WTF is wrong with me
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I know what is wrong...you are human!
63 lbs down is great. Slow and steady with exercise is great. Being so hard on yourself is not so great. Would you let your friends talk to you like that??? Of course not.
I would eat a lot more junk if it was in the house. I could not binge only every couple of weeks if that stuff was in my house. I'd eat it all in 10 minutes! It is easier for me to not have junk food at home because my kids are grown up.
Maybe you do this already, but I have found that keeping a fruit bowl on the counter and a container in the fridge full of prepared veggies (washed and sliced and ready to eat) gives me something to go to when I must eat. It would also be a great example to your kids. Or, what if you kept treats that the kids like and that you don't?
Also, try to think that junk food is lousy fuel for your body anyway. It is not all about calories and weight, but health too.
You are doing great.0 -
I had a big one yesterday I didnt even log and felt like *kitten* last night and feel like crap this morning...lets get back on this wagon and keep on truckin no time to feel sorry for ourselves it happens...lets just focus on being better today and take it from there...0
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It has taken me 7 years to lose 70 lbs… that's 10 lbs a year, lol! These things take time. I'm still not at my goal, but it is just around the corner. There is nothing wrong with cheating every once in a while. I also don't think there is anything wrong with taking the junk out of the house, though. It will certainly lessen your temptations. I won't let ice-cream pass the threshold of my house.0
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You're a definetly not alone...I love food!! I'm short so weight shows on me a lot...but I changed my diet and I'm 13 lbs from my goal now. I'm not going to lie...I did have help...I take Adderall twice a day for ADHD...I use to take it, and when I lost my insurance, I couldn't afford it. Now that I have insurance and can afford it, the dr. put me back on it. Its not to be used lightlty, you may have to force yourself to eat if you have never taken it, but if you take it....make sure that you are eating healthy and regularly...it is just an aide. It may help....I am by no means pushing taking medication, but this may be an option to give you a jump start and help you learn to eat less and healthier0
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Hi Escarda,
I do the same thing myself especially when I'm reaching a specific goal and I ask myself the same question. I know that sometimes for me it could be the fear of success - sounds crazy I know. I've always been heavy and that's what I know even though I truly want to lose the weight. Also, the junk food is easy to get to, you don't have to prepare or cook it and it tastes good. I have to decide what I want more. I don't have any kids so I don't have to worry about them asking for it; kids can make it harder. I know you didn't want any advice but have you thought about getting the smaller single serving bags instead of the large family packs so if you just ate one bag every other night you would stay within your calorie range and you wouldn't feel so guilty. If you do that, the trick is to eat just one bag and not several - I've done that before. BJs has the variety pack of single servings chips. Sam's club might have them too.
Good luck to you and I hope you get a handle on it soon.0 -
I think that happens to the best of us. Maybe try allowing yourself a treat on your weight day weekly. That is what I do. I get a guilt free treat on weigh day every week. I don't feel bad or dwell on it if I go over that day. In doing so I don't have the binge cravings that I used to have.
Lil Note: I was skinny until my parents divorced when I was 11. My parents NEVER had snacks or soda in the house. And my best friends family had tons. Becuase my parents were divorcing I spent a lot of time at this friend's house, and the emotional eater in me emerged. I gorged myself on treats and soda, and got huge. So after that I either binged or starved myself, it was never a happy medium. So after years of struggling with emotional eating, allowing myself that treat, gives me a slight cheat treat and I don't have the need to binge anymore.
