If you could "do-over" any year.....

2008... my mother died that summer. It does no good to relive all the things I would have done differently but I've been doing that since 2008. I would have taken her to different doctors, acted faster, taken it more seriously. Held her hand as she was dying instead of standing there crying like a damn fool.

I would probably say either my freshman or sophomore year of college... I spent the years trying to be good friends with these people who, looking back on, I just did not belong with. I wanted to belong with them, but inside I truly didn't. I just liked the image of them and I held myself back and encouraged my depression trying to be something I'm not. Although, I can't say it didn't turn out alright in the end... It did lead me on the path where I would meet my love, so I really can't say I'd honestly go back and change it. I just wish I had learned what I learned this year earlier in life. But it's all good, because I know what I know now, and for that I am grateful.

I wouldn't do over anything, because if I did, it wouldn't lead me to where I'm at now, and I wouldn't have my beautiful lady in my life There's no point in wondering what you'd do differently, since you can't go back in time and change it.

^^ This. I've been through hard times and done stupid things. However, those events made me who I am today and put me where I am. I'm not perfect, but I'm able to be happy no matter what. I wouldn't change that for anything in the world.

1999

would not do some of the stupid crap I did and once I hit 190s (from 245) I wouldn't have let myself start eating so much crap at every meal (ballooning up to 312 last year)

but that was also the year I met my hubby, so I wouldn't change that part :blushing:

Oh lord that's tough.

2003, maybe. When I was 13. I'd do my research then and instead of just letting my mom think it was a teenage phase of hormones I'd get her to realize I have mental disorders that need looking after. I'd also call the police on my father while he still was well enough to have partial custody of me and therefore could molest and abuse me instead of just writing it off as him being an *kitten*. I would've cleaned up my act and done better in school so that maybe I could've gone to college on scholarship and been well enough by then to lead a more normal life.

It's my biggest regret, really. I wish I'd known then what I do now and did something about it instead of ending up with years of fights, missing and failing school, and killing my 4.2 GPA by graduation and making it a 2.8. But, as they say you gotta make due with what you've been handed and well that's all you can do, really.

I would go back to 1995 and tell myself that it isn't IBS or anything else they misdiagnosed me as and let myself know that I am severely gluten intolerant. It would have been nice to feel well for all those years I missed plus undo the damage done to my colon.

1996. I would go back and tell myself all the s&*t I'd have to deal with and stop myself from getting married.

Ah yes! I would go back and change this year, actually the year before, 1995. I love my children DEARLY but have had some very difficult times with their mother, my wife. That was the year she gave me a "whoops, I'm pregnant" present for my 20th B-day and my life was forever changed, in some very good ways and some not so good. And I know it takes two to make a baby and get married etc. so please don't judge but the topic of the question was "If YOU could have a do over..." ...

The summer of 2005... Was very, very careless and dumb and wound up pregnant at 20 years old. Had to leave college, lost friends, and grew up WAY too soon. Now married to the dad and have two beautiful children. My son turns TWO tomorrow and my daughter that changed my life will be SIX on Thursday. Love them all dearly but what I wouldn't give to go back in time and tell my stupid self "Don't think it can't happen to you! Stop partying and get your @$$ back to class. Finish school and keep on until you have that Master's. I miraculously finished college on time but that dream of getting a Master's has been SO challenging with kids. Oh yeah- and don't eat whatever you want while pregnant! Lol

2005... I was 15 going on 16. I don't regret my oldest child but I do wish I had the will power to wait a while longer! I was a baby giving birth to a baby! Word of advice for those young people below 18 who want to have a child, WAIT! I was only starting my teenage years and I still have never been able to do all the things I would have wanted.

BUT to relive any year, would be the year I was promoted to Polynesian princess in 2007!

2008... my mother died that summer. It does no good to relive all the things I would have done differently but I've been doing that since 2008. I would have taken her to different doctors, acted faster, taken it more seriously. Held her hand as she was dying instead of standing there crying like a damn fool.

I can totally relate to your post.

2007- the year I got fat

2005. I "joined" the "funeral of the month club" that year. I lost twelve family members/friends in twelve months. Really sucked.

I got to ask, why do something over... I am not under the assumption everything would change, or even the "butterfly effect". I am how ever, under the assumption everything happens for a reason. Whether it's God's own plan, fate, or the random luck. I would love to go back and redo some things. But in doing so, do we go back with the knowledge we have now, or the knowledge we had then... if the latter then what would have changed? If the first, then why not just go farther back in time, and stop the assassinations of countless people.... stop the first murder... the first lie... the first rape? Where would we stop?

I got to ask, why do something over... I am not under the assumption everything would change, or even the "butterfly effect". I am how ever, under the assumption everything happens for a reason. Whether it's God's own plan, fate, or the random luck. I would love to go back and redo some things. But in doing so, do we go back with the knowledge we have now, or the knowledge we had then... if the latter then what would have changed? If the first, then why not just go farther back in time, and stop the assassinations of countless people.... stop the first murder... the first lie... the first rape? Where would we stop?

*HUGS*

Its just a thread. Your opinion is appreciated as well, Im sure!

*hugs*

I know, I didn't mean to kill the thread. The question was what year would you do over... I guess I should have just put down none

1975.. i had a twin sister that died at birth, always feel like 1/2 of me is missing.

or

1994..qutting college to be with a guy

1978