Hubs thinks my weight goal is too much

I agree with previous posters - set yourself a mid-range goal and see how you feel when you get there. Everyone is built differently and so carry weight in different places. My mum is only slightly taller than me but if she weighed the same as I do she would look gaunt and half dead, but if I weighed the same as her I'd look a proper porker!
I've adjusted and re-adjusted my weight loss goals several times since I started using MFP a year or so ago - I started out with a goal of 154 pounds, then when I hit that and I still wasn't happy with my shape I set my sights on being a (UK) size 10. When I got there and still wasn't happy I moved the goal posts to 147 pounds. When I hit that and still wasn't entirely happy I changed the goal to 140 pounds and I'm sure I'll adjust that when i get there too!

Perhaps if you think about the shape you'd like to be and aim for that rather than an ideal weight you (and your husband) will be happier?!

Good luck and good work so far

Wait until you are a little closer to your goal & see how you feel & look then.
My goal is to lose just a bit more until it is right & then I will stop. I know I have about 5 stone to go but it may be 4 or 6. Who cares until I get a bit closer to it?!?!?

I think if you've never been that weight in the past, then you should just keep going until you get to where you feel good about yourself and not look at the number so much. I'm shorter than you, but my goal is 111. I have been at that weight before so I know what it looks like.

I think your goal is very realistic. I am 5'5 and met my goal of 112. That being said-I have a very small frame. I do not look anorexic.

I'm 5'4 and currently 180ish. With that said, at my largest I was 280. I've always been a bigger girl.

I personally can't imagine being 110lbs. I feel like I would deathly.

I like having curves. I like my boobs and my *kitten*. I've started weight training and I like my muscles too.

110 lbs doesn't give you boobs and *kitten* and muscles.

Right now my goal is 150. When I get there, I might reassess. But for now, that sounds good to me.

I would suggest maybe setting smaller goals, and reassess once you reach them.

I wouldn't worry about it too much right now. I would take it one day at a time. I'm 5 ft 9 in and at one point in my life i was 140 pounds which was way to thin for me even though the charts told me it was a healthy weight. I wouldnt rely on the charts. I'd go by how you feel every ten pounds you loose. Plus, if you get down to that weight and it's not working for you or your lifestyle, you can add a few more pounds back.

Wow, 140 does look like a much healthier number for my height! I wanted to be able to say "I lost 100 pounds!" But I'd rather be healthy (that's the whole reason I'm doing this!) than be one of the Olsens!

The good news is you don't have so much to lose. You can think about how much body fat % to lose. Either way maybe set smaller goals and enjoy the process. You'll feel so much better eating healthier and exercising and those benefits will show at whatever size you are.

I bet to a man 110 lbs sounds unfathomably low. (A lot of women think my goal weight is too low despite it being in the healthy range because they are taller and are not used to thinking in terms of the numbers I have to think in.) What about not talking numbers but giving him permission to mention it to you if he thinks you are starting to look too thin?

At my lowest, my husband did not think I looked too thin, but I bet if I told him the numbers his perspective might have been different.

And I'm going to echo all the other responses. It might be too low, it might not be, it depends on how you look and feel. If you start feeling uncomfortable (cold, discomfort sitting or lying down, tired, poor hair and nails) add some pounds back on. Some people just cannot be the lowest weight in their weight range. Other people emotionally cannot shoot for that because they will get too hung up on the numbers and the mission and lose perspective of how they actually look and feel.

I think shooting for a BMI of 22-22.5 and seeing how you feel there is a good start.

I am 5'4" and my goal is 130 or 135. That is smack dab in the middle for BMI. I would take a good long look at your body structure. I have a heavy frame if I drop down below 125 I look like I am dying. So really do what is best for you health wise and have realistic expectations.

I am 5'4 with a small to medium frame and I want to get down to 127lbs. My husband thinks that is too low. The last time I was 110 I was 16yrs old...

Maybe you can set yourself mini goals to reach, then reassess them once you reach them, as to how much more you would like to lose.

It really depends on how you carry your weight. I am 5ft 4in and I have hit my goal weight of 125, but I am still carrying a lot of weight around my middle. In fact, my waist measurement just recently dropped below the "danger zone " . I thought I would be happy at this weight, but I plan to continue on until the spare tire is gone.. Oh, and at this weight I wear a 6/8. Just goes to show the difference in bodies, as a previous poster weighed more, yet was wearing a 2!