It may not work for you, but it has so far for me in the past few months of my new way of living. I hope it helps though. Good Luck! and BTW 65 lb loss! Go You!0 -
I think this is where if you deny yourself little pleasures every day then you finally break and binge. I know a doc who has lost a ton of weight and he says he has a piece of candy every day but it is ONE PIECE. He will eat a Snickers Mini or something like that. I have started doing that and I have noticed it keeps me from downing 5 oreos at once or something like that. Maybe you need to build in a little treat every day that is 50 calories or so. Then, if you don't have one on a certain day maybe you can have two the next day. But remember, YOU ARE HUMAN. Don't beat yourself up. Keep searching for the answer and then correct it. You are already on that path since you are asking for help and looking for answers.0
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You justified having Cheez Its and Tootsie Rolls because your kids need the junk food. Your kids DO NOT need junk food. What's not fair is that you haven't found healthy alternatives that they could love too. You are setting them up for bad eating habits by having foods like this in the house. So not only are you allowing trigger foods that set you off / but you are allowing yourself to give harmful food to your kids.
Instead of Cheez It's and Tootsie Rolls why don't you find other healthy snack alternatives that you and your family can enjoy. Natural / Organic ones that do not have preservatives and are processed junk.
Once you get the junk out of your house you will have less of a binge issue.
Hell, if I had pizza sitting around my house 7 days a week you'd bet your *kitten* I'd be eating it or wanting to. But I choose not to have it in front of me because i'll want to eat it.
My househould does not have that junk. People love snacks, but I will make a healthy brownie. And i cook the brownies in muffin pans so that they are already measured out and i know i can have one... and if i'm really feeling hungry i'll have two. I make my brownies with yogurt or apple sauce and NOT butter / oils / eggs.
You need to stop telling yourself you are struggling struggling struggling. Same old story you are telling yourself. Move on. Be someone different. Be strong. Be happy with your progress. Stop complaining about your failures!!!
good luck.
Wow! What a great response... I hope you don't take offense to what she said and really take her advice. I know I'M going to!!
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All I have to say in this matter is I do not feel it is fair TO FEED A CHILD JUNK FOOD. Then they have to re learn how to eat later in life because they were raised on the crap?
Your children to not need junk food, as a matter of fact, I have seen with my own eyes children behave better when they do not eat all that junk. I also know that some parents I know that do not allow it in the house use going out for dessert as a very special occasion.
You are not doing your children any favors by feeding them junk. There are plenty of healthy snack alternatives that you can feed your kids, and then you will not feel so guilty about eating some of those.0 -
Sorry had to laugh, I also had cheese it's and tootsie rolls yesterday. As long as you track it and have the cals for it move on. I also have children and I buy snacks for them that I could also eat in moderation. If I ate it when I counted points on ww, I don,t see why I can,t on MFP.0
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"Cheezits have knocked me off the wagon too
Damn their cheezy goodness!!!"
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My parents are overweight and I'm overweight and I know the struggles we've had all our life with the weight. So I personally think you'd be doing your kids a favor by not having the junk food in the house. Instill good healthy eating habits in them while they are young and pray they don't ever have to face the struggle of trying to lose weight! Also I eat a small treat about every other day...like 50 calories or less. Like one of those little Dove dark chocolate squares or something. That way I never feel deprived and I'm not totally screwing up my weight loss.0
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Wow, I am amazed and overwhelmed at all of these responses. I think I learned something or was encouraged by something in every single one of the messages. I wish I could respond to everyone individually.
Thank you so much....you have helped more than you know. I will keep on keeping on, forgive myself, work on getting the junk out of the house (just to clarify, the Tootsie Rolls were only here from a birthday party, I don't let my kids eat them on a regular basis, and to everyone who pointed out that I need to schedule a daily treat...you are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT.
Thanks again...you MFP peeps are the best!!0 -
You justified having Cheez Its and Tootsie Rolls because your kids need the junk food. Your kids DO NOT need junk food. What's not fair is that you haven't found healthy alternatives that they could love too. You are setting them up for bad eating habits by having foods like this in the house. So not only are you allowing trigger foods that set you off / but you are allowing yourself to give harmful food to your kids.
Instead of Cheez It's and Tootsie Rolls why don't you find other healthy snack alternatives that you and your family can enjoy. Natural / Organic ones that do not have preservatives and are processed junk.
