Successful showoffs??Sick and tired of this.

If they're already at their goal, chances are they've been on this site forever and are already keeping up with a bajillion friends. And probably get another bajillion "WAT AM I DOIN WRONG IM NOT LOSIN WEIGHHHHTTTTT" mails a day. Unless "so many" people are actually responding personally and rudely, I really don't see an issue in some people choosing not to accept requests or reply to mails.

I feel bad that this has been your experience, but there are SO many people on this site that you are bound to find at least a few of the people you seek soon enough. I can tell you that one of the people on my FL is definitely one of the "success stories" on this site, is VERY popular, and routinely denies friend requestes because her FL is currently over 200 and she struggles to feel like she gives even a small number of those people any attention. Also, remember, you don't know how many people are requesting the same information as you. Again, I don't want to shut down your feelings/opinion because they belong to you and are valid, but just thought I could maybe share a little insight.

Best to you both.

I am sorry you feel that way.

Eh I decline a number of friends requests. I'm quite happy with my current group of friends and don't feel the need to accept every request. The ones that can't even read my profile are declined immeaditly (it says right there that i prefer a message when requesting) If it's a 'let's do this together' I get a bit wary. Most I accept though.

You also need to realize that for those who have been here a long time we realize that most people will be here a short time anyways. It's the nature of the beast.

If that makes me a big shot meh. It's the Internet.

I know what ur talking about, when i first got on this website, there was this woman that lost alot of weight and i was like wow what an inspiration, she was one of the first people that i added and i swear not even a couple days later she deleted me for no reason, i was kinda sad because i was like wow this can happen i can do this..and then i was like whatever if shes gonna be that way she wasnt a very good person.

So ... how much of their day should someone who's been successful at losing weight be compelled to spend answering messages they receive?

I know what ur talking about, when i first got on this website, there was this woman that lost alot of weight and i was like wow what an inspiration, she was one of the first people that i added and i swear not even a couple days later she deleted me for no reason, i was kinda sad because i was like wow this can happen i can do this..and then i was like whatever if shes gonna be that way she wasnt a very good person.

I'm sure it wasn't personal. Some of the highly successful people on here are trying to juggle huge friend lists. Sometimes cuts just have to be made and sometimes the new people or quiet people have to go.

If they're already at their goal, chances are they've been on this site forever and are already keeping up with a bajillion friends. And probably get another bajillion "WAT AM I DOIN WRONG IM NOT LOSIN WEIGHHHHTTTTT" mails a day. Unless "so many" people are actually responding personally and rudely, I really don't see an issue in some people choosing not to accept requests or reply to mails.

This.

Eh I decline a number of friends requests. I'm quite happy with my current group of friends and don't feel the need to accept every request. The ones that can't even read my profile are declined immeaditly (it says right there that i prefer a message when requesting) If it's a 'let's do this together' I get a bit wary. Most I accept though.

You also need to realize that for those who have been here a long time we realize that most people will be here a short time anyways. It's the nature of the beast.

If that makes me a big shot meh. It's the Internet.

And this.

I also now state I like a message with my friend requests. I send a message to people who I want to be friends with so why can't others? I like to have fun, active and informative people on my list, not just a huge number of friends.

Eh I decline a number of friends requests. I'm quite happy with my current group of friends and don't feel the need to accept every request. The ones that can't even read my profile are declined immeaditly (it says right there that i prefer a message when requesting) If it's a 'let's do this together' I get a bit wary. Most I accept though.

You also need to realize that for those who have been here a long time we realize that most people will be here a short time anyways. It's the nature of the beast.

If that makes me a big shot meh. It's the Internet.

I second this except for accepting most. I'm content with the pals that I have and don't need to be overwhelmed with more and Yes I post my success photos because I worked hard for it. good luck on finding a good group of great pals because it took me a lot of weeding out to get the ones I got!

I know what ur talking about, when i first got on this website, there was this woman that lost alot of weight and i was like wow what an inspiration, she was one of the first people that i added and i swear not even a couple days later she deleted me for no reason, i was kinda sad because i was like wow this can happen i can do this..and then i was like whatever if shes gonna be that way she wasnt a very good person.

I'm sure it wasn't personal. Some of the highly successful people on here are trying to juggle huge friend lists. Sometimes cuts just have to be made and sometimes the new people or quiet people have to go.

THIS!

I routinely cut people from my list if we don't interact. I want friends that interact with me. I don't want just everybody filling up my feed if we don't interact. That's the least I can expect from a MFP "Friend.

Haven't run across this issue myself.

Me neither. Your post surprises me and makes me think you've had a negative experience with someone in particular. Try to not take it personally. This is the internet after all.

I'm sure youll get over it...

Why are there so many people on here that have lost weight, and succeeded, who act like they are big shots? They feel like they are so much better than everyone else. They decline friend requests, they're so rude, and when you ask them questions for help they ignore you. I am so sick and tired of these show-offs. Congratulations for your success, but seriously stop acting like you can step all over everyone else. If i ever reach my goal, I will make sure to help out anyone that needs me, but I cant say the same for everyone else.:huh:

Ouch! I posted a success story in January sometime and got about 50 friend requests from it. I was very selective with who I accepted, and as a general rule dont accept blank friend requests (it also says so on my profile) - I actually only accepted maybe 12 from this time. The thing is, while I want everyone here to succeed, so many wont. In life (and on the internet) I try to surround myself with positive and motivated people and thats the nature of the friend requests I have. Ive deleted a few people after adding them a few days/weeks earlier because I see they arent actually trying (eating 'bad' food for days on end and then constantly changing their status update to how unfair it is that this doesnt work for them for example). I try and keep my friend list managable - I work, study and train - I rarely hve time to comment on my friends as it is, without accepting more and more on a daily basis.

The thing is - this can and does work. People here put too much into relying on others - relying on them for inspiration, motivation and to be honest - justification and gratification to be here. People need to remember that noone is responsible for your success/happiness/journey other than yourself. So what if someone doesnt accept you - do you really need a random stranger to acknowledge your existance on the internet? Find someone else. Stop being so soft and letting this bother you. Pick yourself up, dust off and keep going with your journey.

And if my success and the lack of me wanting to assist you in yours bothers you - like Lozze says - meh, this is the internet. Im not going to stop being shiney, or as you call it - a show off - because I have no more room on my friendlist! Im proud of my achievement and recording it somewhere makes me feel prouder.

If they're already at their goal, chances are they've been on this site forever and are already keeping up with a bajillion friends. And probably get another bajillion "WAT AM I DOIN WRONG IM NOT LOSIN WEIGHHHHTTTTT" mails a day. Unless "so many" people are actually responding personally and rudely, I really don't see an issue in some people choosing not to accept requests or reply to mails.

Agreed.