Hubs thinks my weight goal is too much

I agree with your husband. I'm 5'4" and my goal is around 145. Now, I'm large boned with a big chest and don't want to be tiny. But even for smaller framed person I would think 125 or even 120. 110 just seems too low to me.

I'm 5ft1" tall and my doctor wants me to get down to 101 pounds, because of the height/weight chart and I'm not getting down to that number and I told my doctor that. I would look anorexic. The biggest I ever was, before I started gaining weight was 125 pounds and it took me 4 years to gain 20 pounds, bringing my weight up to 145 pounds.

I focus on my body fat percentage, pounds of fat and inches loss. Fat loss and scale weight loss aren't the same thing. I have a body fat percentage goal that I'm aiming for and when I get there, I will still be classified as being obese and I'm fine with that. My scale weight doesn't determine what size clothes that I wear or even if I'm healthy or not.

If I can suggest something to you that would be not to focus on scale weight. Body fat percentage or clothes size is a good thing to focus on.

I'm 5'2" with shoes on with bones like a bird and my goal is 105 to 110

It really depends on your body type and frame. Personally, at 5' I've been 109 pounds and it's just about perfect. But I have a large frame. See how you feel and how you look as you get closer to your goal, you may adjust it. But don't worry about it now!!

(BTW my hubby also hates that I want to lose weight. He likes me with meat on my bones, exactly as I am now. Your hubby will get over it.)

Choosing a number that's the absolute lowest on a health chart is probably a bit too reaching. First, it's going to be a hard fight to get your body to want to push it essentially to what is teetering on the edge of unhealthy. Second, well, you'd be pushing your body to the very edge of unhealthy. To me that just doesn't seem like a safe/logical place to want to go.

Plus, it's likely that your ideas about your true goal will change as you actually start dropping pounds. The idea of just being super skinny could be replace with wanted to be fit and toned, which would equal a thinner/leaner body but might mean that you're higher on the scale because of all that awesome muscle that's making you look so lean.

As a 5'5" pear with a vague weight goal of 125ish, but an overall goal of knowing I'll be done when I feel confident enough to be one of those women in just a sports bra and shorts at the gym, I personally couldn't ever imagine what getting down to 110 would look like on me. When I got down to 135 (sans strength training at that point) at one point my aunt went crazy thinking I was anorexic. :P

I'm 5'3 and on the athletic side. I was my skinniest at 108. It was gross. It was like a borderline eating disorder/control thing. My goal right now is 122ish. Like I said, I'm on the athletic side, with medium sized bone build, anything lower than that starts to look not good on me.

So, the point to all this, is yes. Sounds too skinny to me. But then again, what do I know. Lol.

People are so different...I think you'll know when you get there. I'm 5'3", pretty big boned, starting at 175 with a goal weight of 145. Then I changed it to 135. Then 125. I am still in the middle of my healthy BMI range, and think I am getting very close...I will probably stop at 120-125...so why don't you get to a healthy weight and see how you feel? It will look different on you than anyone else, and it's hard to predict.

I'm 5'4 and 130 lbs. I am perfectly happy at this weight.

My friend is 5'4 and 119 lbs. We wear the EXACT SAME size clothing, even though she weighs 11 lbs. less.

Why is that?

body fat percentage. I work out hard 6 days and my friend does not work out at all. She keeps her weight down by eating about 1000 calories a day and smoking. She's really mushy, but perfectly happy. I eat about 2000 calories a day. Again: we wear the exact same size clothes.

I could not personally make it to 110 lbs. without sacrificing my muscle mass, and I have no desire to be mushy, so ya, I think 110 lbs. is too light, unless you like being mushy.

I'll chime in with the "it depends on your frame" crowd. I'm only 5'0" but have a large frame and have always had a heavily-muscled figure. Just today, I had a similar conversation with my boyfriend because I thought I may have set my goal just a bit too low. We found a number of charts (from reputable sources) that use height and wrist measurements to determine frame size. Even at my short height, my frame size was well above the cutoff for "large."

Just remember that it's not about hitting a certain number or fitting into a certain size/style of clothing; it's about making the best out of your own personal attributes. Aim for a range rather than a specific numerical goal and gauge what you need to do once you get there and see what's going on at that point.

I think your goal would be very hard to maintain so it would be better to pick a realistic goal for the long term, otherwise you will be upset when you go above 110. I am 5'2" and my goal is 130.

I'm 5'7", my goal is 140, the mid range of 'healthy' for my height. The lowest number for my height would make me look sick.

I would personally set my goal to the mid point of the healthy weight range then adjust when I got there. What most don't understand is that once you get to your goal... you still adjust your body by proper weight training to get the contour you desire. Actually in my case I just reset my initial goal to 225 which is technically 25 lbs overweight... but since I am pushing the weight training at the same time, I can adjust body fat from 2 directions. The goal should be adjustable... Body fat is the main concern.. Get that in check then morph your body into what you want it to be.

i am 5'3 going for 130 or 135 ish - i used to be around 110 and i was told repeatedly by the loved ones in my life that it didn't look right. they called me 'usedtasexy' bc i used to be sexy at 130 xD it is different for every person though - i however have never been more confident and happy with myself than i was around that weight *shrugs*

I'm 5'4" current at 166 lbs and my ultimate goal weight is 145 lbs. But I enjoy lifting weights because I want to be toned and fit instead of "just thin (and squishy)" so health, fitness and inches lost is more important that the number on the scale.

Good luck with your weight loss journey!

I agree with your husband. I am 5'4" with a pear shape. I feel and look the best at 135-138. Because of the pear shape, I start to look too skinny (above my waist) when I go below 135. Please enjoy who you are and do this for your health, not a number. Much success with your weight loss.