not rude at all.. in fact, its rude that everyone who participates is not taken into consideration of finding out what each person would like.

    The person who does the ordering should be taking the time to ask each person rather than ordering everything for them...

    To the OP: Have at it! We have events like this all the time. Can you imagine how many luncheons we have with all of the pharmaceutical reps (I work in healthcare)? Thankfully they always ask us ahead of time, what each person would like. They also ask us "does anyone have food allergies?"... as a way to make sure no one gets sick if its a air-borne allergy... I have allergies and sensitivities so if someone were ordering for me, I would tell them "it needs to be about what I can have for me" otherwise Im hightailing it to the salad bar and asking to have a chicken breast ordered.
  • XXXMinnieXXX
    XXXMinnieXXX Posts: 3,459 Member
    Don't feel bad about it, and if they don't like it, its their problem! Go to the salad bar...
  • mattmoo33
    mattmoo33 Posts: 36
    why not eat before the meeting and just have a small side salad whilst you are there?
  • kristen6022
    kristen6022 Posts: 1,923 Member
    Just because someone else isn't being healthy does mean you shouldn't be to please them. If it makes you sick that's a great reason right there. You don't have to say it's because you are watching your weight. Just say the grease upsets your stomach and bring something else. Or ask for them to get something else for you. Vegetarians or people with Kosher diets would, why shouldn't you?
  • cramernh
    cramernh Posts: 3,335 Member
    I have to legitimately ask. What's unhealthy about mac and cheese?

    The OP states the grease is a big issue with her stomach thus making her sick... could be even more than just that but OP didnt mention anything further...
  • jwaitman
    jwaitman Posts: 367 Member
    Maybe it is rude of the person planning these meals to only order fattening foods. More companies are focusing on health and wellness, maybe she should start with her lunches. I fall into the same situation at my office. I have food allergies and also try to eat healthy and very seldom do they think of that when ordering for the entire office. I just bring my own food.

    Go get your salad and enjoy it.
  • Mrsfullwood
    Mrsfullwood Posts: 172 Member
    Listen girl, it's your life. there is no reason why you should put something in you mouth that is going to upset your insides.Go to the salad bar often enough and someone might follow your example. It is not rude to eat what your body needs. do not apologize. laugh and eat what YOU need. :flowerforyou: ::drinker:

    I so agree! It's not your fault that you dont eat what everyone else does. Our church has all types of functions and my father doesnt eat pork or beef. He still eats with everyone but he eats what his body can tolerate.
  • umachanxo
    umachanxo Posts: 926 Member
    Screw what other people tell you - You need to do what's HEALTHY for YOU.
    Don't do something terrible for your body because you're afraid of jealous comments. If anyone calls you too skinny, it's because they wish they were as thin as you.
  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    I don't see anything rude about purchasing your own lunch. You could explain that you want a salad and didn't want to be rude by taking too much of the salad that's provided.
  • XxJulsSxX
    XxJulsSxX Posts: 13 Member
    Jesus that's gross! We have the same team lunch each friday, but I order things like Sushi, Sandwiches, salads from local places. On occasion I'll order Dominos or Subway! Give her feedback or suggestions, this is what I ask the guys for, its the only way to improve the gesture. :)
  • driaxx
    driaxx Posts: 314 Member
    When I'm in situations like that, I'd take a snack so you're not hungry, fill up a plate of food (mostly salad), eat that and place a small portion of everything else. Cut it up to make it look like you ate it and tell them you loved it, it was so filling but your stuffed!

    I know it's your body etc. but it's also your bosses meeting so you don't want to get on her bad side or piss her off.
  • rovernio
    rovernio Posts: 157
    mhhh the idea of all the greasy food you just named has made me hungry damn
  • mmklinemm
    mmklinemm Posts: 58 Member
    If you're looking to avoid confrontation, you could always have a healthy snack mid-morning. Then just have the salad during the lunch. If anyone says anything, just tell them the truth - you were hungry earlier, snacked, so you're not very hungry now. You and your co-workers will both be satisfied and no one gets their feelings hurt. Office politics are the worst...
  • gacowboy
    gacowboy Posts: 22 Member
    In the end, YOU are responsible for your health and no one else. You should decide what you want or need to eat. THEY will not answer for your health issues later in life, You will! Your health, your choice! Be STRONG!
  • AdoraK
    AdoraK Posts: 724 Member
    I would just bring my own lunch. When they ask why, just explain that the greasy food upsets your stomach.
  • Boop1959
    Boop1959 Posts: 7 Member
    Pack your own lunch!
  • krnrnee
    krnrnee Posts: 6 Member
    It's not rude to ask for healthier choices. Perhaps more side salad? It's also not rude to bring your own food. You could say heavy foods upset your stomach or that the salads disappear so fast that maybe there should be more (they don't disappear? Then take all you want!)
  • nikki_att84
    nikki_att84 Posts: 152 Member
    i dont think its rude!!!! bring something for home or load up of salad..just tell them ur allergic to cheese or ham..or say it gives u bad indigestion!!!!! or say u just simply dont like mac and cheese!!!
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