Most annoying NSV ever.

Maybe it's just me, but I don't find a man slow-rolling up behind me in his car and saying something akin to, "would you like some fries with that shake?" particularly flattering. it feels a lot like assault, tbh. there are nice ways to let a girl know you find her attractive, and then there's street harassment.

Assault????? :noway:

Thank you. I barely survived an assault. I will never be able to be with someone without having to explain why I am covered in scars, or explain why I have parts that don't work properly because of damage in the assault. So it's annoying, it's bothersome, it's creepy, it's nervewracking, it's unsettling, it's all kinds of things (potentially even dangerous). But it's absolutely nothing like assault, tbh.


Sorry for the rant-carry on.

I'm sorry for what's happened to you. Sexual assault and abuse is an awful, terrible thing that nobody should ever have to go to. But assault doesn't have to be this extreme. I was assaulted by a drunk college guy on the way back to my dorm and yes, when a creepy man comes up behind me and makes me feel incredibly unsafe or grabs my behind or makes it seem like he would definitely be willing to get out of the car and come after me, it does feel like sexual assault. It comes down to a person who is unwilling to respect your wishes and understand the word "no".

You are correct and I agree that all of the situations you describe feel very much like assault because the risk of physical harm is there. The post that I was responding to seems to be implying that the unflattering comment alone feels like assault. Perhaps my experience has clouded my judgement, but I don't find unflattering comments to feel like much more than an annoyance. If there is the inkling of a feeling of the real risk of physical harm-then my alarm bells go off in full force. That didn't seem to be the situation being described in the post to which I was responding. I agree that each of the situations you described would send my alarm bells ringing-but an unflattering and ridiculous comment from an idiot in a car (again-without any other factors)-no, that doesn't cause my alarm bells to go off and I can't possibly begin to reconcile how that would feel like assault. I certainly have felt nothing in common between the two experiences when some idiot has made comments to me from his car.

My point was to agree with you and to say that perhaps my experience has clouded how I view things-but now it seems like I'm arguing. I don't mean to and I promise I'm stepping out now and you can all carry on.

This type of behavior is normal for 'boys' , not men,,,.. especially if your on "foot patrol".

Well said.

I never have this happen to me. Maybe I'm too old.

Take it for the complement it is. You've apparently done well. This is the pay off.

It would actually scare the crap out of me and would make me stop walking that route.

My wife and I are were walking with our 2 year old son in a downtown beach area and this group of obviously intoxicated probably 4 or 5 guys (half of them with their shirts off, why do you do that when you are hanging out with other guys?) and they were just yelling comments at an employee of a restaurant across the street.

If I could have legally gotten away with it I would have hit them with a truck ... but that pesky law thing.

I can see how quickly a sexual assault by multiple men would occur, not much stopping a group of inebriated shirtless men trying to prove their machismo.

I'll be honest, I can't remember the last time a man (besides my husband) paid me any attention based on my looks.

I had the same thing happen to me....by a cop.....he was drinking a coffee while driving very slowly past me and hanging his head out the window and grinning and kind of slowly nodding his head as if to say "niiice" lol! He didn't ask for my number though. But still made me feel good (even though I was kind of weirded out) :happy:

Sexual harassment by a public service employee. Nice.

I've been getting it more lately (never really used too before). Not a fan. I find it obnoxious most of the time. Especially some of the looks or cat calls I get when I'm driving my husband's truck.

Last year, the dude working the counter at the gas station hit on me while I was with my 9 year (who happened to be dressed in his shoulder pads/gear on his way to his football game). Here's how it went down:

Dude to Nolan: Is that your mom?

Nolan: Yeah.

Dude: You sure are lucky to have such a hot mom...

Nolan: Yeah. I live with her. I know how hot she is. I don't need some guy who works at a gas station using me to hit on my mom.

Nolan to me: Can we get our gas somewhere else, please? (and then he stomped out the door)


Ouch. :drinker:

Your son rules! That is perfect.