Successful showoffs??Sick and tired of this.

my experience on mfp has been great and "most " ppl on here have been awsome and really my motivation.

i hope your experience improves

What He said. I know I'm gonna get mine regardless, so i don't lose a wink of sleep dwelling on the childish ones on here. What is this freaking high school? OH SWEET FANCY MOSES!

Why are there so many people on here that have lost weight, and succeeded, who act like they are big shots? They feel like they are so much better than everyone else. They decline friend requests, they're so rude, and when you ask them questions for help they ignore you. I am so sick and tired of these show-offs. Congratulations for your success, but seriously stop acting like you can step all over everyone else. If i ever reach my goal, I will make sure to help out anyone that needs me, but I cant say the same for everyone else.:huh:

Ummm, how about because they are? Whether it was 5 lbs or 300 lbs, struggling with the mental and physical issues that come with excess weight is a huge challenge and if one reaches their goal; they've accomplished a huge feat in life by working hard and they DESERVE to flaunt it! Not only that, but for many here, it serves as encouragement, motivation, and help on our own journey.

As far as ignoring someone for help or declining request or being "rude", there could be a million reasons for it. MFP has many glitches; they've been fixing a ton of them all weekend. I can't tell you how many times I get a friend request or an e-mail that doesn't show up for days. Or, someone comments on my feed and I don't get notified of it right away and it's weeks later before I see it. At this very moment, I have a friend request that I've approved 4 times and yet I still have the notification bar pop up telling me that I have a friend request; it seems to be stuck in some kind of MFP friend limbo.

And some people just don't want to add any ole internet stranger to their friends list either; imagine wanting to get to know someone a little better before just letting them be your "friend." Now that's real uppity; the nerve! Good grief...please someone tell me that this topic doesn't really exist and that I'm delirious from too low a carb intake. BTW...should I be eating back my exercise calories? :laugh:

Seriously your arrogance is the number one reason that this topic was posted. Get off your high horse.

I find you to be the rude one. There is nothing arrogant about a person having their own way of conducting their own MFP account.

Seriously your arrogance is the number one reason that this topic was posted. Get off your high horse.

Actually, arrogance is an attitude of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner or in presumptuous claims or assumptions. Seems like you took care of that when you started assuming and being presumptuous in your claims of people being rude or snotty because they didn't friend you; like you're so worthy of every one falling down at your feet to be your MFP friend. I made no claims of being better than anyone else or being superior to anyone. I have no high horse; I still have a long way to go in my journey and know it. But, I appreciate and value and like the success stories and photos. Those people have been thru it and completed the goal successfully, they can tell me what they did and didn't do, how they accomplished what I want to accomplish. I don't find them self-righteous or rude - I find them helpful. Even if they don't approve my friend request.

I only defended those who have reached their goals and made suggestions as to why they may not be responding to you and only asserted my opinion that they have a right to show off; especially considering that MFP has a whole topic board dedicated to success. It seems only natural that would be the place for people to "show off." Maybe we should contact tech support and have them remove that board so not to have people getting all snooty with their success photos and stories.

Rude, yes, I may be, but only because I feel like people here who have worked hard, asserted themselves, done the work to better their lives and reach their goals should have every right to "show off" without fear of hurting someone's feelings. What? Someone uses this site, works their butt off (literally) and then has to keep it quiet because they might offend or appear rude or self-righteous to someone who hasn't reached their own goals yet?

Why are there so many people on here that have lost weight, and succeeded, who act like they are big shots? They feel like they are so much better than everyone else. They decline friend requests, they're so rude, and when you ask them questions for help they ignore you. I am so sick and tired of these show-offs. Congratulations for your success, but seriously stop acting like you can step all over everyone else. If i ever reach my goal, I will make sure to help out anyone that needs me, but I cant say the same for everyone else.:huh:

Ummm, how about because they are? Whether it was 5 lbs or 300 lbs, struggling with the mental and physical issues that come with excess weight is a huge challenge and if one reaches their goal; they've accomplished a huge feat in life by working hard and they DESERVE to flaunt it! Not only that, but for many here, it serves as encouragement, motivation, and help on our own journey.

As far as ignoring someone for help or declining request or being "rude", there could be a million reasons for it. MFP has many glitches; they've been fixing a ton of them all weekend. I can't tell you how many times I get a friend request or an e-mail that doesn't show up for days. Or, someone comments on my feed and I don't get notified of it right away and it's weeks later before I see it. At this very moment, I have a friend request that I've approved 4 times and yet I still have the notification bar pop up telling me that I have a friend request; it seems to be stuck in some kind of MFP friend limbo.

And some people just don't want to add any ole internet stranger to their friends list either; imagine wanting to get to know someone a little better before just letting them be your "friend." Now that's real uppity; the nerve! Good grief...please someone tell me that this topic doesn't really exist and that I'm delirious from too low a carb intake. BTW...should I be eating back my exercise calories? :laugh:

Seriously your arrogance is the number one reason that this topic was posted. Get off your high horse.

Maybe the problem is in perception, ahem.

This post wasn't arrogant at all, the poster was honest and helpful (explaining the glitches).

Re-read the last 2 sentences and rethink your answer.

Reread and rethought and have come to the same conclusions. This topic IS a little silly, people complaining that the "cool kids" won't help them and are mean. Consider that those people have come a LONG way on their own journey and they have absolutely no obligation to help you with yours. They don't have to be your help, your inspiration or your motivation.

So ... how much of their day should someone who's been successful at losing weight be compelled to spend answering messages they receive?

