Online Dating.. ugh

Just goes to show you.....Fools are everywhere.

I agree with a lot that has already been said. I don't think it was necessarily bad for him to be up front that he didn't want to date (although I completely empathize with you on how it must have felt - it sucks), but I think he decided that since you kept talking to him, he could maybe convert you to a booty call. So someone he can sleep with but never has to take out in public.

If you want to keep talking to him just as friends, then I would tell him to cut out the flirting because he's in the friend zone with no hope of getting out. And maybe you're up for just a booty call thing, although to be honest - when I was in that stage of my life, I usually picked the guys, and told them up front that it was what it was. I don't think my pride could deal with booty calling with a guy who said I wasn't good enough to date, even though I was doing the same thing in reverse. Funny how we can dish it out but not take it.

Not all online dating is bad though!

It's not that he doesn't want to take me out in public though, he asked to take me to lunch yesterday so I don't think its like that too much..

Yes I went there.. If you don't want to listen to me vent I suggest you stop reading now..!!!

I am currently on an online dating site and had the courage to message a guy in my area that seemed like we had similar interests, we talked for about 3 days straight.. then he tells me.. No Offense, but you're not fit enough for me to date. He likes girls that are super sporty and athletic.. which I am not.

I got huffy but decided at least he was honest with me and I told him that I am trying to lose weight and that I have struggled with it my whole life. I decided to keep talking to him with no intentions of dating but just talking to for fitness advice and chatting.. He wasn't all that bad..

After I got done at the gym last night he was texting me asking how my workout went and I told him I'm going to get in the shower.. "He's like wait for me...!! " so I told him he would NEVER see my A** naked because he dismissed me the way I am now. Then he was like Ohh what if I whip you into shape..??

I guess I am just annoyed, he tells me that I am very pretty and that he was happy that I messaged him but wouldn't date someone like me because I'm not in the best of shape..

Has anyone else gotten this sort of stuff from being on there?

Apparently you live in Vancouver, BC? I hear this kind of stuff from my single friends pretty often! You are good enough to text with, possibly good enough for a booty call at some point, but not good enough to date. He'll message you flirty things when he's lonely, but that's about it! It has nothing to do with your body or how fit he likes his women - he's a player. Delete his texts, number and block his dating profile. Save yourself the mind games. :flowerforyou: (You are very pretty by the way)
Another tip that I swear by even though it sounds old fashioned - if a guy likes you, he'll make the effort and message/text/call/see you. I wouldn't ever message men first. They'll be flattered probably, but you want someone who is actually interested in you! Don't settle for "he wasn't all that bad..."

I would have to agree with this post except one thing. I met my husband through an online dating site 6 years ago. I messaged him initially. He had met someone and wanted to see where it would go and was kind and thanked me for my interest. I forgot about him. 3 months later I came across his profile again and sent him a message, having totally forgotten about the first time I messaged him. It had not worked out with the other woman he had already met. I gave him my phone number and I swear, from that time on, I NEVER had to call him, he ALWAYS called me..... and called me when he said he would.

After we were engaged, I read a book called, "He's just not that into you" which I would Totally recommend for ANY single lady out there today. One of the first things it talked about was if he likes you, if he is genuine, he will call you. You should not waste your time calling him, if he isnt calling when he said he would, drop him. Secondly, if he is flirty with you privately but wont date you openly, drop him. He's just not that into you and you are wasting your time.

Get that book, I dont know if the movie was based on the book at all or not but here is a link to the book on Amazon It is COMPLETELY worth it and is a funny read as well:
http://www.amazon.com/Hes-Just-That-Into-Understanding/dp/068987474X

I got a good one the other day. A guy messaged me on a dating site and i knew i shouldnt have opened the message when the subject line was "Yo", but i did.... he wasnt local, looked stoned in his profile pic and seemed like a total d0uche! He eventually asked me if my pics were current and i said that they were pretty current. He replied "Oh." I asked, "Why Oh?" He said, "Well your profile says that you've lost like 90lbs. I was hoping those were your before pictures because you're still a fatass"

I mean damn dude....

Where's my forever alone meme when I need it?

Sounds a bit egotistcal to me, maybe it's a good thing your're not going to date him.

No Offense, but you're not fit enough for me to date. He likes girls that are super sporty and athletic.. which I am not.