You face looks too thin......
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If you continue to lose more weight, you will look older!! Are you sure you eat enough? You have to be close to your stopping point? Dont you think you are already thin enough?? I think you should worry more about maintaining then losing more!! You will start to look sickly!! Oh, I know you won't eat this, because of you DIET!! Blah Blah. This is all within the last five days from family, friends, co-workers. I really get sick of hearing this consistently from certain people. First of all, I am not on a DIET, I am on a life style change and I choose to eat healthier and not gorge on food all the time. I am 39 years old, 5'2" tall and weight 138.5lbs. I would not consider myself TOO THIN. I have a goal of reaching the a healthy BMI for my size. Which I would consider 125lbs would reach that goal for me. I am going to the Dr on Monday to get my BMI tested at my current weight to get an idea at were I stand, since I tend to run on the more muscular side then most people, (have all my life). I have loss 39.5 lbs since January (From my heaviest it more like 46.5lbs). I am super Proud of myself . It has taken alot of hard work and determination to get to this point. Just wish certain people in my life were my supportive. :-(. I can say that my Husband is not one of the above and is extremely supportive. Must of this is coming from my Mom and Sisters.
Has anyone else experienced the same situations?
All the time! I just smile and tell them I have a few more to lose and will stop when I am considered healthy by the charts.0 -
Congrats on your success! Yes, I've heard it from mom and sis....not as extreme, but they both agreed I need to stop where I am and dont lose anymore weight. LOL
I am 38 (and 7 months), 5'3" and currently weigh 134 lbs. (Starting Weight 148lbs (Jan 2012), Goal weight is 130lbs).
I think maybe they are just not used to the new you. Well, they just better get used to it huh? That's how I feel LOL (take it with a grain of salt, everybody has opinions....just ask them to keep theirs to themselves if they can't say something positive).0 -
sadly our society doesn't really have good role models for what healthy weight actually means, or looks like. Plus, people get used to the way you're "supposed" to look, i.e. how you've looked for x period. When that changes, I think it's the unfamiliarity of a slimmer face or physique that startles them into comments like, "you should stop losing weight".
You just keep doing what you're doing and ignore the rest
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I hear you ....lol I have been getting some of those same comments and I just say keep watching me its more to come ...lol most people are dealing with some issues of there own take there negative response and turn them into positive ones for your self0
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Heck, I just wish some of my family members would even notice I have lost weight! I guess I am going to have to get to my goal weight for someone to notice.0
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I am 5' 3" and aiming for 135! I think people get jealous because you are doing something they can't! You should hear the comments I get! I have a bubble butt that is starting to stand out more now that I am getting smaller and all the haters are making comments!0
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I don't tell anyone my goal anymore because I get the "you'll look sick" "that's not healthy" "you'll kill yourself working out so much" "you need to stop going to the gym, 1 or 2 days is more than enough" "you're a mom, you're supposed to be big" ugh!!0
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Heh. My inlaws were giving me a hard time about all the workouts i do. My MiL said something to the effect of "what do you want, to look like the women on the cover of those fitness magazines?" I said "not exactly. I just want to look good naked". This, while we were sitting at the table during a family dinner.
Strangely enough, i've not heard anything else from them about it.
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One word for your commenters, honey. Jealousy.
You are doing a great thing for your health, and you just keep on keepin' on! :flowerforyou:
THIS!!!:bigsmile:0 -
If im overweight, I get those "looks". You know when they try and be subtle when they eye you up and down in disgust? Or its the "now dont go overboard, you dont want to get too skinny." Cant win!!0
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I was wondering if I was going to look older. I am 41 and 5' 5.5"was 181 or so at my highest, now am 135, and all the comments I get are on how much younger I look. While it is possible that you may have a couple lines on your face that are more pronounced (probably not though), the overall effect is going to be that you look younger. Trust me!! The extra weight is what generally makes most of us look more matronly and older.
Don't listen to them. I am assuming they are overweight, or they wouldn't be making those comments. They are just using their own excused on you to make themselves feel better.0 -
I have had this myself and like you mostly family and work colleagues.
It is hard especially when you are on a quest to better yourself and it is a lifestyle change and choice.
The way I tackled it was by nicely telling them that they were entitled to their opinion but mentally there words of discouragement were not helping me mentally. I showed them the BMI chart and said "where to you fit on this" because medically this is where I should be. You know it worked as they cant argue against that.
Best of luck and stay true to yourself. if you are fit and well and the GP gives you the thumbs up then you are doing something right.0 -
the only one that tells me I dont need to lose anymore weight and Im beautiful is my mom LOL gotta love moms She also tellsme I should work out so hard she doesnt want me to have a heart attack :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :flowerforyou: :blushing: Love you mom0
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Same story here.
I remember a time when my grandma hurt my feelings by saying "Sweetie, you don't really need to eat another hot dog..." Now it's, don't lose any more weight, you'll be too skinny!
My favorite was my mother saying, "You just need to accept that you'll never be a size 6, that's just how our family is built."
