Single Ladies! What's Your Number?

sun33082
sun33082 Posts: 416 Member
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I'm 30 years old, have not had any long term relationships (5 months was the longest), but I have dated a lot. I recently started talking to a guy and he asked "my number" (aka number of guys I've had sex with). I've told my number to guys before and most don't see a problem with it. This guy has kind of freaked out on me and it got me to wondering what the number is of other single women my age. So ladies, if you've never been married or had any real long relationships, what's your number?
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  • mgnmsn
    mgnmsn Posts: 133 Member
    bump. this is interesting. i have been with the same guy since middle school and my number is 0. we just are waiting to get married. if we were not together, for whatever reason, i would also want a virgin husband. to me it comes down to how close your numbers are. if they are both two no prob, if they are both 20, no problem. but if a guy had 25 sexual encounters and a girl had one or two, then i would imagine if may be awkward. i am obviously no expert though. just what i have observed. good post.
  • sun33082
    sun33082 Posts: 416 Member
    Should be interesting if anyone answers lol
  • Sissy4EverX3
    Sissy4EverX3 Posts: 247
    Hell, I'll answer. I'll be 33 in 3 weeks. Lost my v-card when I was 19, and have been with a total of 9. One of them I was married to for 10 years.
  • iwantahealthierme13
    iwantahealthierme13 Posts: 337 Member
    1

    I'm 29, lost the v-card at 25. My longest and only real relationship was 2 and a half years.
    I was only my partner's 3rd, he had 2 serious long relationships before me and 2 kids.
  • sleepytexan
    sleepytexan Posts: 3,138 Member
    wow, that is something else. My husband and I never discussed that. We had both been married previously; I was 32 and he was 44, so I'm sure neither of us assumed the other was a virgin, but . . . . sheesh.
  • MandaPaigeSparkles88
    MandaPaigeSparkles88 Posts: 1,289 Member
    Ok I'll answer this one. I lost my virginity to my ex husband at 24 and after our divorce like 2 years later I have been with 5 guys and I know everyone of them. I am friends with everyone too.
  • amanda3588
    amanda3588 Posts: 422 Member
    Ill answer. I'm 24, lost my virginity at 17 and Ive been with 9 (maybe 10???). I'm currently in my longest relationship going on a year and a half.
  • kmuree
    kmuree Posts: 283 Member
    I'm 22 and I've had two (willingly). One is my high school sweetheart of six years who I lost it to at 18 and my flings were during our longer break-ups.

    :love: Can't get over the best of the best. :blushing:
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  • torylinnangel
    torylinnangel Posts: 253
    I am 18, still have the big V. I have dated plenty, but I have never been with a guy that I wanted to go that far with yet.
  • misskerouac
    misskerouac Posts: 2,242 Member
    Before my husband I had no long term boyfriends or anyone I'd actually even give that title to, just guys I dated and my number (not including he hubster) was 4 I think, maybe 5 (I think I'm forgetting someone but clearly they weren't memorable lol)

    The husbands number was something like 18-20
  • litatura
    litatura Posts: 569 Member
    Let's just say that I'm past the fingers but not all of my toes. .
  • inverseofmissy
    inverseofmissy Posts: 114 Member
    Just don't tell your number if you aren't comfortable with it. It doesn't really matter what it is- like pp said.
  • twinmom430
    twinmom430 Posts: 457 Member
    If he's freaked out by it, they it's not meant to be. B/c unfortunatly something like that will bother him forever, he may not be able to get past it...i know i couldn't when I found out "numbers" of some guys I dated before my husband. With that said I'm married, got married when I was 24....my number is 1.
  • Danielle_2013
    Danielle_2013 Posts: 806 Member
    You've recently started dating him? I'm kinda wondering why he is so interested and why he thinks you'd tell him the truth! Do gentlemen ever really ask this? It isn't any of his business, but I think it indicates he's probably going to make some sort of judgement call about you (or your morals or sexual prowess or whatever) when he finds out the number.
    None of the men I've ever dated or my finance has actually ever asked, but as the other poster said, I'm also working on the toes!
  • Scoshi_Nichole
    Scoshi_Nichole Posts: 1
    I'm 21 and my number is 2. I gave my virginity to my high school sweetheart and then there was the guy I dated for 9 months my freshman year of college. I don't think your number is something that should bring conflict or tension, it's a part of what led you to who you are now. If the person really cares about who you are now, he needs to get over what happened before him.
  • jessicaoliver79
    jessicaoliver79 Posts: 28 Member
    I am not single, but I am 33. I lost my V at age 16.. between the ages of 16 and 24 I had been with 3 guys.. Then at age 24 I got with who is now my hubby, been married for going on 8 yrs.. so my grand total is 4! :)
  • pudadough
    pudadough Posts: 1,271 Member
    0. I have yet to. I'm almost 27.

