People 'looking down' on my 'diet'
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Years ago when I was a serious dancer, I had to really watch my diet and I got in the habit of either blaming it on a food allergy or on my doctor. "Oh, my doctor wanted to restrict this to see if my such and such would get better. I can't eat sugar, SORRY BUT THANKS!" *big smile* "Oh my gosh, I am so sorry but my doctor thinks I might have developed a dairy allergy so I can't eat that, SO DISAPPOINTED!" *sad face*0
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The only people I encounter issues with are also my coworkers... One claims she needs to eat healthier and the other claims shes on a no carb diet, but I watch them eat probably over 1000 calories at dinner with carbs carbs and a side of carbs. (We cook for clients too so I feel bad that these people are eating all this crap as well) I've started to take food with me to work so I wouldn't get trapped eating that mess.0
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People try to keep everything the status-quo (IMO). You are changing the status-quo so you must be brought back into the group-think. Know it is going to continue to happen in various ways, passive-aggressive ways and just not nice ways. You are better than all of that. Remember how much better you are feeling and go with that. My daughter keeps reminding me "you can't eat that." I correct her with, "I can eat anything I want, I chose not to eat that at this time." {{{HUGS}}}0
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I hate when people tell me to "live a little" when I say I don't want to eat unhealthy foods. In most cases I don't like the food I'm being offered, why would I eat it? And when did living=eating? I'm very small so people always want me to "gain some weight". Uh, no thanks, I'm good. I want to be healthy and limber and bring down my high cholesterol. My theory is I'll eat when I want to, stop when I'm full and eat what I want.0
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Someone once said to me that criticism is often envy in disguise and I think that makes a lot of sense. The healthy path will always be full of obstacles but since when was doing the right thing easy? I'm sorry you have to deal with that at work - but maybe try to laugh it off and instead of letting it get to you use it as an opportunity to educate your co-workers and inspire your whole office to become healthier through your actions? People can call it a diet if they want - but once they see the long term benefits of your lifestyle change - their envy will wane to respect and they will become more supportive. I promise. It just takes time.
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My friends think I'm vegan because I want to lose weight. They tell me I'm extreme. I tell them to STFU.0
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Yes! And people trying to shove dessert down my throat.
"one time won't kill you"
No but it will hurt me if I give in every time someone says that!
Just let me continue with my lifestyle change and you can eat what you wanna eat, ya know?
And don't feel sorry for me0 -
With other people who talk about exercise/diet my favorite word is "yeah"
you on a diet? yeah
you should run 10miles a day and just drink a ton of water. yeah
my cousin lost 50lbs in a month doing diet x. Yeah
You shouldn't eat carbs. yeah
I have been getting this a LOT from the ladies at work that are on Weight Watchers.. I said 'I've lost 10 lbs' and she says, you eat a lot of sugar! You should do this... O.O ? She has no idea what I eat! My neighbor does it too.. Its like.. I've already lost weight.. I don't need you to tell me what diet will work! I'm doing just fine.
"you eat a lot of sugar!", "yeah"
This would get a "Hell yeah" from me...
Oh this is great. I have people 2-3 times my size (sitting on a chair) telling me how I should workout and how to eat.
I think well why don't you join me and just show me that works.
I'm doing what I can handle and my own way. Everyone is different!0 -
Nope.. so far so good... They have been pretty supportive thus far. My bosses have been wonderful about it.
They see me with all fresh foods, never canned, no processed - no frozen meals, just real foods. They often laugh and joke about 'how the hell do you have the time?".. its like exercise: you make the time to happen... thats what it really boils down to really.
The only person that I have had to remove from my life who IS like that is my mother. I dont care for her poor attitude, negativity or ignorance. If she cant respect the fact that I have doctors helping me along the journey and I CHOOSE to follow those instructions willingly, well, I dont need her... plain and simple...0 -
Ummm. You are making them feel terrible and uncomfortable and they are taking it out on you. You are making healthy choices and they are not. Stick to your guns. Do what you need to do to be healthy and ignore everybody else.
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People ask me which "diet" I'm doing all the time. It's irritating, but the truth is I've dropped 42 lbs, so I really just don't care what they think.
Ignore them and keep doing what you're doing.
Me, too. And if it seems to be a genuine interest, I write the web site URL down and give it to them.
Most of them walk away disappointed when they finally realize that I'm merely watching what I eat more carefully and exercising more.
"Oh, I thought with all the weight you were losing you were taking a pill or something."
"Nope, just eating a teensy bit less than I used to and keeping track of it carefully, and I'm losing weight without being hungry or tired or any side effects whatsoever."
"oh" (walks away dejectedly).
I don't know why people think you have to either pay large amounts of money or do some massively self-sacrificial penance to lose weight, like being overweight is some sort of sin and all you have to do is find the right religion to absolve you of the fat. Being overweight means we have too many calories attached to our *kitten*, and with a little patience and a little awareness of our food we can get rid of those calories, gradually and with very little sacrifice.0 -
Ummm. You are making them feel terrible and uncomfortable and they are taking it out on you. You are making healthy choices and they are not. Stick to your guns. Do what you need to do to be healthy and ignore everybody else.
I totally agree ^^^^
A girl I work with is currently on the HGC diet. DUMBEST thing EVER!!!! Eating 500 cal/day and putting some stupid drops on your tongue is not going to get you to lose weight! I told her that when it doesn't work to come talk to me and I'll help her lose weight the right way. I swear people think that when you start running you should be able to run 6 miles like it's nothing. I run 5-6 times a week and running 6 miles is hard! You have to work up to strenuous physical activity and you have to make dietary changes small otherwise you'll gain everything back!!
