Really, you think it is the same.....seriously!!!!
mgs68pony
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Ok, I have to vent! I have been working out and eating more healthy for about 11 weeks consistantly and since Jan off and on to April. I have lost 16 pounds and about 15 inches (I haven't checked measurements in the last two weeks) and down from a size 14 to a 10-8. My coworker was in my classroom during conference today and was asking me about how things were going...........
I told him that things were going well, but I was no longer focusing on the number on the scale but how my clothes fit. I was feeling proud of all my work and then.....
.....he kind of stammers around and informs me that his wife has lost 53 pounds and could now wear a size 10 down from an 18. I was kind of taken a back. I told him "wow that is great and wanted to know how she was doing it" . He told me "just watching her calories and doing a little walking" I said "wow, I am working my tail off and things still aren't working that well for me" Then he let it slip that she was taking diet pills. My response to this comment was......well I have decided to loose mine the old fashioned way........lots of hard work, plus I wanted to do this to be healthy and that taking those can not be good for you or you could just get them any where.
I mean does he really think her accomplishments are the same as mine? My theory is anyone can loose weight if your taking diet pills. I don't mean to step on anyones toes or make any enemies.
I just felt like he was putting me down because she had accomplished so much more and it hurt my feelings and........mad me very mad! I hope he decided to stay in his room tomorrow!
I told him that things were going well, but I was no longer focusing on the number on the scale but how my clothes fit. I was feeling proud of all my work and then.....
.....he kind of stammers around and informs me that his wife has lost 53 pounds and could now wear a size 10 down from an 18. I was kind of taken a back. I told him "wow that is great and wanted to know how she was doing it" . He told me "just watching her calories and doing a little walking" I said "wow, I am working my tail off and things still aren't working that well for me" Then he let it slip that she was taking diet pills. My response to this comment was......well I have decided to loose mine the old fashioned way........lots of hard work, plus I wanted to do this to be healthy and that taking those can not be good for you or you could just get them any where.
I mean does he really think her accomplishments are the same as mine? My theory is anyone can loose weight if your taking diet pills. I don't mean to step on anyones toes or make any enemies.
I just felt like he was putting me down because she had accomplished so much more and it hurt my feelings and........mad me very mad! I hope he decided to stay in his room tomorrow!
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That's the whole diet mentality. Just being healthy and learning how to do it is more important that speedy weight loss. Keep doing what you are doing. You're doing great.0
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Don't take it too personally. If sounds as though you have made some fantastic changes in your life and that should mean that you get healthy and stay healthy for the long term.
Remember that whatever actions someone else has chosen doesn't take away from your accomplishments. Be proud of the changes you've made and accept that different people choose different paths and often have different outcomes.0 -
That's the whole diet mentality. Just being healthy and learning how to do it is more important that speedy weight loss. Keep doing what you are doing. You're doing great.
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thanks! I was just floored!0 -
I have a "friend" who started dieting with the help of phentermine around the same time I started my lifestyle change. She immediately lost 11 lbs in one month while I was averaging a 1-1.5 lb per week loss during the same month. When we were visiting and catching up one day she commented on my low loss amount and said I needed to go to my doctor and get some phentermine because it would really help me. I just smiled and said "no thanks." Then she proceeded to call me obsessive because I log everything I eat every day and said I was crazy for getting up at 5:30 am to exercise.
She quit taking the phentermine about 6 weeks ago. She has since gained all the weight she lost back and then some. I still haven't lost as much as she had, but I'm losing at a steady rate, eating healthy and exercising every day. I feel better at 29 than I did at 18!0 -
Don't take it too personally. If sounds as though you have made some fantastic changes in your life and that should mean that you get healthy and stay healthy for the long term.
Remember that whatever actions someone else has chosen doesn't take away from your accomplishments. Be proud of the changes you've made and accept that different people choose different paths and often have different outcomes.
Thank you! It is just aggravating!0 -
First time i lost my weight I used a doc prescribed drug for only one month to help me get over the hump if you will. It worked. This time around the same drug and my body don't like each other.
Each person has to do it their own way I guess but to answer your question its not the same thing. You are working your butt off fighting for every pound you loss. This time around I too am doing it "the old fashion way" so i feel your paid. Don't let someone who has no clue what your fighting for to discourage your progress.0 -
You are doing it the right way. You are not on a diet, you made a lifestyle change. She is taking pills, and "walking a little". Once she runs out of pills, she will gian that weight back, and probably a little more than she had when she started. You are doing it the healthy way, through exercise and proper eating habits. You won't run out of that..lol0
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I have a "friend" who started dieting with the help of phentermine around the same time I started my lifestyle change. She immediately lost 11 lbs in one month while I was averaging a 1-1.5 lb per week loss during the same month. When we were visiting and catching up one day she commented on my low loss amount and said I needed to go to my doctor and get some phentermine because it would really help me. I just smiled and said "no thanks." Then she proceeded to call me obsessive because I log everything I eat every day and said I was crazy for getting up at 5:30 am to exercise.
