How can u find the right guy.

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  • christamt
    christamt Posts: 48 Member
    Look at the OPPOSITE of what you usually look at. Wow, there he is!! Its true, works I am proof. So is my sister!
  • JBott84
    JBott84 Posts: 268 Member
    Here's a question how can I guy fall in love with special needs ?


    Has to be the right guy - you mentioned a good christian boy....Try Church! and there are a lot of churches out there...
  • mfp_junkie
    mfp_junkie Posts: 359
    I here this Intraweb thing is catching on. Someone should build a site to meet people..maybe a dating site. Betcha you could make some cash with that idea.
  • Coyla
    Coyla Posts: 444 Member
    my bestfriend told me this stop looking! when you stop looking you will find him. so for me I quit looking and will just wait

    This hasn't yet worked for me. I stopped looking for five years, and nada. But when you live in a small town like me, where people get married straight out of high school or not at all, if you don't look, you won't find anything.

    If only single men were dropped out of planes with parachutes. It would make things easier.

    My current strategy is to make friends and enjoy the single life.
  • EBFNP
    EBFNP Posts: 529 Member
    BE the person you want to find; Don't be a NICKEL out there looking for a DIME- Lyfe Jennings...
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  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    I found boyfriends and then my husband by getting out there and meeting people. You aren't going to meet a guy by sitting around waiting.
  • willy79
    willy79 Posts: 11
    Firstly don't go looking for a good guy in a bar or a betting shop. Don't seem too keen, keen can look like needy. Be yourself and don't look too hard. If u look too hard you pull a nutcase or cyco. Trust me I've found both types of women looking too hard. SCARY
  • kikiboniki
    kikiboniki Posts: 398 Member
    I found boyfriends and then my husband by getting out there and meeting people. You aren't going to meet a guy by sitting around waiting.

    exactly, you have to get out there and meet people. Change your social patterns if you feel like there is "nobody out there." Unless you fall in the love with the fed ex man, hes not just gonna magically appear.

    and I am still looking as well, so I understand the frustration. I, like the OP am looking for a good Christian guy to settle down with. I'm currently reading a book called "How to get a Date Worth Keeping" by Henry Cloud, and it has some really great stuff in there that is changing my perspective on dating drastically. I would recommend it to the OP =)
  • iAMaPhoenix
    iAMaPhoenix Posts: 1,038 Member
    Why are YOU looking for the right Christian guy? Doesn't that Book you read say something like..."He who findeth a wife findeth a good thing". I am not a religious expert, but I think that means you need to get your shyt in order until he comes along, or he is sent to you by Him... or am I way off base whice I am most of the time.
  • Ready2Rock206
    Ready2Rock206 Posts: 9,487 Member
    my bestfriend told me this stop looking! when you stop looking you will find him. so for me I quit looking and will just wait

    This hasn't yet worked for me. I stopped looking for five years, and nada. But when you live in a small town like me, where people get married straight out of high school or not at all, if you don't look, you won't find anything.

    If only single men were dropped out of planes with parachutes. It would make things easier.

    My current strategy is to make friends and enjoy the single life.

    Going outside to look for men falling from the sky..... (that would be most excellent)
  • skinyZ
    skinyZ Posts: 89 Member
    i needs the right guy :sad:
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    Why are YOU looking for the right Christian guy? Doesn't that Book you read say something like..."He who findeth a wife findeth a good thing". I am not a religious expert, but I think that means you need to get your shyt in order until he comes along, or he is sent to you by Him... or am I way off base whice I am most of the time.
    Yes, you are way off base.
  • litatura
    litatura Posts: 569 Member
    I'm the wrong guy. Hi.

    Ha, perhaps you could be the right now guy then. :drinker:
  • kikiboniki
    kikiboniki Posts: 398 Member
    Here's a question how can I guy fall in love with special needs ?


    Has to be the right guy - you mentioned a good christian boy....Try Church! and there are a lot of churches out there...
    Stay Far Far Far Far Far Far Far away from church...That is where hypocrites like me go to find desperate women like you.

    wow, overgeneralize much?
  • dvisser1
    dvisser1 Posts: 788 Member
    I'm a 36 yr old bachelor. Let me tell you straight up that the whole when you stop looking for him he will show up thing is a bunch of BS. Unless your perfect guy works for UPS, doubtful he's going to come knocking on your door. Get out there and look, maybe even ask a guy out....a lot of us do kind of like that. Don't try to be subtle and coy about getting a particular guy to come ask for your number. 99% of men won't even notice what you think is so obvious.

    Life is what happens when you're off making other plans. So, do you want to live life or sit around making plans for if Mr Right ever shows up?
  • Notorious_T
    Notorious_T Posts: 384
    I stopped looking and focused on myself for a change. I pursued my own interests and socialized with friends (and made new ones). I dated a little, but nothing too serious. Then - out of the clear blue sky - bam! I met him. I told him I was a busy person, that I didn't want a boyfriend or anything serious, that I didn't have time in my life.... but it didn't work.

    So here we are four years later (almost to the day) and are still incredibly happy together.


    awwww congrats!!!
  • fitforlife34
    fitforlife34 Posts: 331 Member
    I wish I can find t he right guy. I am 33 in a couple months, and it gets scary,a fraid of being lonely. All my friends my age are married with kids. I just got out of a year relationship that really wasn't heading anywhere. I'm very picky about who I date and marry. I want to be happy, not divorced and unhappy with the wrong person.
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    Be the right girl.
    this and stop waiting. get out and enjoy your life.
  • LeggyKettleBabe
    LeggyKettleBabe Posts: 300 Member
    stop looking.

    women should be pursued

    men are hunters -- women are queens
  • _Ivian
    _Ivian Posts: 198
    As of lately, I am convinced...they find you, even when it seems improbable. :smile:
  • sktllmdrhmz
    sktllmdrhmz Posts: 1,799 Member
    What about Mr. Right Now? I've always been better at that one.
  • pj12string
    pj12string Posts: 128 Member
    If you want the right guy, be the right girl. Be a proverbs 31 woman. The right guy will be looking for this.
  • Jesiena
    Jesiena Posts: 48 Member
    For me, it happened when I gave up on men and relationships.
  • Im a firm believer that when you stop looking, he will turn up!! He is out there somewhere, but us girls have to kiss many frogs before we find our Knight in shining armour :)

    That is why most these ladies got warts because they are kissing toads. OOOOOooooo So burned.
  • hesn92
    hesn92 Posts: 5,966 Member
    date a bunch of guys until you find a good one.
  • Women are to picky they are looking for Zeus or Jebus to float on a cloud that rains money. YOU ARE NOT PERFECT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You just need to look past some of the flaws ladies and learn to be more acceptant of people instead of being all judgmental and discriminative.
  • SingeSange
    SingeSange Posts: 98 Member
    don't quite need the Knight .... imagining polishing the armour every night!:yawn:

    LOL. Good call!
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    <<-- Currently accepting applications for the right guy. Wiling to consider a few of the wrong ones too. :wink:
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
    A mentor in bible college always told the gals to "Chase after God and look back every once in a while to see who's keeping up with you."