embarressed of S.O.

That's really terrible. They obviously have their priorities all wrong.

I have never been embarrassed of how my husband's body looks although he does have a belly. My only problem is occasionally when we are planning on going out he doesn't put forth much effort to look nice. He gets upset with me when I say something when he comes out in dirty jeans or work clothes (he is blue collar which I'm perfectly fine with). He has nice clothes so no excuse not to look nice. To me that is just being lazy. I maybe shouldn't care what someone would think about him or us as a couple but I do. I always try to put my best foot forward and don't think there is anything wrong with that. I don't tell him what to wear but just please put forth a little effort and look nice and while I'm on it-shave!

I'm pretty big, my fiancee has never done anything like that to me.

That may have been my ex wife. She told me constantly she was humiliated by my presence because she deserved better than a fat guy. Pretty much means that in a relationship, she values the social benefits of being with someone over anything else and thus wants the social points for someone that makes her girlfriends jealous of her.

I've been embarrassed by a previous SO. Not because of weight, because she couldn't spell lettuce.

right, agreed! & she was saying that he wasn't fat when they first met, so she's not "used" to him being bigger... not sure if that makes her worse or not, I don't know... she said even when she introduces him to people she always prefaces with "he's fat, but he's really nice!"


edit cause I can't spell >.<

Sounds like she's trying to come to terms with his weight gain. I can understand the sentiment, but airing dirty laundry like that in public is a pretty crummy thing to do.

That's pathetic. I'd be embarrassed of her.

right, agreed! & she was saying that he wasn't fat when they first met, so she's not "used" to him being bigger... not sure if that makes her worse or not, I don't know... she said even when she plans to introduce him to people she always prefaces with "he's fat, but he's really nice!"


edit cause I can't spell >.<

I wonder how she'd feel if her bf started introducing her as 'she's *****y, but she's really skinny!'

I don't necessarily think the friend does have her priorities wrong. Is it nice? No, but that's not the point.

I love my partner but his total disregard for his health (which has caused him to gain 2 stone since we started seeing each other) is a source of personal embarassment for me, especially when I'm working to try to improve my health. Watching someone you care about let themselves go is hard.

I don't necessarily think the friend does have her priorities wrong. Is it nice? No, but that's not the point.

I love my partner but his total disregard for his health (which has caused him to gain 2 stone since we started seeing each other) is a source of personal embarassment for me, especially when I'm working to try to improve my health. Watching someone you care about let themselves go is hard.

Yes but do you parade that around other people or do you try to work with him directly on it?

I seriously wish my wife had said something to me when I had put on about 20-30 pounds instead of just watching me get bigger. Of course, I would have wanted it to be said in a nice way, but said.

This is an interesting take! When you put on the weight would you have accepted anything she would have said? My husband has put on 80+lbs since we had our 2 kids (now 5 and 4) I put on roughly 50 but have lost 30lbs of it. I have encouraged him to go to the gym, run, or just get active and he won't. It makes me sad but I would NEVER tell people, "he's fat but really nice"....or be ashamed to be around him.

It makes me sad how shallow some people can be.

That's harsh.

I have no other words.

I don't necessarily think the friend does have her priorities wrong. Is it nice? No, but that's not the point.

I love my partner but his total disregard for his health (which has caused him to gain 2 stone since we started seeing each other) is a source of personal embarassment for me, especially when I'm working to try to improve my health. Watching someone you care about let themselves go is hard.

My boyfriend is not overweight but he has very bad eating habits. I found a good way to get him to eat healthier was to just talk about healthy food in general. I talk about what kind of food I'm eating all the time and now he's picked up looking at nutrition facts and eats a lot healthier.

This woman obviously didn't actually care about her SO and just wanted to look good.

If they are that embarrassed of their S.O. then they don't love them. My S.O. does things that are embarrassing (to himself) all the time. I don't have to run and hide over it.

I agree ^
That is just sad...does her SO know she does this? I feel so bad for him, if he knows his self-esteem must be shattered. so sad.