This right here ^^^. Teach your children good habits now so they don't have the struggles you've faced in your life. Being healthy is a whole house effort. Fair is allowing your children to share in your healthy lifestyle. Unfair is allowing them access to "junk" for snacks.
You have done an amazing job so far. 65 lbs is awesome!0 -
First of all, you are not alone. I have similar experiences all the time, and I often want to know what is wrong with me. Why do I keep shoving food in my face, even when I am aware I'm bingeing and I should stop?? It's not an easy habit to overcome, and may never be totally eliminated, especially because we have to eat to live and cannot totally remove food from our lives.
But, that being said, I think you have done an amazing job so far!!! What an accomplishment!!! I'm not sure what your personal plan is, but I'm guessing if like you said, the only bingeing you are doing is every few weeks or so, that's probably not in and of itself going to halt your progress. I have had nights like that too, and I managed to keep losing despite it. My current barrier, however, is keeping myself from just overeating in general.... watching portion sizes, ordering foods that are not an automatic fail, logging everything so I keep myself accountable..... I would say with the amount you are working out and being dedicated to logging, you should continue losing even if you do have the occasional binge. If you do plateau though, follow the advice of other posters on this site... I think the general wisdom around here is to change up your workout routine, and/or change up what/how you're eating to give your body a little wake-up call.
No matter what, though, I understand how you feel and how you can want to beat yourself up sometimes for the bingeing. It is frustrating!! But keep focusing on how much progress you have made and all your successes... they are amazing!
*** Side note: How do you actually spell bingeing? Is is that, or binging?? The "e" looks wrong, but with out it, it seems to indicate we are engaging in a "bing" rather than a "binge". This is probably because it's not actually a word, huh.0 -
Firstly, nothing is wrong with you, your only human secondly i have uncontrollable urges to binge and eat everything in sight. I usually have an urge to eat my body weight in chocolate, cakes and biscuits. The only thing that helps these binges is to not have these foods in the house in the first place. Therefore I can't binge.
Although occasionly i will buy biscuits as a treat for my 6 year old but i just leave it at that - a treat. And i will help myself to some too :blushing:
I also try and cook meals with plenty of vegetables but there is always processed foods in the freezer for me to cook quickly if i don't have the time to cook.
But another thing that really annoys me is my oh and other family buying junk food for us because that's hard to resist.
Ok, i'm waffling on but what i'm trying to say is try not to have much junk in the house so your less likely to binge on it. That helps me, and losing 68lbs is a great achievement. You have done really well to lose that so well done :happy:0 -
I am the same way. I have my cravings and if I let them go for to long they get out of control!! So I have started to give myself a small bite or portion of what one of my cravings were. It has helped, for the most part. But sometimes, like last night, for no reason at all I just over ate. I dont keep junk food in our house anymore for my 2 girls, but I am a at home baker. So it DOES make it hard cause I do have supplies to make all sorts of cakes and icings at any given time in the house.
Its hard. I have been going at this for just over a year, and I have to get the weight off for my health. My friends are losing 2 lbs a day at times, and I am only losing .2 oz at at time, most of the time.
Its hard. I think stress is a factor and monthy "issues" that also play a part in the cravings. Hold on tight. Maybe when you start to feel a craving come one, dont put it off. But just give yourself 15 cheese its, or 2 candys and MAKE yourself wait 15 min till you get more. That waiting ALWAYS works for me... it takes about that time for your body to register you had them. It works like that too, for my diabeties.
Good luck, and remember we are all in this together!!!0 -
can you discern a trigger? is it TOM, deadlines at work, interactions with certain people?0
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HI... It sounds like you have a really good handle on all that contributes to bingeing as you mention emo and psycho factors which are a HUGE part. I work as a case mger/counselor in a Binge Eating Dis. Intensive Outpatient Program.... bingeing (even when not associated with BED or severe as BED) is SO common and not one dimensional .... it sounds like you've really taken the time to be mindful of what's going on within you before, during, or after a binge. Since you say you haven't really picked up on any particular patterns recently, it might make sense to look and see if you're consuming ENOUGH calories.. a physiological hunger will derail wt loss attempts almost everytime
Its a cycle... not enough cals--> binge-->guilt about binge-->restriction.....and so it goes! Its not about falling off the horse its about how quickly you can get back on to eating meals (never leaving more then 3 hrs between snacks/meals).... It also sounds like your working out alot and hard! your bodies demands may have increased!
