black ladies in here

I personally know a lot of men (black and white) who get very upset when their woman talks about getting thin . These men are not getting upset because they "prefer" thick women, they get upset because they use their women's weight (and the way the woman feels about herself) as a way to control them. I'm not saying all guys do this, this has just been my personal experience. Also, just to clarify I'm not talking about just black women either. These men I'm talking about are abusers though, usually in more than one way.

Edit to say , yes I realize I am not black lol

Patriarchal misogynistic jerks!!

More seriously...this is related to this thread...how? The thread isn't about abuse. It's not about controlling women. It's about cultural differences.

It would have been just as pointless to come in and say that a lot of men don't want their women to get thinner because they're too lazy to do something about their own weight issues.

Or...

A lot of men don't want their women to get thinner because of their own negative self image, and insecurity...which would be magnified by a thinner, more attractive wife/girlfriend.

And...neither would have been any more valid than your point, about abusive men.

Well thanks for your input , I guess I should go back to making sammiches since the big man doesn't think my opinion is valid.

Good girl.

Easy on the antifreeze this time though, please and thank you. It's giving me heartburn.

I'll use bleach next time , fix that heart burn right up

Ahh, the joys of a battle of wits with a young lady who hasn't even been out in the world long enough to form an accurate opinion of it.

Not.

Anyhow, could we please...get back to the thread, before it's closed?

Again...thanks.

I've been "out in the world," since I was 12 , of course coming from an obviously self absorbed man, I can completely understand why you would look down on a young woman, simply for being a young woman.

Okay, let me choose my words very carefully here.....I think that the idea black men prefer their women with curves and white men prefer their women skinny is a backwoods, stereotypical generalization...simply put. However, in my opinion, there are some cultural truths involved. I don't think that the majority of the black women here will say that there husbands/significant others mind that they are losing weight and gaining healthier lives. Genetically speaking, black women are predisposed to having fuller hips, thighs, and butts.....some don't, but generally speaking...they do. So duh, a black man would be crazy to not be attracted to the feature most of us have. It's still sort of stone age because in my world 2012, men of any race can date women of any race and along with this lovely freedom comes many different body types, shapes, etc. At the end of the day, it's about preference, and if those friends of yours ONLY like curvy (BIG) black women then that's their preference and they don't speak for the rest of the world.

I know this is sort of off topic but it's still about black women...I know a lot of black women prefer not to workout because of their hair sweating out...I used to think, my goodness why would this be a problem and why would it stop you from getting healthier...Well...since I've been working out, I now see what they mean...I can't do anything with my hair, it's as wet as if I had been in the shower after I'm done...Go to the salon, money wasted because hair is sweated out the next day...Going to have to spend more money to get braids...So now I can see why a lot of black women don't wan to deal with working out...

it IS true most brothas want a woman with a Kim Kardashian butt. I think it's in our DNA. you know how a dog acts when he sees a squirrel? That's how black guys act when they see a Kim K booty! LMAO!