Binge eating ...... people don't understand.

i recently figured out why i binge. but can't figure out how to stop. would love to have someone *there* to talk to, if anyone is interested.

I too have figured out why I binge, but also can't seem to stop. I have sought help from a lady who comes to my work place with her own fitness and nutrition business and start next week with her. Needless to say, I am stuffing my face horribly this week, preparing to say goodbye for a while to all these foods. I have been overweight my entire life, always encouraged to eat whatever I wanted, however much I wanted, and burping just meant my stomach had room for more food (according to my father). I eat out of boredom, out of just wanting more than what I'm supposed to have (almost like I get a thrill out of rebeling against that nutrition label and guidelines). I eat because I don't feel like I deserve food sometimes. Which makes absolutely no sense. I think I am eating to fill a hole in myself, a hole created when I was young by neglect. I think that I feel eating more and more will fill that hole, and make me whole. Of course it's not going to. I get horrible cravings, and will become an absolute moody b!tch if I don't get the food I'm craving. I will even go so far as to not eat anything all day until I can get the food I am craving. (and of course will whine and ***** about it all day, trying to tell myself no to it. My cravings will last for over a month if I don't get what I'm craving. It is absolutely a drug like addiction. And it is so hard to stop because you always need food to survive. you can stop using alcohol and drugs, but not food. Our food issues all seem to stem from emotional issues. Sometimes not, sometimes it is just that damn food. I am an emotional eater as well, so when I'm stressed, I want food. When I'm sad, I want food. When I'm mad, I want food. When I'm happy, I want food. But mostly when I'm stressed or facing a scary or uncomfortable situation, I want that familiar comfort of food. I used to be a stomach sleeper, but I somehow broke myself of that habit (dunno how I managed to break a habit I do in my sleep). And I have noticed if I lay on my stomach on the couch and watch tv, it feels sooooo good. I feel so comforted and warm. Whoever said this, I am seeing everything a bit differently now, and understand binging a little bit more. My mom was bulimic when she was a teenager, so I'm also wondering if the binging comes from her too. Not that I throw up what I eat. I wouldn't be able to watch all that delicious food leave my body.

I totally understand. I've been through binging and purging, or just binging my entire life. I allow myself one day per week to binge now, but it's still a lot less than I used to at once. Honestly, I wouldn't know any advice to give someone who needed help. It's taken me over a year of trying really hard just to get to this point.

I get it. I've been binge free for 5 months. I have a set amount of weekly bonus calories built into my plan so that I can splurge and not deprive myself. I use them on the days that I want rather than having to eat the same amount of cals everyday which can be rather boring. I got to goal on weight watchers so I took the idea from that.

I know that binging can either be emotionally triggered or deprivation triggered but when I don't deprive myself and then have something emotional come up, I'm less likely to fix it with food. If I've deprived myself, that one emotional issue can send me over the edge.

I hope you find what works for you!

I get the binge eating I struggle with that all the time still do... in the past of my weight loss struggles go very strick then break down and binge for the whole weekend to only feel worse it's like when I start I can't stop, I have a food addiction too especially when I feel unstable in emotions. I have noticed that being on here somewhat holds me accountable so I curb the binge more than I use to.. hang in there! you have ppl who get it I found this out myself too...

You are among friends! From the second we are weaned, big corporates and the media are out to destabilise our natural harmonious relationship with food. Look at the multi-million dollar food industry, and the equally huge & profitable slimming industry, not to mention all the magazines/ papers selling us pictures to destabilise us further.

And like everything, some of us succumb to those forces and some of us seem to be completely resilient. Variation - it makes us human. Intolerance of those who are different also makes us human too, unfortunately.

Unfortunately, they got me. My "off-switch" is knackered. If I start eating certain foods, I simply can't stop. I am pre-occupied, sometimes frenzied. I could graze all day. Frequently I do. I know it isn't a healthy relationship, and I live in hope that one day this will pass, and food will simply become fuel to me. For now, I just manage it with exercise and trying to avoid triggers (difficult when your father in law's big mouth is a huge trigger!).

I feel ashamed about my eating, and my pre-occupation with food. Nobody really knows. But then I have never succumbed to alcohol, gambling, debt, smoking, promiscuity, drugs etc. It's just the food that got me. But the one grain of comfort I have is that I am clearly not alone!

I feel for you with the in-law situation. My in-laws were such poison. They were emotionally abusive to my husband all his life. Then I came along and showed him how people are supposed to treat you, and they all hated me. Tried to get him back with them. Even becoming physical violent with him. We called the cops on them a few times, their antics never did totally stop. My mother-in-law said she was sorry to me, but I never bought it. Then one day last year she b!tched about me to my own mother, making her cry on her birthday. That was it. We severed all ties with them. I mean these people were relentless. When we were first avoiding them, they would wait in the parking lot where we worked for us to get out of work. We blocked their phone numbers, they changed their phone numbers. We blocked those numbers, they coerced other people to call us from different numbers hoping we would pick up. So we changed his phone number and disconnected the home phone, and sent them a letter detailing why we wanted nothing to do with them. They sent it back with nothing but cuss words and name calling, even picking on me about my weight (when my monster-in-law is even bigger than me). I still have that letter just in case I ever need it for the police. I know the battle is not over even though it's been quiet and peaceful for a year.

I could have 1 binge day if I binged on fruit and veggies but that's not what I binge on...
I crave fats and sugar all the junk and add cheese to it then I'm in.. I have tried to say to my self have one day
eat what you want ( little game I play with myself) soon as I let go there's no going back. I wish to be normal
have a big meal and then move on. ... It seems like forever that food has controlled by life... ...