She quit taking the phentermine about 6 weeks ago. She has since gained all the weight she lost back and then some. I still haven't lost as much as she had, but I'm losing at a steady rate, eating healthy and exercising every day. I feel better at 29 than I did at 18!
I know my husband said to tell her to be sure to save all those size 18 clothes because as soon as she quit taking them she would be bak in them. haha0 -
You are doing it the right way. You are not on a diet, you made a lifestyle change. She is taking pills, and "walking a little". Once she runs out of pills, she will gian that weight back, and probably a little more than she had when she started. You are doing it the healthy way, through exercise and proper eating habits. You won't run out of that..lol
Thank you!0 -
Don't take it too personally. If sounds as though you have made some fantastic changes in your life and that should mean that you get healthy and stay healthy for the long term.
Remember that whatever actions someone else has chosen doesn't take away from your accomplishments. Be proud of the changes you've made and accept that different people choose different paths and often have different outcomes.
Thank you! It is just aggravating!
Yup, I would have been pissed off too. Hopefully this vent has got it out of your system and you can keep on with those positive changes
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Had a girl at work enter the biggest loser competition they have and went on a liquid diet to lose a bunch quick. She ended up winning, suprise suprise, but to me it just seemed like she was cheating, since the others in the competition were actually working hard to lose their weight. Exactly why I didn't enter when I heard her talking about entering and either doing the liquid diet or HCG. Just doesn't seem fair to the rest of the people doing it the right way.0
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Remember that whatever actions someone else has chosen doesn't take away from your accomplishments. Be proud of the changes you've made and accept that different people choose different paths and often have different outcomes.
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Wow.. well guess what- you are EARNING your body. It will be so much better for you than just popping a pill. Sorry to be so blunt.... but also put it this way: She is taking little pills to make her lose weight. You are working out. She is going to have a bunch more body fat than you are because you working out= muscle. You will be toned, and healthy. You will burn more calories naturally with more muscle. Being healthy and in shape takes a lot of effort.
I can see why you felt the way you did, but try to not take it too personally because you are doing things in a healthy manner. It's a lifestyle change, not a quick fix. If you want to be healthy for the long term, in the long run, then a lifestyle change is the right way to go. To each his/her own, though. As long as she's happy with her choices, that's what matters for her. 0 -
I would never take diet pills, but if she is also changing her lifestyle I think it's wrong to completely downplay her work. Just like other people have lost weight a lot faster than me without diet pills. Does that mean they are better? No. That they worked harder? No. It means their weight came off easier and that's all. You will kill your spirit if you compare yourself to everyone else and need to marginalize their accomplishment to feel better about yours
Edit: typed on an iPhone
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I don't really understand why this bothered you so much. 50lbs is still a lot, regardless of diet pills or not. And either way, it's not relevant to how much you've lost. It's not a competition.0
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I think you sound like a rude person. Your initial post didn't give me a good impression and this one just takes it a little further.I have a "friend" who started dieting with the help of phentermine around the same time I started my lifestyle change. She immediately lost 11 lbs in one month while I was averaging a 1-1.5 lb per week loss during the same month. When we were visiting and catching up one day she commented on my low loss amount and said I needed to go to my doctor and get some phentermine because it would really help me. I just smiled and said "no thanks." Then she proceeded to call me obsessive because I log everything I eat every day and said I was crazy for getting up at 5:30 am to exercise.
She quit taking the phentermine about 6 weeks ago. She has since gained all the weight she lost back and then some. I still haven't lost as much as she had, but I'm losing at a steady rate, eating healthy and exercising every day. I feel better at 29 than I did at 18!
I know my husband said to tell her to be sure to save all those size 18 clothes because as soon as she quit taking them she would be bak in them. haha0 -
Yep, and once she reaches her goal weight and stops taking those pills, she's gonna gain it all back. Unlike you. I wouldn't let it get to you.0
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I'm prouder of people who are taking charge of their life and working hard for their weight loss. For us, we are mentally ready to change our eating habits therefore more of a life change, that lasts.
Others (i feel) have a longer road to travel because they are not trully facing their weight gain reasons. I could be wrong and not everyone is the same. I just tell them, well done with a smile. Then again, I am not a fan of weight watchers either. lol0 -
I might be confused and please pardon me but it sounds like HE is the one that should be mad at you.
From the sound of it, he shared with you, a colleague who was on topic, how his wife has also dropped a few lbs. I don't see how it can be hurtful for you that he mentioned his wifes achievement after you mentioned yours. He is not in the wrong for sharing that...
Then you bash on him/his wife for taking pills? Now, thats just judgmental. Most of us on MFP know that diet pills don't work, or you regain the weight and sometimes can even be harmful but...thats no way to tell him that. And you even admitted that you were hurt and I can imagine you didn't told him politely about the diet pills. Just say "Wow thats amazing weight loss. But I heard some of those pills can be harmful" or something along the lines.