I don't know if any of this resonates with you or is helpful but I thought I'd share in case it could be I wish you all the best as you tackle those last 30! You're doing wonderfully!! 0 -
I would like to have the brownie recipe too0
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Hun Ive had a 2 week binge on whatever I could fit in my mouth but today is a new day Im starting over ! Dont beat yourself up!0
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hang in there, it's OK to cheat every once in a while... everyone does.... don't beat yourself up, you're doing great 65lbs is CERTAINLY a great accomplishment.
Ohh-- and I think its very fair to not have junk food around... I wish my mom had limited my consumption of it
This is a very good point. Having that cr%p in the house does no one any good. Healthy eating habits begin in childhood. If the kids get used to sugary snacks when they're little, well, you know what can happen in their adult years. Don't buy any more of that stuff would be my suggestion. The kids will find a way to survive on fresh fruit and healthy snacks and be so much better off for it.0 -
You are normal. really. it is ok to treat yourself. Just log it. when you see how many calories it is, it will make you consider it next time. i have many days like that. its ok. you have a wonderful weight loss. We are in a lifetime journey of eating healthy. thats ok. how do you feel with 65 # off? wonderful. keep up the good work and log your foods and exercise.0
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Binging is an emotional issue. For me it is related to frustration and yes a sabotage of sorts.
I give myself permission to binge AFTER I take a walk and drinking water and then a shower.
It usually works that I don't binge as hard or not at all.0 -
hang in there, it's OK to cheat every once in a while... everyone does.... don't beat yourself up, you're doing great 65lbs is CERTAINLY a great accomplishment.
Ohh-- and I think its very fair to not have junk food around... I wish my mom had limited my consumption of it
I agree!! I think that no junk in the house for ANYONE is a GREAT thing!!! Teach your kids the things you wish you had so they din't end up in their late 20's or 30s (which I think is when the metabolisim REALLY hits a speed bump... at least for me) trying to fight off weight because they have a "taste" for junk and not the good stuff!0 -
Absolutely nothing is wrong with you. You are human. You snack. No big deal. You log it and are accountable for it. Smile and know that you have already lost 65 lbs.0
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If you workout hard 5-6 days a week, are you sure you are getting enough calories? I can't look at your diary but working that hard needs extra calories. that could be part of the issue...just thinking outloud :-)0
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I'm not really looking for answers...this is more of a vent. But if you have any words of wisdom or support, please feel free to share!
Last night I had a binge (on Cheez Its and Tootsie Rolls of all things...nice...sometimes I think weight loss would be so much easier if I didn't let the kids have any junk food in the house but I don't know if that's fair). The good news is that I logged it all. The bad news is that it still happens once every couple of weeks...I keep thinking I am finally beyond it all...and then it happens again.
I've been at this weight loss journey for almost 3 years and I'm down about 65 lbs--struggling, struggling, struggling to get the last 30 lbs. off. I exercise hard 5-6 days a week, including strength training. I have learned so much about myself, nutrition, behavior changes, triggers, etc...and yet I still have these periodic binges. WTF is wrong with me?? It's like I sabotage myself and I have no idea why.
I examine myself for emotional triggers, psych factors, etc...can't see a pattern. It is just SO D*MN FRUSTRATING.
Okay, vent over. Thanks for listening...
Have your tried indulging BEFORE you binge? Helps me.0 -
I am the same way, only I have yet to be successful with any weight loss because of my bingeing. Just keep going, even on the bad days. Exercise, keep your head up. You've already done so well. You can do it! Feel free to add me as a friend if you want continued support. 0
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