    And I think it's petty that it would freak a guy out. If you're both healthy and he really wants you for you it should be a non-issue. Just my opinion. I never even think to ask the guys I'm dating. Because it wouldn't and shouldn't matter to me now.
  • victoria4321
    victoria4321 Posts: 1,719 Member
    I'm on 4 as of now, I'm 26 and lost it at 23. I was going to wait until marriage but it turns out I was just waiting for the end of college

    Oh yeah I don't tell guys either because they'll always think you're lying. A guy asked me before and I told him to guess and he was like "I'd say maybe 18-25??" I was like :noway:
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    Very few guys I know really *want* to know.

    Also, my number makes me sound like a bit of a slut, but really I just had a wild child spree when I was 20 and racked them up pretty quickly in a very short period of time.

    Thankfully safe sex or I would most likely regret it now, but it's just a part of my past. Other than that spree, I was with only one for the past 7+ years and only one here and there other than that.

    So about two dozen total. I'm 28 now and lost my virginity at 17.
  • sun33082
    sun33082 Posts: 416 Member
    It's all good. I'm now not talking to this guy. He definitely has some trust/jealousy issues. Him freaking out over my number was just one of the many red flags.
  • susannamarie
    susannamarie Posts: 2,148 Member
    Huh, 1. My ex.
  • rybo
    rybo Posts: 5,424 Member
    From a guy point of view, I don't want to know numbers, I don't ask, and hopefully they don't bring it up. I think it's odd for a guy to ask, then freak out when he hears the number.
  • _hi_hat3r_
    _hi_hat3r_ Posts: 423 Member
    I wouldn't care what your number was before me as long as that number stays 1 while she's with me.
  • jennieh1980
    jennieh1980 Posts: 21 Member
    50 ish??? Don't know...stopped counting a long time ago. I don't think it really matters. What matters is how kind, honest and loyal you are. Any man who would freak over my "number" (expecially considering most men have larger numbers, or WANT to) would not be a guy I would be attracted to.

    I'm at 51, I dont think it matters too. Variety is the spice of life :) I've been married and now with a new partner for 18 months now
  • jennieh1980
    jennieh1980 Posts: 21 Member
    I wouldn't care what your number was before me as long as that number stays 1 while she's with me.

    Like it!!!!
  • cardiokitten
    cardiokitten Posts: 401 Member
    If a guy ever freaked out about my "number" I'd dump him on the spot. The number of people I've been with has no basis for who I am as a person. It could be 0 or 1000, and no matter what the number it is, it doesn't make someone a slut, a prude, or undateable. Frankly, the number is my business, not his.
  • monroe61
    monroe61 Posts: 620 Member
    I'm 29 and my number is 1 but I'm not single either, been married for almost 7 years.

    I've always been curious to what my husband's "number" was because he was a bit of a man-*kitten* when we were younger (we didn't date until after we both graduated high school) But I don't "really" want to know either! LOL
  • 1985Andy
    1985Andy Posts: 161 Member
    You shouldn't be too harsh on the guy. He could be asking as a sign of insecurity, as in he maybe inexperienced himself and wants to know to settle his worries that he'll flop (pun unintended) in the bedroom when compared to your previous guys.
    Or he could just be a perv! :D

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