Best Guy Friend Gets A Girlfriend & Forgets all about you

Funny thing is, he's my boyfriend now ^^.

ok honestly time...

that's what he always wanted.

that's what they (we) always always wanted.

that's why when you get a boyfriend you don't hear from us.

Actually....he picked my best friend over me...and then the girlfriend he had before that was a friend of mine. Both times I was single and waiting on him. It's not always the girl that friend zones the guy....

And, also, I know he wasn't just ignoring me, and only me, because he ended up disowning his family, moving out, and losing all his friends. I know this through talking to his family now, and the fact that he told me when we started hanging out that I was the only friend he felt he had anymore due to alienating the rest.

He GOT MARRIED! Good thing I found a REPLACEMENT and I had a back-up too LOL Whew!

not so far....my best guy friend is married (and yes I am single). In fact that is his new little one in my profile pic!

I have a couple of other really good guy friends but so far this has not been an issue.

Yep. Know how you feel. Every male friend I've had. Soon as they get a girlfriend, they disappear. Mainly it's because they usually date really insecure females.

I tried being happy for mine in the beginning. Now they are married, he doesn't talk to me and I miss him lots. It's been years though so you would think I would have gotten over it!

happened to me! when his mom was stuck in a war zone overseas and I was the only person he would cry in front of, when he first met the girl he wasn't so keen on her but I pushed him to give her a chance... she had him cancel our dinner plans on his birthday after I extended an invitation to her. And when he stopped calling/texting/fb'ing she proceeded to talk *kitten* about me and had a good old time laughing about my weight. one year later they both extended an olive branch under the impression of being "friends" but within 6 weeks they stopped talking to me again- probably for the better because who knows what their real intentions were. They are now married and I am happy for them, but it sucks losing your best friend of either gender under any circumstances.

I have heard that heterosexual guys never just want to be your friend if you're a girl. (I was sitting in a room with 4 men, 1 of them my boyfriend, and his brothers/brothers' friend.)

That's not true at all...

I have heard that heterosexual guys never just want to be your friend if you're a girl. (I was sitting in a room with 4 men, 1 of them my boyfriend, and his brothers/brothers' friend.)

That's not true at all...

I'm inclined to disagree with you.

I'm sorry but this is true. Every woman "friend" I had, was in my eyes just on varying tiers on the totem pole of person I would put body parts into. I didn't objectify them, I was just always honest with myself about attraction to them. This equated to friend in many cases, very good ones, because circumstances never led to anything more. In any case where I am in a relationship, I am perfectly fine distancing myself from female friends.

It's kind of inappropriate otherwise.

My girlfriend knows I have friends who I wanted to get with at one point; she doesn't feel comfortable with me being in certain social environments with them. I don't consider it a mistrust thing, it's one of those completely cool things with me (though I will tease her about it).

Hell my girlfriend is someone who I was "friends" with, always flirted with on inappropriate levels, and always kept in my mind.

Now we're together and we talk about making babies and what not.

I've been in the situation where I was "friends" with someone who never admitted she actually wanted much much more. When she told me this all I could say was, "You know if you were talking about two other people I would think they were effing retarded for beating around the bush with the whole thing."

It really sounds like both of you were passively waiting for one or the other to be single and the "right" moment.

Honestly as soon as one (or preferably both, because homewrecking is bad or...somethingGODIHOPEMYGIRLFRIENDDOESNTREADTHISPOST) of you is single, plow that field like it's planting season baby.

I think so...but it also has to do with me moving from Texas to California. =[ I really miss my best friend............... He didn't even call me for my birthday... v.v

But if friends get a significant other and completely drop all contact, I go into ***** mode and ignore them back whenever they want to hang out

Yepp it happened to me. Sucks. But that's what I get, I suppose. For putting him in the friend zone lol. I know he was into me but I was just not interested and only wanted to be friends. He said it was ok and he would rather have me in his life as a friend than not at all, but then he went away to college, met a girl, and basically stopped talking to me. That was probably 4-5 years ago. I miss him still sometimes.

This just happened to me recently. He started dating this girl that's not "cool" with him hanging out with female friends. It sucks... :ohwell:

As a guy with a really awesome lady friend(we met though this site actually), I'd never give up our friendship just because I'm dating someone. Fact is that this sometimes decreases how often we can talk, but I'd never cut off communication competely. If you do this, were you actually good friends to start with?