Bottom line--don't listen. If losing weight is making you a happier person, then nothing they say should influence it. I agree that it is just jealousy.0 -
"Thanks for the concern, but my weight loss isn't really up for discussion."
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I heard it all before when I lost weight, even heard my own family talking behind my back saying I must be on drugs, which I was not, I let it upset me so much I gained it all back and then some, this time when they talk I am just gonna remind myself, I am doing this for me and for my children , besides they are most likely talking because they themselves need to do something about weight, I know it is hard but I am just gonna ignore it and do what my Dr. told me to do if I wanna live long enough to have grand-kids someday. Good luck and don't let it drag you down.0
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I know the feeling, It hasn't been as bad lately tho. But from a young age my family always had things to say about my weight, when I was like 8-11 I was too skinny, and I think that was what started my bad eating habits, then once i hit puberty I was chunky, then recently I lost weight and after losing 10 pounds my sisters and mom were like "You're okay now." Then I lost 10 more and my sisters are still saying I'm okay, but my uncle was asking me if I was sick or something....At this point I just ignore it and focus on how I feel about myself... and right now it's pretty damn good0
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Also sometimes it's not really out of jealousy, it's just that they are so used to seeing you at the size that you were that it will take a while for the size that you are/will be to look natural to them...they adjust pretty slow...0
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"Thanks for the concern, but my weight loss isn't really up for discussion."
^^^^^ Great! I will be using this when I lose enough weight to have haters.0 -
I get a lot of comments when I tell people I want to lose another 8-12 pounds. But I know what I want so I ignore it!0
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oh yes...as you get closer to being at your goal weight people will become critical and tell you "you don't need to diet", "you don't need to work out", etc, etc. I have decided that everyone, no matter how fit and slim and trim, needs to watch what they eat...perhaps not diet but make healthy choices every day. The same for working out! EVERYONE should exercise, and often! Our bodies were designed for it. When I hear things like that I just smile and use the famous southern dismiss..."Oh, aren't you sweet.... bless your heart. " 0
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I'm sorry. I totally know how you feel; my entire family is overweight/obese and I've seen how they get when others have lost weight. Not sure about your family, but I know mine comes at least a little bit out of jealousy.0
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My grandma told me the other day that I looked like a blonde insect!
Today, she said I look fantastic and that she had never said those words. Bless her...she is 95!:bigsmile:0 -
I try to not even talk about it because I'm so sick of my eating habits being talked about like they have a say in it. Just like when you're pregnant, everyone wants to tell you, you can't name the baby that, don't eat that, eat more, don't lift your arms above your head or you'll strangle the baby...
So I'm not saying S***!
My husband did tell me to change my weight goal because he thought it was too low (110 at 5'4") and I agreed and changed it. But other than that, I tell people to go worry about something else!
Last night we were doing Yoga and MIL came in and turned on a bunch of loud stuff so we couldn't hear the TV and kept doing stuff blocking our view so we decided to give up. She said "Wow you guys sure give up easy." I told her to shut up and go eat some butter lol0 -
I hear the same stuff from my family, and they are all fat. I'm 5ft 3, started in Jan at 179 and I've lost 33lbs, I feel awesome. I also want to get down to a healthy 125 so i have another 23lbs to go. I just brush it off as if they just don't want me to be thinner than them, which is odd, because even as fat as I was, I was still thinner than them all!
Just ignore them.0 -
With family members, I won't discuss weight issues. The last time I did, I had to listen to my sister tell me how fat I have been all my life (I wasn't overweight until I hit highschool) and how the BMI scale is not accurate for her because of various reasons, including she is big bone, that she has a different metabolism, that she can carry the weight at her height, and that she can't lose weight at her age. She's only two years older than me. Yet, the BMI scale is accurate for me. Funny that.
Then, she goes on about how I am losing it too fast. Really, 40 pounds in 7 months is too fast? Or how I shouldn't be lifting heavy and how I should go about lifting. Like she is doing that! She hasn't seen me in a year and feels that she is the authority on my weight loss efforts.
So now, I am going to just tell them to that discussions about my weight loss is off limits. It just is a losing subject with my family. My coworkers are okay with my weight loss. My friends, well, they like to eat out a lot so I am having problems with them realizing that there are better things to do than eating out all the time. Like walking the dogs or just taking a hike.0 -
Kuddos to you!! You have done an amazing job! I agree this is a lifestyle change for me also:) And yes I've gotten all that crap too from supposed to be family and friends. All I can figure, is that they are just jealous because I know also I'm not too thin either. I know that i'm still a work in progress and I just ignore any comments like that. I don't think I"ve gotten even ONE compliment from family and friends other than my husband (and he had better be nice)!! Just don't let it bother you and know that you are doing what it takes to be healthy and fit:) Keep doing what you are doing! Here's to a healthier us:):)
Btw, you look incredible:)!!0 -
Oh I know this all to well. I feel like everyone around me is against me except for my trainer and my pals on here. Thank goodness I'm not living my life to make them happy! :happy:0
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haters gonna hate...they are just jealous and trying to justify their own unhealthy habits0
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