Long story short, don't feel down on yourself. You're doing great! I love hearing that people are so uncomfortable with others feeling great and beginngin to look great too--that means that they just might try it too! Keep your head up!! You'll be an inspiration one of these days!!
I know people who did the HCG diet, one of them lost 40ish lbs in a month or two I believe and then immediately gained it back. There is no way I would ever try that stupid diet, and it has taken me years to get where I am now and I am ok with that!0 -
I don't understand the point. As long as you are trying to lose weight through controlling what you eat, you are in fact on a DIET.
Once you are maintaining you can call it your lifestyle.
People are curious or trying to be helpful, what's the big deal? When people ask just smile and say "Good old fashioned diet and exercise". Don't go into details and don't go around saying what you can or can't eat or why you may not be eating something that everyone else is. "OMG a CUPCAKE I can't eat that!" makes you sound like a douche, and people are going to be douchy back, especially if they are enjoying a cupcake.0 -
I think you should lose weight because it is your goal. Woman tend to want everyones approval and we want people to approve of our decisions. Good luck on your journey.0
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First of all congratulations on the positive changes!
And please don't take this in a wrong way, but are you sure you didn't read into what they say too much? a bit over reacting? So what if you are on a diet...you know you need a change and you are taking action. That's the most important part. Like Mr. Jobs said “everything else is secondary".0 -
lol ...My friends think I'm vegan because I want to lose weight. They tell me I'm extreme. I tell them to STFU.0 -
^ This...I agree...I don't understand the point. As long as you are trying to lose weight through controlling what you eat, you are in fact on a DIET.
Once you are maintaining you can call it your lifestyle.
People are curious or trying to be helpful, what's the big deal? When people ask just smile and say "Good old fashioned diet and exercise". Don't go into details and don't go around saying what you can or can't eat or why you may not be eating something that everyone else is. "OMG a CUPCAKE I can't eat that!" makes you sound like a douche, and people are going to be douchy back, especially if they are enjoying a cupcake.0 -
I was talking to man who was supposed to be relationship potential. We had started talking about weight/working out/etc. I told him I worked really hard this particular day so I was going to have a pizza and an ice cream cone. His response was "I don't know how I feel about that. Pizza and ice cream aren't really diet foods."
Excuse me, I work my *kitten* off. I keep meticulous records of what and how I eat. I do physical activity 6-7 days a week. I have a very physical job. And that particular pizza and cone were WELL within my budgets for the day.0 -
I eat clean. 5-6 times a day. My friends say I act like I'm in training for the Olympics.
Whatever...I just ignore them.0 -
You can't control how others behave and what they say, you can only control how you react.
Don't let it bother you, no biggie.
You do you, they'll do them.
I just ignore if anyone questions what I'm eating at work....I will say, however, that it isn't usually them belittling or making me feel bad but them trying to open conversation to learn more. Keep that in the back of your mind when dealing with your coworkers.
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They are envious of your motivation, willpower and the positive attitude you have about wanting to change your life. Continue doing what you're doing. You are making a lifestyle change, perhaps you'll become their inspiration to change their own lives!0
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'Nothing will change, if you change nothing'. I think your co-workers are just jealous that you have the courage to change your life...perhaps they don't. Challenge them to change something as monumentous as you have chosen. 0
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Ummm. You are making them feel terrible and uncomfortable and they are taking it out on you. You are making healthy choices and they are not. Stick to your guns. Do what you need to do to be healthy and ignore everybody else.
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I think it's cool when people at work notice what I'm doing. At first they noticed what I was eating, and said things like, "Why do you eat so healthy, you're already small!"
But since I've changed my diet and gotten much more rigorous with my physical activity, they say things like, "Wow your body looks sick, what do you do!" Now two girls I work with have started making changes because they noticed I was.0 -
I was doing the hcg thing for about 2 month. I lost weight alright and almost lost my kidney function. The water washed out the salt in my kidney's. Now I have to build that back up. It won't be easy.! If it hadn't been for my niece(the paramedic) I would have kept it up and no telling how bad I would have been. Us 69 yr olds have to be very careful of the organs we have left. Thanks all for tolerating my ramblings.0
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Yeah, they're called ignorant people where it comes to health. Don't make their issues, YOUR issues. You seem to understand that it's a lifelong commitment to health. Stick with it!0
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It can be really frustrating when people look upon it as a diet but I guess that's because for them, it would be.
Try and focus on what you view it as which is a healthy lifestyle. I know it's easier than done but unfortunately we can't change other people, we can only change ourselves. x0 -
Haters gonna Hate0
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Hmm I had no idea how over sensitive dieters were....I'll remember to not call everyone who knows proper English terms jealous of me.....that's just being "ignorant and unrealistic"... If they diss you, its probably because you're so oversensitive and it seems very douche like...I seriously doubt people who know English are all jealous of you, but continue thinking so...and you'll end up that arrogant thin person that noone likes because of arrogance. You can always play the old they're jealous card, but that won't make it true no matter how much you claim it...Check out your dictionaries one day....if you own one...0
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I don't call what I'm doing a diet, that isn't what this is. It is a LIFESTYLE CHANGE. But people at work don't get that.. They look at me like, 'oh, you're on a diet.. =/ ' and make me feel terrible! They make me feel uncomfortable about losing weight...
Anyone have those people around?
Yeah but I chose to ignore them. Now the want to know my "secret"! *facepalm*.
It's called being healthy and making time to do an exercise I enjoy!!0
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