men are evil!!
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u casper lol......i forget some people here know the situation......:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: and u were so very right about ditching him 3 months ago.....but in that time frame i cuilt up a debt of 2000 dollars :frown: buttttttttttt ive gotten it down to 200 and by friday ill be all set andddddddd have an extra 600 set aside :bigsmile: only 5 more months of dealing with this situation :bigsmile:
Any family around you could move in with and still save your money up?
Get away NOW.
And I meant - your kids are watching you be mistreated by this guy and are learning that it's okay to do this. It's not. So if not for you, then do it for your babies.0 -
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u casper lol......i forget some people here know the situation......:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: and u were so very right about ditching him 3 months ago.....but in that time frame i cuilt up a debt of 2000 dollars :frown: buttttttttttt ive gotten it down to 200 and by friday ill be all set andddddddd have an extra 600 set aside :bigsmile: only 5 more months of dealing with this situation :bigsmile:
Any family around you could move in with and still save your money up?
Get away NOW.
And I meant - your kids are watching you be mistreated by this guy and are learning that it's okay to do this. It's not. So if not for you, then do it for your babies.0 -
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u casper lol......i forget some people here know the situation......:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: and u were so very right about ditching him 3 months ago.....but in that time frame i cuilt up a debt of 2000 dollars :frown: buttttttttttt ive gotten it down to 200 and by friday ill be all set andddddddd have an extra 600 set aside :bigsmile: only 5 more months of dealing with this situation :bigsmile:
Any family around you could move in with and still save your money up?
Nah, that wouldn't be a better environment, just a different bad environment.
Do what you have to do to make it through. Keep saving. (Make sure that money is not within his reach.)0 -
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u casper lol......i forget some people here know the situation......:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: and u were so very right about ditching him 3 months ago.....but in that time frame i cuilt up a debt of 2000 dollars :frown: buttttttttttt ive gotten it down to 200 and by friday ill be all set andddddddd have an extra 600 set aside :bigsmile: only 5 more months of dealing with this situation :bigsmile:
Any family around you could move in with and still save your money up?
Nah, that wouldn't be a better environment, just a different bad environment.
Do what you have to do to make it through. Keep saving. (Make sure that money is not within his reach.)0 -
then good luck to you, and keep yourself safe.
Don't let anyone derail your plans with promises of help and love, especially those that don't have it to offer.
good luck toyou and your kids0 -
omg haisan girl, that is why i left here for a while. i broke up with my man of 5 years. we are trying to work things out now, but things were just too stressful, how do people not work things out after that long. love should be resonating!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:explode:0
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You know, my hubby was very controlling and selfish when we first got married. After about a year I was fed up and let him know that I was going to divorce him if he was not willing to act like he had a wife and another person to share his life and decisions with. I went back home for a weekend to my family and would not talk to him at all. My dad talked to him to let him know how serious I was about leaving him. When I came back from my "trip" he was completely different and changed for the better. It is a few years later and it is still the best it has ever been and just keeps getting better.
You need to make sure that your guy(s)knows what you are feeling and that you are serious and mean business. My hubby is now the best hubby in the world!!
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Just make sure you stay away from the married ex...dangerous territory there, and not somewhere you want to go. As for the guy you're with- if you want out, I wouldn't wait until there's "hopefully... someday... eventually" a good time, ya know?0
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I just came across this thread this morning...and yes there are some men out there that are just not worth it....but take it from me, I spent 7 years with someone who didn't treat me right and I knew I should have left 2 years into it. Take some responsibility......you have obviously known for a while that he wasn't good for you... and whether or not you need to save money you should leave now...not later...now! If he is being verbally abusive to you, I could just imagine how he treats his kids.
Go to a friends place, your parents, wherever.....just get out. You need to start taking back you life. You can't be strong for your kids if someone is always there to knock you down. Plus your kids will see how their father treats you and they will start to think they can treat you like that.
And to the married point...stay away from that....whether or not you broke up with him...it doesn't matter anymore...he's married to someone else and you can't be involved past being a friend. You don't want to be a home wrecker. If the roles were reversed and he was your husband would you want some old flame coming back into his life...NO....0 -
I just came across this thread this morning...and yes there are some men out there that are just not worth it....but take it from me, I spent 7 years with someone who didn't treat me right and I knew I should have left 2 years into it. Take some responsibility......you have obviously known for a while that he wasn't good for you... and whether or not you need to save money you should leave now...not later...now! If he is being verbally abusive to you, I could just imagine how he treats his kids.
Go to a friends place, your parents, wherever.....just get out. You need to start taking back you life. You can't be strong for your kids if someone is always there to knock you down. Plus your kids will see how their father treats you and they will start to think they can treat you like that.
And to the married point...stay away from that....whether or not you broke up with him...it doesn't matter anymore...he's married to someone else and you can't be involved past being a friend. You don't want to be a home wrecker. If the roles were reversed and he was your husband would you want some old flame coming back into his life...NO....0
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