Successful showoffs??Sick and tired of this.

I don't think it is about successful, I think it is more about "popularity" I get a few requests a day, some I accept some I don't.
I already have a hard time interacting with the people I have on my list now. But I always answer people's questions if they personally ask me. I don't reply on the forums to the same question over and over though.

Good grief...please someone tell me that this topic doesn't really exist and that I'm delirious from too low a carb intake. BTW...should I be eating back my exercise calories? :laugh:
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BAHAHAHAHAHA awesome!

Congratulations for your success, but seriously stop acting like you can step all over everyone else.

^ Honestly...I don't see so much of this. I wouldn't get that bent out of shape over it - it's not worth it.
Do your thing...live well. :flowerforyou:

Jerks come in all forms. Just because someone used to be overweight and has overcome it doesn't automatically make them a good person. It's like a person who has been poor and becomes rich. Some people are humbled and feel blessed and pay their success forward. Others forget where they came from and become selfish and narcissistic. The same goes with weight loss.

See, I disagree. I think that, because you have 'been here' for so long, you think you have seniority/know whats best/etc etc. THAT'S being self-righteous, and mocking people because they ask serious questions, even if you have seen it a thousand times before, is RUDE and completely uncalled for. They have questions and are looking for serious answers. That's what this whole site is for!

If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all.

I don't think my 50 some odd posts qualifies as "senority" nor do I know what's best and never once have I said, "you must do ..." like I'm an expert. People come here for serious questions/answers, yes. And indeed, that's what this site is for which is why this site also has a handy search feature where common sense should dictate that maybe you search for your answer first.

If someone at your job came up to you and asked you numerous times a day where the copy paper is; first you'd start answering nicely. Then after a week or so you'd get annoyed and start answering with the polite words but with an undertone of frustration. After another week you'd start just getting mad and I guarantee you'd go home and start complaining to your spouse, friend, or whomever about the moron at work who can't do something as simple as remember where the paper is when you've told her a thousand times and how hard is it to use common sense and think hmmm, maybe the supply room would be a good place to start. Then, you'd finally just give in and to keep your sanity start making a joke out of it.

Come on, we all have people like this in our real or virtual lives and we all do the same thing...let's not pretend we don't. It's not self-righteous or claiming seniority. It's no different here with the 2 or 3 ridiculously redundant questions; the top one being, "should I eat back my exercise calories?"

Ok they whole friend request thing never actually happened to me. But someone posted a thread before about a girl saying I am currently not accepting any more friends. And maybe I saw that as being rude. But now that I think about it, maybe the other person wants to filter their list. Its their decision. I regret that part. HOWEVER, I want to make this clear. I am upset because of how some people thing they're "Mr. know it all" and they are rude when they answer some peoples questions. This didnt happen to me, like I said, but today I witnessed one of mfp's being utterly rude to someone who was just trying to suggest some information to them, and then they deleted them because of their opinion. The girl said to the successful girl, you shouldnt be losing anymore weight. the successful person said I am not doing it on purpose, the girl replied with "well it seems you are before youre eating less, and the successful one replies with you will be deleted. HMMM a little rude i think. Thats what triggered me to post this.

I know what you are saying. I DO see a lot of the same questions here time and time again. Sometimes I will reply, sometimes I just ignore the thread, sometimes I give good info but in a smart @ss way lol. BUT I do see the type of posts you are talking about, where people are just jerk-y about it because the question is dumb, to them. Well @ one point there was a lot I didn't know, and a lot I did wrong so I try NOT to be judgmental, or a jerk. On that note, because I am not my outlandish I think a lot of my posts just go unnoticed LOL

Why are there so many people on here that have lost weight, and succeeded, who act like they are big shots? They feel like they are so much better than everyone else. They decline friend requests, they're so rude, and when you ask them questions for help they ignore you. I am so sick and tired of these show-offs. Congratulations for your success, but seriously stop acting like you can step all over everyone else. If i ever reach my goal, I will make sure to help out anyone that needs me, but I cant say the same for everyone else.:huh:

Ummm, how about because they are? Whether it was 5 lbs or 300 lbs, struggling with the mental and physical issues that come with excess weight is a huge challenge and if one reaches their goal; they've accomplished a huge feat in life by working hard and they DESERVE to flaunt it! Not only that, but for many here, it serves as encouragement, motivation, and help on our own journey.

