This is a SERIOUS topic!! Respond ASAP...

I don't delete people who don't log in. It doesn't affect me if I don't really know them, and if I have gotten to know them, I'd want to be there if they ever came back.

This.

If I delete you it's because you got on my nerves. I've only deleted one person so far. I love my friends I have right now and I wouldn't delete them if they didn't log in.

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Yeah, I personally never really understood the whole deleting inactive friends thing either. If there was a maximum amount of friends you could add, I could see it.

There is. It's 1000. :blushing: I've hit it a few times.

And that's where you just can't win... If you don't add people, you're a snob. If you delete people, you're a snob. If you have loads of friends, you're an attention *kitten*.

Yeah, I personally never really understood the whole deleting inactive friends thing either. If there was a maximum amount of friends you could add, I could see it.

There is. It's 1000. :blushing: I've hit it a few times.

And that's where you just can't win... If you don't add people, you're a snob. If you delete people, you're a snob. If you have loads of friends, you're an attention *kitten*.

Oh, didn't know there was a cap. Either way, 1000 is plenty - I won't have to worry about that.

Lol this is such a serious topic.

MFP is a very valuable too. I am learning the hard way that when I don't log, I gain because I get sloppy mostly because of a lack of a sense of accountability. Before I started on MFP, I was using another program, and had lost a little weight before that. At one point, which was recently, I had been at a weight of a total of 43 lbs. lost over the course of a year. This was due to logging, change in lifestyle including exercise. However, about two weeks ago, I was on vacation from work, it was my birthday, and I ate out a lot... something I had stopped doing habitually. Naturally, I wasn't compliant with logging on MFP, nor did I weigh myself at all. I gained at least 8 pounds very rapidly. We all know, getting rid of those pounds is a much slower process than putting them on.

Really I am afraid I'll take my old "all or nothing" approach and sabotage my fitness and my healthy lifestyle. One problem is that I do not have very many friends that are on board with this. I don't have great positive reinforcement (outside training at the gym and people I talk to there). But not with people in my family or friends. Many people may have had a similar experience- people would just go out for dessert with you before they would discourage you... mainly because it's what they feel like doing. It's natural, I'm not being mean. It happens a lot. They may not have the same struggles with food so they don't know what you are dealing with. Does anyone have this issue? Anyway, I realize the importance of what the original poster is saying- this is an important concept- this food logging and sense of accountability and support. It's hard to be around others who don't at least understand your goals.

If anyone wants to friend me here, I need support as well. I haven't done anything on the boards yet, I've been logging for a bit, but like I said- came from another program. I look forward to reading posts here.

You can check out any time at night, but you can never leave.

Love it! So true too...

i dont know but i would log cleaning my kitchen, bathroom, scrubbing floors and yard work as exercise, i am ocd. as far as under eating. what qualifies? i am sugar intolerant and can only have 15g carbohydrates a day and 1200 calories. so each meal is not alot and my work is at my house and i work by appointment, so if an appointment runs into the next i cant just stop and go eat i have to wait. bummer cause i will be starving.

I will say there were periods of time where I wasn't active, and part of that was when I had a very difficult pregnancy issue, and had no access to internet...that being said, yes, I do check on friends and send them a note to encourage them, I also have friends that have gone on vacation. I don't think I've deleted anyone, as I don't think you can have too many friends...but I've found after I've sent folks a message, it brought them back, and they were glad I sent out something - they NEEDED a friend at that time to guide them back. I also have one friend right now going through a VERY difficult time, and is now getting a divorce - they need encouragement and friendship - wouldn't you want the same? For a real friend to encourage you to stick to your goals, even if you slipped up? or fell off the wagon entirely?

I think it's kind of ridiculous to give your friends a time limit if they don't log on, you delete them. First of all, don't add 100 friends you don't talk to. Add enough that you can get to know them and keep track of them. And if they don't log on for a while, you can email them and ask how they're doing. If you have over 50 friends it's impossible to even do that so you end up just deleting them; you might as well have not added them in the first place.

I don't log on every day but it doesn't mean I'm not tracking or working out. I don't have time to always come on and spend 20 minutes putting in my meals when I could be working out or cooking healthy meals or just going out. If your friends are doing well enough they don't need to log in all the time, it'd be nice if their friends are backing them up and not going around deleting them for it.

Now that I have found MFP- oh no! This is how I stay accountable to myelf as well as my friends~ I know what would happen if I left for a day- I would be over double my calories for one day!

I feel the same way....when I fell off the MFP wagon it was a **** storm....I will never leave...even when I hit my goal weight

In my opinion, if you have to log on everyday to keep yourself in check then you aren't really learning how to be healthy. What happens if your power goes out for a week, are you going to get fat? If so then you have failed to really grasp the concept. Let her go and try it out. There is not one right or wrong way to do this healthy life thing.

^^^^THIS

Stuck with this forever and thankful that I even HAVE MFP. I could never desert my friend. :-)

And, don't feel bad. I do the same thing with deleting friends...if they aren't dedicated, they aren't on the same page as me.

I don't have a reason to not use MFP forever. Even if I lose access to the internet, the app on my phone makes MFP accessible at all times. I'm super thankful for that. The food log has really put portion sizes into perspective!

Good question.... I guess I haven't thought that far ahead... but if I gave up MFP wouldn't I end up where I was before?

ditto... 25 lbs off and keeping it off makes me a believer