You make a good point. I have considered that like many people here are saying that they would be busy answering alot of questions. But thats not just what Im talking about. Im talking about their arrogance when they reply to questions. The type of arrogance that belittles others.

Some people do come off as arrogant here in terms of thinking they know everything about fitness/nutrition (even when they clearly don't). However, your op seemed like you were focusing on people not accepting friend requests or replying to messages, hence the comments thus far.

"Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” -Marianne Williamson

I answer everyone's questions when they ask me. Sometimes it would be nice to get a thank you reply back. Most people are nice enough to say thanks but a lot you never get a reply back.

In terms of the 'show offs' they've always been very helpful to me. Some even go out of their way to inbox me and answer a question that I had in a post just so I didn't miss their response.

So ... how much of their day should someone who's been successful at losing weight be compelled to spend answering messages they receive?

You make a good point. I have considered that like many people here are saying that they would be busy answering alot of questions. But thats not just what Im talking about. Im talking about their arrogance when they reply to questions. The type of arrogance that belittles others.

Ahhhhh....I get it. Yeah. Some people here are serious jerks. Don't let them distract you from all the good!

"Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” -Marianne Williamson

That's my boy!!

Why are there so many people on here that have lost weight, and succeeded, who act like they are big shots? They feel like they are so much better than everyone else. They decline friend requests, they're so rude, and when you ask them questions for help they ignore you. I am so sick and tired of these show-offs. Congratulations for your success, but seriously stop acting like you can step all over everyone else. If i ever reach my goal, I will make sure to help out anyone that needs me, but I cant say the same for everyone else.:huh:

Ummm, how about because they are? Whether it was 5 lbs or 300 lbs, struggling with the mental and physical issues that come with excess weight is a huge challenge and if one reaches their goal; they've accomplished a huge feat in life by working hard and they DESERVE to flaunt it! Not only that, but for many here, it serves as encouragement, motivation, and help on our own journey.

As far as ignoring someone for help or declining request or being "rude", there could be a million reasons for it. MFP has many glitches; they've been fixing a ton of them all weekend. I can't tell you how many times I get a friend request or an e-mail that doesn't show up for days. Or, someone comments on my feed and I don't get notified of it right away and it's weeks later before I see it. At this very moment, I have a friend request that I've approved 4 times and yet I still have the notification bar pop up telling me that I have a friend request; it seems to be stuck in some kind of MFP friend limbo.

And some people just don't want to add any ole internet stranger to their friends list either; imagine wanting to get to know someone a little better before just letting them be your "friend." Now that's real uppity; the nerve! Good grief...please someone tell me that this topic doesn't really exist and that I'm delirious from too low a carb intake. BTW...should I be eating back my exercise calories? :laugh:

Seriously your arrogance is the number one reason that this topic was posted. Get off your high horse.

I find you to be the rude one. There is nothing arrogant about a person having their own way of conducting their own MFP account.

Your last 2 sentences in your reply were uncalled for, and quite rude. I am stating my own opinion, you dont have to mock me. If you dont like it get out. Dont be rude to me on my own thread. No need for the rudeness. AS A MATTER OF FACT, ISN'T THAT WHY I POSTED THIS IN THE FIRST PLACE?!

Just calling you out for being an *kitten* when it wasn't warranted.

I have seen SO MUCH of this. You see people asking for help, and yes, it's usually the same question over and over...but you almost ALWAYS see the arrogant p.o.s.'s going into those forums and tearing down the OP. It's like...who the hell do you think you are? You lost some weight. Big. Freaking. Deal. It's not like you won a gold medal in the Olympics. But then they go and flaunt it to everyone else.

Totally get where you're coming from. People suck.

I don't think is has any thing to do with whether they've lost weight - I think some of the reasons for those comments from posters comes from your first sentence, "yes, it's usually the same question over and over..." Which is exactly why in my first post I made the joke about eating back my exercise calories. It's not meant to be self-righteous or rude, for those of us that are on here daily, we see that same question (and many others) asked, sometimes literally, 10 times a day. It's just become the common joke for the ones who have been around for a while. I don't think there's any harm meant in it or that it's arrogance because they've lost 50 lbs or whatever, it's simply a running MFP joke because it happens day after day after day when all people have to do is search the board for an answer to their question before posting. Yes, sometimes that doesn't always yield the answer so by all means, post away with the question but other times, the silliness of the redundant posts just becomes a joke. Nothing more to be read into it.

See, I disagree. I think that, because you have 'been here' for so long, you think you have seniority/know whats best/etc etc. THAT'S being self-righteous, and mocking people because they ask serious questions, even if you have seen it a thousand times before, is RUDE and completely uncalled for. They have questions and are looking for serious answers. That's what this whole site is for!

If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all.

Why are there so many people on here that have lost weight, and succeeded, who act like they are big shots? They feel like they are so much better than everyone else. They decline friend requests, they're so rude, and when you ask them questions for help they ignore you. I am so sick and tired of these show-offs. Congratulations for your success, but seriously stop acting like you can step all over everyone else. If i ever reach my goal, I will make sure to help out anyone that needs me, but I cant say the same for everyone else.:huh:

Where are these people? Everyone who has had MAJOR success that I've sent a friend request to has not only accepted but been a great asset to my MFP experience.

Actually, I understand where the OP comes from in some regards. Not the friend request/question thing...but you get some sort of snobby/elitist/cocky people here. Yes, you're proud and we're amazed at your accomplishments but YOU ARE NOT THE EXPERT ON ALL THINGS WEIGHT LOSS. Not everyone is like that though...most of the community here are upright weight losing citizens.