I rarely say something like this but sound to me that you were wrong. But then again, I wasn't there so what do I know0 -
Don't take it too personally. If sounds as though you have made some fantastic changes in your life and that should mean that you get healthy and stay healthy for the long term.
Remember that whatever actions someone else has chosen doesn't take away from your accomplishments. Be proud of the changes you've made and accept that different people choose different paths and often have different outcomes.
I agree with this. It sounds like you did a wonderful things getting to where you are. I think all of us here know it is hard to lose the weight. With that said, everyone does it their own way. You never know how she is using those pills. Her use of diet pills in no way takes away from what you did, but to each their own.0 -
I have a "friend" who started dieting with the help of phentermine around the same time I started my lifestyle change. She immediately lost 11 lbs in one month while I was averaging a 1-1.5 lb per week loss during the same month. When we were visiting and catching up one day she commented on my low loss amount and said I needed to go to my doctor and get some phentermine because it would really help me. I just smiled and said "no thanks." Then she proceeded to call me obsessive because I log everything I eat every day and said I was crazy for getting up at 5:30 am to exercise.
She quit taking the phentermine about 6 weeks ago. She has since gained all the weight she lost back and then some. I still haven't lost as much as she had, but I'm losing at a steady rate, eating healthy and exercising every day. I feel better at 29 than I did at 18!
I know my husband said to tell her to be sure to save all those size 18 clothes because as soon as she quit taking them she would be bak in them. haha
Yeah.....sorry but seriously you are just plain wrong and spiteful.0 -
I know how you feel(if he was comparing your hard work to his wife's use of just pills anyways), after my cousin saw me losing weight she wanted to do it too, so she started, and a few months into it i had gained some weight from the birth control i was taking and she asked me if i was taking phentermine like she was. I said no, she then asked why and i said because i didn't want to and she told me well thats just stupid, if you can take a pill to help you lose weight why not do it. I told her, no whats stupid is relying on a pill to lose the weight for you then gaining it back once you get off the pill and are still eating the same as you did before instead of teaching yourself how to eat right and keep the weight off a meal for her is a large Starbucks coffee and a whole package of twizzlers. I was so pissed, but i got over it and i am sure you will too. I wouldn't worry to much about it some other people just don't have the same understanding of getting healthy or losing weight.0
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Why does it matter to you? She is doing well and you are doing well. You should be encouraging eachother not hating on her for not doing it the "old fashioned way." She may gain it all back and she may have used it as a jumpstart to a new healthy lifestyle. It shouldnt matter to you. It doesnt really make a difference to your life and your progress. I would never tell someone who lost weight through diet pills/weightloss surgery etc that they are somehow less because they didnt have it as hard as me. Just be proud of yourself and wish for the best.0
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Yes. Losing weight is losing weight. You have no idea how much it makes my blood boil when someone say they're losing the old fashioned way to me. It's like a put down that I had surgery. Like they are better than me. Its BS.0
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Think of it this way: You're doing something that you can maintain healthfully for the rest of your life. She, however, can't take diet pills forever unless she wants to die of heart failure. Keep up the good work!0
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it's okay, she'll gain it back asap because she doesn't know how to eat properly or workout.
plus losing too fast = excess skin0 -
I have a "friend" who started dieting with the help of phentermine around the same time I started my lifestyle change. She immediately lost 11 lbs in one month while I was averaging a 1-1.5 lb per week loss during the same month. When we were visiting and catching up one day she commented on my low loss amount and said I needed to go to my doctor and get some phentermine because it would really help me. I just smiled and said "no thanks." Then she proceeded to call me obsessive because I log everything I eat every day and said I was crazy for getting up at 5:30 am to exercise.
She quit taking the phentermine about 6 weeks ago. She has since gained all the weight she lost back and then some. I still haven't lost as much as she had, but I'm losing at a steady rate, eating healthy and exercising every day. I feel better at 29 than I did at 18!
I know my husband said to tell her to be sure to save all those size 18 clothes because as soon as she quit taking them she would be bak in them. haha
Yeah.....sorry but seriously you are just plain wrong and spiteful.
I agree with taunto. Spreading hateful thoughts and being jealous does not help anyone. Be happy for her. There is plenty of good in the world for everyone to have some. Her success does not subtract from yours. Chillax.0 -
What does it matter what he thinks, if she's taking diet pills, or you or not? Her weight loss is her fish to fry, and your's is your's. You aren't doing it for his appraisal, you're doing it for you. Different people need different avenues to help them achieve a slender frame. You shouldn't down her for her choices any more than he should for your's. I could give two craps less what people think of how i'm losing mine. One of my dear friends lost over 100 lbs using HCG & has now kept it off for a year. I celebrate her accomplishment. She celebrates my loss and encourages me to finish. Different strokes for different folks.0
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My theory is anyone can loose weight if your taking diet pills.
:huh: If that were true, nobody would be overweight.0
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