I'm 5'7" and 130 pounds and I can promise you that I look far from anorexic. I am actually looking to lose another 5 pounds. I have muscle and am nowhere near skeletal. You could do it and still be healthy, just see how you feel along the way.

Weight goals are a PERSONAL choice. You have to be happy with how you look in the mirror. Whatever number that is is ultimately YOUR decision. See how you look as you lose weight and stop when you want to stop.

I weighed 131 pounds last year and was soooo unhappy. I undertook a vast training programme and dropped to 113 pounds and felt great. I am also small, at just 5ft 2. I have to say am not that weight now, but my goal weight is 113 pounds or lower because i feel happier at these lower weights as i am a small person. The problem for us smaller people is that weight tends to look bigger then a taller person were the weight is more stretched out.

I would aim to loose weight to a medium goal above this target weight, see how you feel and maintain this weight for a period of time. Then if you feel as though you need to drop a few pounds again do it slowly. Slow weight loss is the best no matter the goal. Its worked for me I have never been a above 135 pounds since loosing weight this way (i used to be 185).

Just remember healthy and happy is what your aiming for no matter what the goal weight.

There are many factors that play into what you should set your goal to be.

Bone structure:

Some people are big boned, some medium boned, and some tiny boned. Which bone size are you? An easy way to tell is the wrap your pointer finger and thumb around the wrist of your dominant hand. Do the fingers overlap? Then you are small boned. Do they just meet? Then you are medium boned. Do they not meet? Then you are large boned. Now, this is not accurate for those people who have a lot of padding around their wrist, so you need to assess this as you lose weight.

Additionally, black people and Native Americans have denser bones than other racial groups. They may want to shoot for a little bit higher weight range. Asians have bones that are less dense, so they may want to shoot for a lower weight range.

Muscle mass:

If you have a lot of muscle on your body, you want to shoot for the higher end of your weight range. Maybe even shoot for the lower end of the 'overweight' range. Muscle is more dense than fat, so it weighs more. There is such a thing as 'skinny fat'. This occurs when you lose down to your weight range, but still have fat on your body. Please consider increasing your muscle mass as this will increase your metabolism and allow you to eat more calories, which is healthier for you and easier to maintain.

Differences among people:

So you looked at pictures of people that are your height and you want to look like them. So you figure you will look like them if you weigh what they weigh. That simply is not true. You may not lose the fat in the areas in which you wish to lose it to look like them. Fat tends to leave the body in the opposite order that it was put on: For example: if you put on weight around your waist last, that is what is going to go first. So you may like the looks of someone at 110 and your height, but losing down to that weight may not produce the results that you want.

Do I think 110 is wrong for you? I can't make that decision. I don't know what your bone structure is. I don't know how much muscle is on your body.

I would encourage you, though, to not compare yourself to what other people look like and weigh. Women do this all the time. Why can't we just be ourselves and do what we want to do, be who we want to be, without compare ourselves to others and striving to look like other people.

I concerns me that you are striving to look like others and not considering your particular body eccentricities. To maintain a 110 figure, you will have to live for the rest of your life on about 1200 calories. Is that doable for you? Would you rather weigh 125, have muscle on your body that will increase your metabolism, and be able to eat 1800 calories a day? Most women think me are attracted to those skinny little things, but they aren't. Men are really turned on by women who are physically fit. Those skinny little things are not physically fit.

What you need to do is calculate your lean body mass. This is bones, organs, and muscle weight. Then you need to go from there to figure out how much you want to weigh.

Here is a site about the benefits of lifting weights:

http://www.fitnessrxmag.com/fitness/training/1294-lift-more-to-lose-more.html

Weight lifting prevents osteoporosis as well. Its teeny, tiny women who get osteoporosis, not women who are muscled.

Another site of interest is this one, on which you can calculate your BMR, body fat, etc. Then you can really set the proper weight that you should strive for.

http://www.fat2fitradio.com/

In short, I think that you are just seeing the small picture. Many women think being teeny, tiny shows that they are healthy. To maintain that teeny, tiny figure, you may not be able to obtain all the nutrition that you need. It is better to put on muscle so that you can eat more and be healthy instead of eat little and be unhealthy.

Hope this helps you make a decision.