As far as ignoring someone for help or declining request or being "rude", there could be a million reasons for it. MFP has many glitches; they've been fixing a ton of them all weekend. I can't tell you how many times I get a friend request or an e-mail that doesn't show up for days. Or, someone comments on my feed and I don't get notified of it right away and it's weeks later before I see it. At this very moment, I have a friend request that I've approved 4 times and yet I still have the notification bar pop up telling me that I have a friend request; it seems to be stuck in some kind of MFP friend limbo.

And some people just don't want to add any ole internet stranger to their friends list either; imagine wanting to get to know someone a little better before just letting them be your "friend." Now that's real uppity; the nerve! Good grief...please someone tell me that this topic doesn't really exist and that I'm delirious from too low a carb intake. BTW...should I be eating back my exercise calories? :laugh:

Seriously your arrogance is the number one reason that this topic was posted. Get off your high horse.

I find you to be the rude one. There is nothing arrogant about a person having their own way of conducting their own MFP account.

Your last 2 sentences in your reply were uncalled for, and quite rude. I am stating my own opinion, you dont have to mock me. If you dont like it get out. Dont be rude to me on my own thread. No need for the rudeness. AS A MATTER OF FACT, ISN'T THAT WHY I POSTED THIS IN THE FIRST PLACE?!

Wow. I have no idea why people would possibly be rude to you. You're a real peach.

Ok they whole friend request thing never actually happened to me. But someone posted a thread before about a girl saying I am currently not accepting any more friends. And maybe I saw that as being rude. But now that I think about it, maybe the other person wants to filter their list. Its their decision. I regret that part. HOWEVER, I want to make this clear. I am upset because of how some people thing they're "Mr. know it all" and they are rude when they answer some peoples questions. This didnt happen to me, like I said, but today I witnessed one of mfp's being utterly rude to someone who was just trying to suggest some information to them, and then they deleted them because of their opinion. The girl said to the successful girl, you shouldnt be losing anymore weight. the successful person said I am not doing it on purpose, the girl replied with "well it seems you are before youre eating less, and the successful one replies with you will be deleted. HMMM a little rude i think. Thats what triggered me to post this.

I don't know you whatsoever but am super impressed that you were able to consider your motivations in posting originally AND be brave enough to publicly note your regret. You just earned an FR from me, I won't be hurt if you decline it though

I think you have to remember that this is a community and everyone is here for their own reasons. Some people love the social side and the forum and love to share information or joke and play around (sometimes at other people's expense).
Others are here just for themselves and don't feel that they are obliged to share information or respond to unsolicited advice.
Don't take anything that happens on an internet forum to heart - you don't know the motivation behinds someone's actions and it's a waste of energy getting upset, especially when it is on someone else's behalf!

To give you a perspective from a person who has been here for almost 18 months (perhaps I'm a successful showoff, feel free to judge for yourself):
- I often decline friend requests, I already have almost a hundred people on my list (not that I've counted lately) and I struggle to work out who is who and adding more and more and more just makes it less and less meaningful.
- I don't often congratulate every one of my friends on completing their diary or going for a run. Often I'm on my phone app so I can't see their diaries, and I don't like to congratulate what I can't see.
- I have deleted people before and they have deleted me. I'm not in primary school anymore and I'm not going to run and cry that "she won't be my best friend anymore". This is the internet, not real life, and I'm not going to lose sleep over it. If someone sees value in having me on their friends list that's great, if for reasons of their own they don't want me on there - no problem!
- I frequently respond to questions I have seen OVER and OVER and OVER and OVER again. Mostly I'm patient and polite and kind because I know that everyone is new sometimes, and often people don't know there is a search function. Every now and again I'm a bit snappy in a response, though not usually to newbies. That's what I'm like in real life too, if you don't like it, feel free to ignore me!