Is it wrong that I have noticed more female attention ?

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super_monty
super_monty Posts: 419 Member
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I am married and very loyal. Since the weight loss I have noticed more female attention and I like it is it wrong to use it as motivation.
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  • steamlita
    steamlita Posts: 39 Member
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    It's interesting that you're more motivated... how does your wife feel about your body's changes? Is she giving you more attention too?
  • onikonor
    onikonor Posts: 473 Member
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    You can like it and feel flattered just don't get carried away ....lol
  • victoria4321
    victoria4321 Posts: 1,719 Member
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    It's fine just don't take the bait if they hit on you. Also a simple thank you, but I'm married works well.

    You could even playfully flirt back as long as its clear its more joking. Like my dad could say stuff to women who hit on him like "thank you...35 years ago I'd make you my wife!" then everyone gets a laugh lol. I don't see anything wrong with stuff like that.

    He's also said another one like "Thank you, but my wife said I'm not allowed to have another girlfriend" LOL
  • goblynn
    goblynn Posts: 152
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    Its natural to feel excite that someone might be giving you attention just don't lose sight of what is important to you. I would take their attention as a complement to your success, smile at them and then go hug your wife for supporting you through this adventure.
  • fraser112
    fraser112 Posts: 405
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    Yes this is a big problem

    Go back to feeling terrible about yourself before its to late
  • super_monty
    super_monty Posts: 419 Member
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    The lads will just give back hand comments(especially friends), girls seem to be more genuine.

    I wouldn't get carried away, I have never cheated on any g/f and never intend to, I love her to bits been with her for a long time.

    But I was also very shy when younger and lacked confidence so the girls would normally make a b-line for my friends so I find it quite interesting. One told me I had nice legs that has never happened before!!!!!!

    My wife doesn't really comment, or has given me any other 'attention', once I think she said something.
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
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    is it wrong to use it as motivation.

    no
  • victoria4321
    victoria4321 Posts: 1,719 Member
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    My wife doesn't really comment, or has given me any other 'attention', once I think she said something.
    This might be a problem, if anything.
  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
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    It is wrong. Really wrong. You must be disgusted by yourself for the remainder of your days! Kidding. No, nothing wrong with it, enjoy it - use it - don't act on it. Simple, right?
  • myfitnessnmhoy
    myfitnessnmhoy Posts: 2,105 Member
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    I am married and very loyal. Since the weight loss I have noticed more female attention and I like it is it wrong to use it as motivation.

    As long as the first (married and very loyal) remains true, the second is irrelevant. Obviously, you shouldn't do anything that upsets your wife, but it's OK to enjoy the attention.
  • Wonderob
    Wonderob Posts: 1,372 Member
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    Previously being attractive to women was a big motivation to get down the gym and lay off the cream cakes

    Nowdays as a very happily married man I find my motivation is to be healthy, live longer, and be fit enough to enjoy life with my wife. Of course I also want to look good for her too.

    That said, I would like to think that women would think I look good, however when I'm getting changed before football I'd like to think that guys would think I looked pretty good too. It doesn't mean that I want women to find me sexually attractive just as I certainly don't want the guys to find me sexually attractive

    I guess what I'm saying is that we all like to be admired by others, doesn't mean that we want to run off with them
  • super_monty
    super_monty Posts: 419 Member
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    I have never felt this good or as fit and it's improving, hopefully she may notice me more if when she sees I am getting attention from elsewhere.

    Damn right I will use it as motivation.

    Comical but one girl asked what I used for such good skin I said 'always a sharp razor!!!!!!!!!'
  • victoria4321
    victoria4321 Posts: 1,719 Member
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    I have never felt this good or as fit and it's improving, hopefully she may notice me more if when she sees I am getting attention from elsewhere.

    Damn right I will use it as motivation.

    Comical but one girl asked what I used for such good skin I said 'always a sharp razor!!!!!!!!!'

    You should tell her that you like compliments. Maybe she's thinking it and not sharing it with you. It's probably stepping into a bit of of a danger zone to be hoping that she'll see you getting more attention and possibly get jealous.
  • super_monty
    super_monty Posts: 419 Member
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    I hope she does get a bit jelous!
  • victoria4321
    victoria4321 Posts: 1,719 Member
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    I hope she does get a bit jelous!

    Well, then you're a jerk. Maybe she won't get jealous, maybe she'll just find another guy that girls aren't all over lol!
  • samra2012
    samra2012 Posts: 715
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    Yes this is a big problem

    Go back to feeling terrible about yourself before its to late
    "These" Im going back to be like I was just to make my husband happy.... right! :noway: :noway: :noway:
    shes jelous!
  • takingnameskickingbutt
    takingnameskickingbutt Posts: 232 Member
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    As my mother says, "It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, just as long as you come home for dinner".
  • suavequeen
    suavequeen Posts: 273 Member
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    I don't think its bad to use it as motivation... keep it decent and fun and you will be ok.. Try struting your stuff like a peacock for your wife and see if thats gets her attention! :laugh:
  • umachanxo
    umachanxo Posts: 926 Member
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    I'm also noticing this. I'm happily married and have noticed that I get more attention from men. Though, my co worker says that's just because I'm a newly wed haha.

    But, as long as you're not crossing any lines or boundaries, I don't see a problem in letting it boost your self esteem.

    My husband also pays more attention since my weight loss. He would never admit it, but I definitely notice a difference.
  • TammyC
    TammyC Posts: 2
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    My husband and I both have lost a lot of weight. He has become a jerk - hitting on every woman he sees. Our marriage of 31 years is almost ruined. So be careful.

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