Intimidating?

If you are intimidating then it may not be how you are acting/talking, it could just be how you present yourself. If you are confident in yourself and you don't back down when you think something is wrong then that could be intimidating. If you see that you can change something that others think impossible, then with that mindset it could intimidate others.

Try thinking of it as, you are strong and know who you are instead of thinking of it as a bully or egotist mindset.

Don't let them get to you. I said some things last week that I caught so much flack that I actually almost cried, quit MFP. I gathered myself, Appologized openly to the Chats that I was in during the day. I was surprised at the positive responses I received from so many. I mean I was really sorry. I was/am daling with a lot of stuff and Anger lately. I got dumped about a month ago and I can't deal with it. I don't know why? anyway, I recognized that my anger has goten the best of me and I am schedule to try to get some help on the matter. I took a couple of Only assessments for Anger Management and I was a bit surprised at my scores. Nothing as serious as Physical violence but Snapping at people, Shortness, dismissing others, etc.

Anyway, Just appologize if you had offended anyone and try to be a little bit more sensitive.

Hope this helps//

Just curious, were they male or female?

I was told by three separate people today that they've found me intimidating. I'm hurt. I try really hard to be humble, non-judgmental and genuine in what I say. I certainly don't think I'm better than anyone.
I'm divorced and unemployed, so it's definitely not that I'm living any type of dream......

How can I spin this into a positive?

I have been told this, too. This probably doesn't help much but you have to look at the person who finds you intimidating. For me, I would come across as confident, self assured, always having the right answer (not cocky, just knowledgeable), not afraid to jump in and take care of business, etc. The people who found me intimidating were younger, less confident and supposed to be my supervisor (fairly newly hired). But...apparently they found me nice enough to be able to come up and tell me this, sounds like this is the case with you also. Usually, once they were able to say so, it helped relieve their insecurities and they felt much less intimidated.

I see myself as the wallflower. I'm more of an introvert...

Many people find that intimidating. If you talk a lot and appear more outgoing, people tend to think you are approachable / odds are you will approach them...

I wouldn't worry about it too much. Once people get to know you I assume they find out the truth. After all, they did find the courage to tell you this, so you can't really be very intimidating, right?

Yup. I'm pretty shy and introverted, and have come to realize that can be interpreted as snobbishness or aloofness. :ohwell:

Are these three people close friends or family members? Do they in any way play an important role in your life? If not, like you said, these are just the opinions of "three" people...btw, with that smile, how can they even say that

I am painfully shy, awkward around others. I have been told more than once that this has made me appear snobbish to people that don't know me.

Maybe it's because your standing on your head...

I am super quiet and I've been told some people find that intimidating. Apparently they worry I'm thinking bad things about them because I don't talk much. I guess I understand that, but there's nothing I can do about it. It's just in my nature.

I hear the same stuff. And things like (from people that have known me forever) that they would never want me made at them. Which I don't understand, since I usually avoid conflict by talking and finding solutions and what not.
But I don't take it personally at all.

I see myself as the wallflower. I'm more of an introvert...

this could be the vibe you put out, then and not at all about your personality. Was this ever mentioned before the divorce or only after? Maybe you've put up a wall?